Ready to give up...

First of all, I wish you all a happy new year and all the best for 2014 !

As a cancer and a fairly young one (21) , I need your advice on how to handle work and stress without falling into depression.I don't feel like going to work tomorrow and just want to sabotage everything my job, my studies , my family and social life etc.I can't manage everything without just getting depressed. This is the reason why I have sacrificed most of my time with my friends and family , I spent Christmas eve alone studying because I don't have the time when I'm working.
Next week I will be having my final exams and I've just managed to study half of it !

Plus my insecurities are getting in the way as well, I have never felt useful in any of the jobs that I have done before (Customer service mainly). When I was a waitress, I got yelled at constantly. Now I am a sales assistant and I don't like it either you do the same boring things EVERYDAY and get yelled at by clients.


I never thought I would feel this down some day , I cry everyday (which I never did before) and feel like sleeping all the time, I can't stop thinking about the good old times...My sag moon is giving up ! I have come to the realization that this job is not what I want. Should I just not go tomorrow? I have saved enough money for now ...


I need some serious advice please !

Hi CC,

I don't think they will. I just had a few days off for Christmas+new year

As for my studies, I have been granted a loan for my bachelor but I can't go over a certain amount since I have no guarantor. I've been granted a scholarship but just enough to get by.

What is the best way to cope with this feeling of being overwhelmed ?

Yep, sounds like you've got too much on your plate. How are you on working alone with a more flexible time schedule? And how much are you making per hr. doing what you're currently doing? How much do you need per week or month to plump up what the grant/loan pay for?

Here's what I'm thinking: Before I had kids I was self employed as a house keeper. I had 14-16 clients at any given time and did it for 9 years. Then I had kids and was a stay at home mom, husband's request. Well, divorced and need more than what child support and alimony pay so I'm going back to school so I don't have to need his checks in the future (I hate needing anything from that ass). I've started the house cleaning again because I can make the schedule around my kids plus school. I'm charging $ 20/hr. Shockingly there are people willing to pay it, even in this economy.

@ MoonArtist


I'm not sure about the minimum wage in the US but I earn half of it since I work only part time. This job is also related to my studies , there is actually a sort of partnership between my university and the company I work for.

If I quit I will have to have a good reason otherwise they won't take me back for my Masters.

I have not considered self employment because it means that I would spend a lot of time networking and the regulations here are quite strict when it comes to ...well for everything actually.Things are definitely different over here ...

Thank you all for your advice and support. I will try to focus on my exams for now.

That's the best thing to do, because your schooling is what will lead to you having a better job in your future. Just think of it this way: it's a temporary burden right now. Square those shoulders, set your jaw and power through it.

8) You are right. Thank you.

You need a better job.