fragm3nt3d_mind
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Silence Treatment—
It seems to me that he doesn't really want to be bothered. It also seems that he wanted to persue something with u, but it seems like u have to much things going on for him to deal with. Besides, i really don't think it would of worked anyhow because of the fact that u have a child by this other man and he would have to deal with that. Just move on it is better oof this way🙂
I would say to forget about him for a while. He was NEVER serious in the first place. He was calling you out all along to see if you would ruin your life for him. He is probably turned off that you would go out and get a place, leave your man for him and he didn't have to do NOTHING to get you.
In my humble opinion these men like hard to get women. No hard to get as playing games hard to get, hard to get as in being aloof doing your own thing with your life, no calling OR focusing on him period, and let him work HARD for your love.
You are just giving yourself over to this man without making him put in any work to get you. That is just to boring and easy for him. The only way you are going to keep him attracted to you is to live your life and don't worry much about him being in it AT ALL. Don't let him have his way with you. Let him have ALL of his control that he wants but don't let him EVER catch you being to available.
In my humble opinion these men like hard to get women. No hard to get as playing games hard to get, hard to get as in being aloof doing your own thing with your life, no calling OR focusing on him period, and let him work HARD for your love.
You are just giving yourself over to this man without making him put in any work to get you. That is just to boring and easy for him. The only way you are going to keep him attracted to you is to live your life and don't worry much about him being in it AT ALL. Don't let him have his way with you. Let him have ALL of his control that he wants but don't let him EVER catch you being to available.
You see, everyone has a different opinion..thats how i feel most of the times, its like if i stop tryin to talk to him, it will show that i dont care and in case he really likes me, i will hurt him, on the other hand, if i keep chasing him, and he is serious about not wanting me i will just making a fool out of myself!
Summer Bear... yes, from what i wrote, that would be the impression taht one would have about me, teh person who said i was a whore, was a "girlfriend" of mine, that made clear to him she wanted him...regarding me being all over the place...oh well, he had plenty chances to talk to me and get to know me so much so that he said that he loved my personality and the way i am...im not a SAG...im on the cusp of energy Taurus/ Gemini but my moon is in Sag...what a mess!
the few ppl taht knows about my story have different opinions, some say i should let it go cause he doesnt give a fuck and was not willing to deal with the baggage like some said here...others say that he was really into me and the fact that my ex wouldnt let go of me and would be always on my leg made him insecure and jealous...
he DOES NOT reply to my msgs, answers my calls nor anything...therefore how am i supposed to figure out whats goin on? how unstable are crabs? one day he is calling my new house "our" house and 24 hours later he tells me to forget about him and ignores me for over a week—
im goin insane... cant sleep!
Summer Bear... yes, from what i wrote, that would be the impression taht one would have about me, teh person who said i was a whore, was a "girlfriend" of mine, that made clear to him she wanted him...regarding me being all over the place...oh well, he had plenty chances to talk to me and get to know me so much so that he said that he loved my personality and the way i am...im not a SAG...im on the cusp of energy Taurus/ Gemini but my moon is in Sag...what a mess!
the few ppl taht knows about my story have different opinions, some say i should let it go cause he doesnt give a fuck and was not willing to deal with the baggage like some said here...others say that he was really into me and the fact that my ex wouldnt let go of me and would be always on my leg made him insecure and jealous...
he DOES NOT reply to my msgs, answers my calls nor anything...therefore how am i supposed to figure out whats goin on? how unstable are crabs? one day he is calling my new house "our" house and 24 hours later he tells me to forget about him and ignores me for over a week—
im goin insane... cant sleep!
Wait...r u guys in a serious relationship? Because u r.. u really need to move on and stop worrying about him...it's not that serious, I'm sorry...He seems like he's living his life while ur over here worried about him....u can't sleep? Thats crazy, over some1 who clearly doesn't give a hoot about u. If he is not answering u or calling back he's just not that in 2 u
Frag,
You're dealing with a typical Cancer.
"that was friday, saturday we wanted to meet but we both had things to do, and i had to go to see my ex cause of my daughter and it ended up in a fight...a ugly one."
This is a big issue. A Cancer will back off when they feel threatened. Although you know there is nothing between you and your ex the Cancer won't feel that way. Cancers take time to develope trust and if this continues he will never trust you... 😢
"on sunday when i texted him to tell him about the fight he asked me why i didnt go to the police and i said i wouldnt go, he said he was sick of stories"
This will upset him because by you not going to the police he thinks you still have feelings for the ex. My advice is to stay away from the ex.
"i texted him saying he was the coldest person i had ever met and i didnt know how i fell in love with him. his reply: then forget about me!"
Be careful with your words. It's already done, so you can't do anything now, but never ever say anything like that again to your Cancer. You're a Taurus so I understand... but let this be a lesson to you.
"Reply: u r being inconvenient, stop trying to contact me!"
He's hurt... so he's withdrawing and could possibly be saying things like that to hurt you back just to show you how he feels.
