RANDOM MESSAGES

After a breakup, why do Cancers continue to send the random messages? Why not just make a clean break and move on? What if the other person NEEDS the clean break, how do you help the Cancer understand that?

Because we have issues with LEtting go, and we find friends in everyone.
The random messages are also ways to either say we are thinking about you or even our way of dealing with it, and using it as a mechanism to weeeen off of you.

If we could figure that out about Cancers then we could understand the constant bombing done by Clueless Cancer. It must be hard for them to let go.

It is,, and we always seem to have something else to say.
I am guilty of this..SO!

Mother and crying.

Mostly because you broke up with them. Cancers have a really REALLY hard time with rejection. They will stalk the shit out of your stuff too. LOL! My bff and my sister are both Cancers (Im Gemini weird right) they both are guilty as sin for this. They also are super nostalgic and like to relive the past, constantly walking down memory lane.

Posted by MissLibra
After a breakup, why do Cancers continue to send the random messages? Why not just make a clean break and move on? What if the other person NEEDS the clean break, how do you help the Cancer understand that?

jesus. they had feelings for you, or they loved you. Those feelings don't just DIE overnight.

The reasons why you had loved/cared for them in the first place was the very reason you are NOW mewling about.

Give them time to heal.

Posted by silentkiller

Posted by Xin
Mostly because you broke up with them. Cancers have a really REALLY hard time with rejection. They will stalk the shit out of your stuff too. LOL! My bff and my sister are both Cancers (Im Gemini weird right) they both are guilty as sin for this. They also are super nostalgic and like to relive the past, constantly walking down memory lane.

Not if they broke up with you, right? Trust me, it feels VERY different the other way around. Cold man, and then I'm the stalker😄 But I'm half scorp half sag, so stalking is just my thaaaang.

But I don't think, it Means they want you back though. When they contact you. It's like they don't get, that that's what it COULD mean. Always trying to be the nice person, I think. Not realizing that other people will percieve kindness as romantic interest. ...

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Cancer pulled away from me, then we did the push/pull for months. It seemed to me that he was playing games so I told him I was done. Then he said he will be my friend and that's it. After everything that had transpired over a couple of months, the games, the disappearing, not communicating, come here/go away...he wants to be friends. I love him. I want to be with him. Staying in contact at this point will just rip my heart to shreds over and over. I've told him this. I need to disconnect. Maybe after some time passes I can be his friend but not right now. I do not see his texts as romantic gestures. I see them as him wanting what he wants and not considering my feelings.

Posted by mr.crabby
Mother and crying.

Will you elaborate on this please?

Oh so he broke it off with you? Yeah its the nostalgia part. Cancers cling to the past regardless if they broke up with you. That annoys me. Like oh break up with me but continue to contact? I think you should just ignore him. It was his choice that means breaking up includes contact.

Posted by Xin
Oh so he broke it off with you? Yeah its the nostalgia part. Cancers cling to the past regardless if they broke up with you. That annoys me. Like oh break up with me but continue to contact? I think you should just ignore him. It was his choice that means breaking up includes contact.

I have been ignoring him. Every day since then he's texted one simple inconsequential text. I have questions that are unanswered. I want answers. I want to be able to put this whole mess in a place without feeling angry about his behavior. The hurt will heal over time. Today I responded to his text and can you believe he came back immediately with anger and said he's done....but continued to text...he has agreed to answer questions later today, but as soon as he gets angry or emotional he will disappear again. I am trying to understand his, push/pull/retreat/pop back up like nothing ever happened, ways. He wants time to think. I give him time. Then he gets mad because I don't text or call when he thinks I should but does not communicate when he's finished with his down time. Very confusing.