Should I stay or should I go? (Crab guy confusion)

First of all, I've been stalking this forum for the past weeks,I just love it, you guys are awesome!

I have a problem; I'll try to keep it short and to the point. I've been with a cancer guy for about 3 months now and it was all pink and fluffy and awesome until we went at the seaside with some of his friends. He got over jealous and possessive on me spending maybe a bit too much time with a friend of his, who was just a generally funny person to hang with( I'm a Leo female, I love having funny people around me; I did not cheat and he knows this). He decided to broke up with me as soon as we got back home saying things that I broke his ego, that he had a LOT of girls before me and how he doesn't attach easily (this is where I realized his jealousy). He also added that a lot of his ex gf's were taken by his friends. I was heart broken because I still wanted him, I said I was deeply sorry for what I did (i really was) and that he's the only one I want. He said that he was done with me.

A few days passed and he began talking to me on Facebook, acting all nice towards me. When we met up, I dared to ask him where we stand and he said that he still likes me but he can't promise anything that he will not fulfill (I respect the sincerity). I told him that maybe we need a time apart in order for him to figure things out, figure out what he wants.

I haven't heard of him for another week. I read that crab guys need space so that's what I did. I gave (and I still do) him space. This weekend he said that he wanted to see me because he sincerely misses me and wanted to see me if only for a lil bit. I was home alone so after talking about general stuff (he seemed pretty content), we began getting more intimate.

Now he seems gone once more and I'm still waiting in the shadows. When we see each other in person everything is perfectly fine and cute and thoughtful. I care about him. I feel like he's had a lot of trouble in the past in his relationships and maybe he's afraid.
I just wanna be there for him. I want to love him just the way he is and I sort of want to tell him this but I'm afraid I will look weak *blush*. The mistakes made in the past made me realize how sensitive he really is (he's the first crab guy I ever dated so I was not used to this kind of sensibility)

What do you guys think? Should I continue to wait silently and be there for him or not?

Three months is often a water shed moment for relationships. It's the period when the rose colored glasses start to come off. I can't say where this guy is coming from related to the party because I wasn't there. If you were obviously flirting with his friends, especially given what happened to him in the past, that might well send him back in his shell. On the other hand, a man whose truly in love with a woman, wouldn't stay away from her this long to "process" his feelings. Of course, is it reasonable to expect a boyfriend to be in love with you after 3 months? I'm of the mind if it's not there by then, it will likely never be there. Still, there could be hurt feelings on his end that he needs time to work thru. That is possible. If I were you, I would lay low and wait for him to approach. If you don't hear back from him and work things out again within a couple weeks, then it's over and he's taking the cowardly way out.

I am sorry if I left the wrong impression but I did NOT flirt with that other guy but I'm aware of the fact that it might seemed like it. I actually admitted to myself and to my boyfriend that it was wrong and I didn't acknowledged at the specific moment. Don't get me wrong, I am truly sorry and ashamed of how I behaved and I said to him all those things. I am 100% honest here. He is the only guy I really want and really had eyes from since the beginning.

And honestly I wasn't even thinking about him loving me after such short time so that's not the case.

Call me silly but I'm really willing to wait for him in the next period and maybe (if the opportunity ever rises) to prove myself and see how things work out...

I guess the real question is what were your actions that made him feel that you were flirting? Were you just harmlessly talking to his friends and being social or were you possibly embarrassing him? It's hard to answer your question without knowing.

Lol @aquavita honestly I do not know what you're trying to say exactly here. The question in the title refers to "should I stay?" = stay and wait for him, be patient "or should I go" = let it go because he isn't coming back.

@shawna: For me it was being social. He told me that sometimes I wouldn't walk right next to him, holding his hand + I wasn't standing next to him while in a group circle + it seemed for him that I was laughing at his friends' jokes more than at his.

So you weren't making it visibly known you two are a couple? Not good.

Yes, we did visibly known that we are a couple. I had no problem snuggling into him in public and he likes it.

"He told me that sometimes I wouldn't walk right next to him, holding his hand + I wasn't standing next to him while in a group circle + it seemed for him that I was laughing at his friends' jokes more than at his."

Speaking as a crab, as did he, you were not.
Waiting or not waiting shouldn't be the concern. Anyone considering letting go at this stage isn't cut for a crab.

I understand...thank you for all of your replies.

I'm honestly pretty optimistic about our future together. In the meanwhile, I absolutely have some self reflection to make.