"the few ppl taht knows about my story have different opinions, some say i should let it go cause he doesnt give a fuck and was not willing to deal with the baggage like some said here"
One. stop listening to other people. Try to figure your own issues out without telling the whole world... too many opinions sometimes makes matters
worst.
Two. If you have baggage... bringing it in to another relationship will always make the other person feel uneasy. Try sorting your issues out from previous relationships before entering another. Most Cancers don't like too much drama.
Anyway... Cancers almost always tend to come back. He will eventually cool off but you just need to give him space. Take the time to sort yourself out so that when and if he comes back the same issues won't arise.
You're dealing with a typical Cancer.
"that was friday, saturday we wanted to meet but we both had things to do, and i had to go to see my ex cause of my daughter and it ended up in a fight...a ugly one."
This is a big issue. A Cancer will back off when they feel threatened. Although you know there is nothing between you and your ex the Cancer won't feel that way. Cancers take time to develope trust and if this continues he will never trust you... 😢
"on sunday when i texted him to tell him about the fight he asked me why i didnt go to the police and i said i wouldnt go, he said he was sick of stories"
This will upset him because by you not going to the police he thinks you still have feelings for the ex. My advice is to stay away from the ex.
"i texted him saying he was the coldest person i had ever met and i didnt know how i fell in love with him. his reply: then forget about me!"
Be careful with your words. It's already done, so you can't do anything now, but never ever say anything like that again to your Cancer. You're a Taurus so I understand... but let this be a lesson to you.
"Reply: u r being inconvenient, stop trying to contact me!"
He's hurt... so he's withdrawing and could possibly be saying things like that to hurt you back just to show you how he feels.
"the few ppl taht knows about my story have different opinions, some say i should let it go cause he doesnt give a fuck and was not willing to deal with the baggage like some said here"
One. stop listening to other people. Try to figure your own issues out without telling the whole world... too many opinions sometimes makes matters
worst.
Two. If you have baggage... bringing it in to another relationship will always make the other person feel uneasy. Try sorting your issues out from previous relationships before entering another. Most Cancers don't like too much drama.
Anyway... Cancers almost always tend to come back. He will eventually cool off but you just need to give him space. Take the time to sort yourself out so that when and if he comes back the same issues won't arise.
hey LADY_TAURUS...thank you so much!
i finally decided and have been killing myself not to sms him nor try to call him. 2 days ago a friend sent me a msg, a stupid one basically saying i was her bitch and that she had make me open my phone for no reason and i should send the msg to other bitch that would become my bitch and that i should go back to work until she needed me again... just a stupid msg that is suipposed to make u laugh..well i laughed, i sent it a few of my friends as well as to him...u see if he was a normal person he would have take it as a joke...but now i dont know..all i know is that was the last time he heard from me....quite a fucked up way to stop talkin to a cancer hey!!!
did i mention that he never EVER, speaks to any of his ex GF? its like no matter how long they date when he breaks up, he totally ignores them and never speaks to them again....
what are the chances of it being different with me—
i finally decided and have been killing myself not to sms him nor try to call him. 2 days ago a friend sent me a msg, a stupid one basically saying i was her bitch and that she had make me open my phone for no reason and i should send the msg to other bitch that would become my bitch and that i should go back to work until she needed me again... just a stupid msg that is suipposed to make u laugh..well i laughed, i sent it a few of my friends as well as to him...u see if he was a normal person he would have take it as a joke...but now i dont know..all i know is that was the last time he heard from me....quite a fucked up way to stop talkin to a cancer hey!!!
did i mention that he never EVER, speaks to any of his ex GF? its like no matter how long they date when he breaks up, he totally ignores them and never speaks to them again....
what are the chances of it being different with me—
Some Cancers are like that... if they have reason to they will cut you off for good.
Well I suggest that you don't push it too much and kind of sit back to see what happens. If it turns out that he doesn't want to talk to you again... you will have no other choice but to move on. You can't make someone be with you and pushing them only makes matters worst.
Hold your head up and try to develop the strength to get over him.
Well I suggest that you don't push it too much and kind of sit back to see what happens. If it turns out that he doesn't want to talk to you again... you will have no other choice but to move on. You can't make someone be with you and pushing them only makes matters worst.
Hold your head up and try to develop the strength to get over him.
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that was friday, saturday we wanted to meet but we both had things to do, and i had to go to see my ex cause of my daughter and it ended up in a fight...a ugly one.
on sunday when i texted him to tell him about the fight he asked me why i didnt go to the police and i said i wouldnt go, he said he was sick of stories, things got a bit bitter and i texted him saying he was the coldest person i had ever met and i didnt know how i fell in love with him. his reply: then forget about me!
its been over a week, i texted him, asked apologies, freaked out sent stupid msgs and nothing...total silence!
2 days ago i said i will go meet you, if you dont want me to go to your work please give me a call so that you can listen to what i have to say.
Reply: u r being inconvenient, stop trying to contact me!
Did he just get tired of me? Was he just playing games? Wtf? I destroyed my life to prove him I loved him!