patience wearing thin :(

theres a cancerian guy i like. hes not very flirty with me but i read somewhere they dont flirt with people they really like??
anyways i went to see his band play the other nite and he stayed chatting with me and my friend pretty much all nite. msg'd me the next day saying it was nice to see me. and invited me to a gig this weekend too. a few weeks ago he invited me to his friends house party and even said i could bring friends/stay over his if i wanted (i live in a different town). he puts three x's at the end of his msgs online.

but he never texts me. and i liked him before and we went out for a drink but nothing came of it so i had to move on.

since he got back in touch recently he has gotten under my skin so bad. i cant stop thinking about him 😢 (im pisces/aries cusp) i think its because i dont get enough attention from him. like the things i mentioned above kinda suggests he might like me. but how do i get him to open up to me??

i get lots of flirty attention from scorpios/ leos/ aries but i want this cancer boy to sit up and take notice of me! i like him so much but feel starved of attention from him, n it gets me so down 😢

how to i get cancer/encourage him discretely to pay me more attention and step up? so he ends up doing it off his own back.

i know you cant MAKE anyone do anything but any words of encouragement/suggestions?

How long have you known this guy??

we have only met up twice in person (which seems rational not to get too involved at this point)

we started talkin in march (i initiated it) online (we are from the same town, have friends in common but went to different uni's)

eventually after lots of talking i told him i liked him, and he said that he liked me a lot too.

we went for a drink during easter break, and we said we'd do it again.

but went back to uni to do our finals and he never text or made much of an effort to communicate with me, so for my own sanity (im kinda impatient) i had to move on.

he's recently got back in touch, inviting me to these gigs and parties kinda hinting he wants to see me.

but im used to guys being forward and asking me out, texting and msging me all the time and being flirty. so if he doesnt do these things, does it mean he doesnt like me that way—

ps. i went horse riding yest and then he asked me on IM how it went etc and he said he wouldnt mind trying it one day....—

i just want to get to know him, but it kinda feels like hes holding me at arms length? or too lazy to make a move on me

I don't think he's being lazy nor holding back, he's just not very direct which many cancers as myself aren't. I think you should pull him to the horse riding and clearly he's telling you he want's to, i think he's shy even though he's a musician, they are still very shy people. Invite him to the horse riding and see how he respond!

maybe he has a lot of stuff going on in his life right now. he is in a band and probably has a lot of other stuff he is tending to. sometimes we get so engulfed in our lives we don't think of anyone else. do you know if he is talking or seeing any other girls? being a cancer i know he wont give you a direct answer but mmight be worth asking..also, if you are expecting forwardness you aren't going to get it from a cancer until we are truly sure of what we want..

thanks for all your advice peeps but iv made up my mind and i am moving on this guy is just not worth it!!

i txt him earlier asking how he was and what he was up to, and got no reply!!!

yet now i am home and online, i see that about 10mins after i txt him, he messaged someone on facebook. sooo if he didnt txt me back because a lack of mobile credit then he could have responded on facebook, but nope nada nil. and he just came on facebook IM and again nothing.

he may be busy and have a lot of, but i am a very busy lady myself but i still take the time to text people back even if im in the middle of something. thats just rude of him

yep i am aries technically although i was supposed to be pisces and ended up on the first day of aries instead. so generally i feel more pisces than aries lol- water sign? also, he has a few fire signs in his chart.

anyways just an update. hes just text me back about 3 hours after i text him. he said something about being out with his grandparents today and forgetting his phone.

hmmm what 22yr old forgets their phone these days lol. not sure if hes txt after seeing my status on facebook about hating it when people dont txt back!

now i dont know what to do— do i not bother replying?
or do i reply, only for him to reply late or not at all.
this all seems like snail pace and i just wana stop thinking about him because its not healthyfeeling to me.
is there any way to give a cancer guy a kick up the backside?
because i get the feeling that if im direct with him i will get no response and he'l just grab his shell and disappear.

Why are you so impatient?? He doesn't seem to have done anything wrong and is taking his time. Dont see nothing wrong with that. Do you know that a guys week is like our hour? And he does reply back to you in his own time and all you do is doubt him...think you have the problem here! These other guys that throw themselves at you...you arent interested in right? But the one that you are interested in you want to rush to the alter...sit back relax and get on with your own life instead of trying to force his hand...good things come to those who wait, cos he sounds like someone worth the extra time!

sweathearts- what you say is very true and when i think rationally and say it outloud i know that theres nothing wrong with him talking it slow. it is me thats the problem im very impatient (a trait that i hate) i am also a big worrier and overanalyse things (Pisces trait) plus im a dreamer so i tend to be 10 steps ahead of reality in my head. *big sigh*

i will try and not let him in on my impatientness. hopefully it will be worth the wait

Posted by cleopatra
im very impatient (a trait that i hate) i am also a big worrier and overanalyse things (Pisces trait) plus im a dreamer so i tend to be 10 steps ahead of reality in my head. *big sigh*

This is your main problem here as you have stated. So now that you recognise it isn't it best to self correct. Stop analysing his every move and making up reasons why he is or isn't doing things like not talking to you if you are both online. There could be dozens of reasons, I myself sign in to FB but surf other sites or get busy doing something else and have come back and someone has tried to talk to me but then gone offline. texting same thing, todays technology! You cant feel and see the way the person is till they are staring you in the face. So go off the way you feel when you are with him. And one other thing, if a guy feels rushed it can make them do an about turn and go in the opposite direction!

So take it slow and enjoy the dating, thats the best part of all.