scorpio woman: how to keep my cancer man?

i been with the same guy for 5 years, i'm 29, and he's 30 so we're not young, and I was dating his best friend for 2 years BEFORE him and i started dating..

we had our good times and our bad times, because we had many things that we needed to work out.. we had different backgrounds, religions, ethnic background, etc... so NOW that we took all our steps and finally convinced both our parents (almost), he's so distant, cold, he wants to travel all the time, he is spending far more time with his friends than me, and i don't know if it's 'cold feet' or it's just a phase, cuz from dealing with him for the past 5 years, he goes thru many phases, sometimes social, emotional, physical, it's all phases.. all or nothing in almost every aspect, what should i do— also, he loves me and respects me, but makes jokes about where i come from.. and he never shows me that he is supportive. i don't know if these are the qualities of most cancerian men or does he want us to break up but doesn't have the heart to tell me— please let me know what you think i should do.. keep in mind that i'm a typical scorpio, emotional sensitive, with bad temper and tendency to dramatize things.

Hmmm, don't know for sure, but he sounds a little self centered, he may love you, but he should not poke fun about where you came from, a sensitive crab should know better. As for the time away...hmmmm, sounds like he is craving independence, I say let him have it, lots of it, and let him see that you can have fun without him, if he senses a little insecurity about you having fun without him, not cheating though, he might just decide his independence could cost him you. If he comes back, it's cause he loves ya for sure, if he strays away, maybe it's cause he's longing to be free of the relationship.

Good luck!

On the other hand...maybe he just wants you to tie every limb of his to a bed post and dominatrix him.... 🙂

"On the other hand...maybe he just wants you to tie every limb of his to a bed post and dominatrix him.... "



Well,gee,don't you suck n stuff,sayin what I was thinking😛🙂Or maybe go out after him with a club and a kidnappin bag,knock him out,throw him over your shoulder,take him home and mount him literally(have him stuffed or figuratively sexually,its a double meaning word yanno).Crabs would make good end tables or somethin....and don't get me started on dinners😉

Its a hard call because we don't know this guy.

Generally speaking though, when a cancer gets distant its bad news. Is he normally affecionate and attentive or is this his MO (he may be a rising Virgo or something in which case this behavior would be "normal"

well, i found all the postings very helpful (at least most were relevant 🙂

when we first started going out he couldn't keep his hands off of me in public! that used to bother me SO MUCH, so then about 2 years ago, he switched, and he stopped being affectionate, in public AND private, so he just switched...

i'm very cuddly and i need reassurance and lately I initiate anything effectionate... he was never romantic though! both of us have our moon sign in pisces, his ascendant is LEO and mine is VIRGO! i didn't know that til now.. i'm overly analytical of everything he does, and he is overly protective of his own self/identity/needs and keeps thinkin i want to change him.. he still loves me so much, but i know he loves me so much that he wouldn't want to break free of the relationship no matter how uncomfortable our situation is, and to make matters worse, he HATES talkin about serious stuff! but when he drinks a little, all his plans and his thought are about us and our future and nothing else. so i dont know.. i get mixed signals always!

his ascendant is libra! not leo.. sorry about that

I agree with Vanessa,

Cancers are honest people when you ask them something direct. If they can't find a way to sugar-coat it, then it's naturally in them to tell the truth ... even if they don't want to 😉

Cnacers are some of the most honest people of the zodiac ... if you get them backed into a corner 😉 HAHAHAHAHA, same with capricorns 😛

just give him lots of sex..