Some insight perty pleeze!?!?!

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Okay so my ex will be coming into town soon- it's still raw so to speak he broke things off w/me in May, I still love him, can't seem to move past that part... What I'm wondering is would he give me a chance if I let him in on everything?

We had a long distance relationship, and it was confusing me. Cause I had to let go of him everytime I we had to part ways. Because of that, I was never really sure how I felt about him, until I was around him, if that makes any sense. Although now things are crystal clear!
There was a lot of outside pressure, mainly from my family, to get things off the ground (living together). I know how foolish it was now, allowing others to pressure me, but I can't hit rewind on the matter. Rather than explaining that, I put the pressure on him. He asked me what I wanted, I ended up giving him an answer that was applicable at the time, but now after some introspection wasn't the truth. Before I knew it, all he said was 'I'm sorry.' He couldn't even tell me outright.
We've been in contact since, and there was only one time that we talked about 'things' and that was pretty much a couple of weeks after. I asked him if he still loved me, he said yes. I asked him if he still had our pic on display in his apartment, he said yes.. When I asked him why, he said he didn't want to forget about me. Then I asked him how solid he was on the decision, he said he was pretty solid. He then made mention that he was just fooling himself about me, that I'm not who he wants, and he was sorry. I asked him if it was all for nothing, and he said, in a very hurt tone of voice he asked how I could say that?

Here's the thing, the new found information about the situation has all come to light for me, it took me awhile, but I see things clearer. Therefore, I'm asking, from a cancerian perspective (he's a cancer), if it will make a damn bit of difference, or if I shouldn't even bother??
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Crab23,

He really is a passive creature, so the way that he handled things really is of no surprise to me. I truly believe that he was thinking in terms of both of our best interests, but again the new found information about where things are with me throws me for a loop in that. The second time I talked to him after he broke things off, I actually asked him if he found someone else, he said no. If that has changed since then, I dunno. It wouldn't seem so since I was his first love, and before me it had been six years since he had been in a relationship. Which still is crazy to me cause he's gorgeous.. If anything, he's making himself keep busy in order not to think about things. And though, I've been doing the same thing, I'm not so good at keeping it out of my head/heart. Everytime I think I get a hold on things, something reminds me of him.
I dunno I guess we'll see what happens, I think you might be right SRG, when he comes to town things will be put in perspective. I just have to get a hold of my sanity in the meantime....
Keep the suggestions coming though, I like to be able to weigh my options...
Thanks guys!
Storm
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Storm,

This is just from my personal experience but Scorpios naturally have a profound influence on me since i'm a cancer. I just returned from vacation in Europe and on the plane ride back I met a girl, who sat right next to me, who I later found out was a Scorp(Nov. 13). Lets just say it was the best 10 hour plane ride I ever had. We took off total strangers and landed hugging, kissing, caressing.. it was surreal.

What i'm trying to say is.. meet your ex face to face and let fate take it's course. Don't think, just follow your heart.
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SRG,

Sounds a lot like his and my first encounter, just in the sense that it was surreal. I kept getting lost in his eyes when we talked, I'de have to look away if I was to actually make a sentence... 🙂 Wow I miss him... Anyways, thanks for the clarity, I figure I will probably see what I need to in those eyes of his when I see him. This leads me to another question though. He wont be here till mid-August, and contact between him and I doesn't happen unless I initiate it. Should I try to keep in contact with him? I must admit, my pride is telling me not to. At the same time, though it might sound silly, I don't want him to forget me. What do you think?
Thanks again for your help!

P.S. Good luck with the scorpio girl 🙂, she'll make you work hard for her heart, but once you have it, it won't go to anyone else unless you give her no choice.😉