I need ideas

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by fallforyou23 on Tuesday, July 21, 2009 and has 13 replies.

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

There's this cancerian guy.First he gave me his number and told me to text him so we could chat through text instead of chatting online and i'll always take long to reply his texts.probably a message and hour.And next when he aasked me out on this very day when he was already so tired ( he could have gone home to sleep) But i turned him down saying that i'm TOO TIRED to go out.Since then he hasn't text me anymore.And when i tried to text him.He didnt seemed to be as enthusiatic as before.I have no idea what he's thinking in fact.Do you think he was the least tad interested in me at the beginning?Could he have lost interest in me?What should i do to win him over?

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

hmmm Btw the next day when i got drunk i acutally inititated to text him and i even said i miss him.Does that help?He actually replied and said he miss me too bUt i think thats only out of courtesy.Am i wrong to say that?

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@crabrangoon
17 Years

Mmhm its just that, he might have said that he was tierd but that was probably a test, so I agree that you should ask him out again, and seem more happy to talk to him. Be aware that there's a good chance hell turn you down, just try again.
To date a cancer you need extreme patience and want to love like its all you have left lol.

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

He's not even replying to my text anymore.Should i just give up in case he gets annoyed by me?

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@Cancershorti27
18 Years

Call him a tell him u want to take him to dinner or lunch and have fun chatting with him.

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@RainingPeanuts
20 Years500+ Posts

Text him something dumb that might catch his attention or confuse him.
At the top of my head
"Wow my text messaging service is so slow but I'm glad
you're finally getting my message.. i'm not that tired, lets hang out.
Stop lagging lol" LoL

My next suggestion is to stop texting him.

If you someday end up scoring a date with moody broody..
my best advice is never be apologetic.

And if you're ever going to turn him down again.. set something
up ahead of time.. and tell him to put it on his calendar!

Believe it or not, I'm giving you awesome advice 🙂

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

How about sending him those funny msg that u've mentioned after like 1 week or 2 weeks of "leaving him alone" is it gonna work?

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@RainingPeanuts
20 Years500+ Posts

Possibly, you'd have to play it by ear.

If he doesn't text back then drop it.. his loss.

Don't even turn to look at him if he happens to
cross your path.

Butttt.. but.. lets not go there.

Goodluck 🙂

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@nOvbaby
17 Years

I would leave him alone, from my experience they can only go so long without talking to you before they do again. I've noticed this in my relationships with all cancers. He probably feels rejected from what you said in your first post and if they are as sensitive as I've read and seen it might take a little while to recover.

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@fragm3nt3d_mind
18 Years

whats with that of having to give them space— that puzzles the hell out of me! its like...when u want/like someone and that person hurts/dissapoints you...isnt it logical that you would like attention and perhaps the attempt of making things right and reasure our interest—
at least i am like that, if someone i care had let me down and then would just keep quiet i would think they dont care so how come it works the othr way around with crabs—

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

I don't think you should give up just yet. He could be testing you to see how much effort your are willing to make after hurting his feelings-well rejecting him, cos even he was tired and yet he was willing to meet you, but you were tired and not willing-that can make one wonder if your worth it or not:s But then again that is my opinion.

Initially i thought that way too.So i tried to send him text in a lame/funny way and asked him to hang out as well.I have however received no reply at all from him.I wanted to try it again though.But I'm now wondering if it means i'm just bothering him.Thats the last thing i want,to be a nuisance to him.

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

Btw i'm a cancerian as well,our birthdates are close just 3 days apart.And i know it myself whenever i dont reply at all it would mean i'm very irriated.So i was just wondering if he feels the same.

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

If a one night stand were to happen should i text him first or should i wait for his text.?

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

hmm i meant.i had a one night stand with that guy we have been talking about.but he didnt text or say anything after that.i was thinking if taking initiative to send him a text would look clingy to him.And i was wondering on his part,if there were feelings involved that night.should i just text him and ask him directly?Please give me some ideas someone.Thanks.