Virgo Woman and Cancer Man- To be or not to Be?

Here is my novel. Years ago when I was 16 years old there was a Cancer male that instantly caught my attention. I was very shy then and would never make any first moves. I noticed that he would look at me every time I went to my locker because it was near his back then. Well, this was when AOL messaging was really big and after a few months in to the school year he sent me an IM. I remember feeling ecstatic. We continued to talk for years on messenger, but it was like when I saw him in person, there was no way that I was going to approach him. I was head over heels for him, but totally clueless with guys! When I was 16, we made out and it was always our secret. After a year of making out, I lost my virginity (romantically btw) to him and we had a thing going on into college years. I would get hurt thinking that he must not want to be with me because everything was always so secretive and hardly anyone knew about it, so I started dating other guys, which definitely bothered him, but he would never take that step forward. Once in college, we were in different cities and I started dating seriously with someone, and he started contacting me again. I told him that I was going to discover where the current relationship went because he treated me very good. In response to that, he asked me if I was serious, and if I really didn't think there was something there between us. I told him that I couldn't answer that at this point and he replied that I didn't have to answer, because he could see it in my eyes. So, I cut off ties with him and after me and current boyfriend broke up of course we hooked up again and I found out that he had a girlfriend. I was crushed and mad because I am not the type to cheat, so I told him that I didn't ever want to see him again, and didn't for years. In the mean time, I got met someone, got pregnant and married and was very happy for about 2 years. We recently divorced because he was physically and mentally abusive. So glad that is in the rearview. Anyways, I was visiting my hometown for Thanksgiving and went out with a few girlfriends and who do I run into after never seeing again for the last 7 years, but my Cancer man. I of course did not go up to him, but made sure to look sexy. Lo and behold, I was coming out of the bathroom and I heard my name and it was him. I walked up to him and he was grinning from ear to ear and he asked me how I was, etc. I told him about my divorce because he said the last he knew of me was when I was

after he heard I was married. That night after leaving, I received a text from him stating —Do I really still have your number— That lead to us hanging out, with friends at first, and as soon as they went to bed he grabbed my hand and everything felt so right. It was like our own little world where we could truly display our feelings to each other. That night we kissed and that was it, and it was incredible. He dropped me at my car the next morning and gave me a kiss and told me that he would really like to come to my city and visit soon. Since then, we have done a lot of text messaging and talked on the phone a few times. I instantly fell for him again, and I didn't feel like I was getting the same —emotional?? feeling back from him, so I told him that I wasn't going to do this if it was all about the sex to him (incredible). I told him that I was deleting him number from my phone, and he was like —What? What do you mean—. I couldn't stop thinking about him, and it was driving me crazy not talking to him or seeing him. He would go days without even contacting me, and at that point, I needed more reassurance. Sure enough, within a week, he sent me a text and asked if we were going to get to see each other over the Christmas holiday. It didn't work out and he told him that he really wanted to come up in January to visit so I invited him and he is going to come visit the 2nd weekend in January. It's crazy because after knowing each other for almost 15 years, there is this incredible chemistry between us, almost hypnotic when I am around him. He told me MANY memories between us from when we were younger and in to college, which I was shocked that he could recount in such detail, and told me that he has always really cared about me. So, that is my story. Should I be worried or hesitant? I am terrified to have my heartbroken, especially by him. He was always the one, after all these years. I have read much about Cancer??s and it is amazing how much it is spot on. Advance needed PLEASE!

i'm dealing with a cancer man as well!
it seems to me in the begging he wasn't sure about his feelings and most likely because he was young he just wanted to "have fun" and you were up for it but you grew to love him, and he was still in lala land.
now that you are older and wiser and have lived 2 seerate lives exploreing realtionships and dealing with struggles i believe he has realized you made him feel a different way then any other girl has BUT WAIT, allll cancer men can change with one wrong word if they get offended or run when they feel too much. i suggest you be VERY carefull and strong for whatever you end up getting.
i dont care if he comes over with a carriage and horse and carry's you to it, you do not be vulnerable because he seems so anxious to see you, dont push him away by being cold cancer's love emotion so they dont feel rejected but dont hop in bed with him AT ALL until he proves to you his worth and why he should even be using up your time.
you seem like a very confident girl just lost in love, cancer or no cancer you know when a man is looking for something serious or if he's enjoying the moment becarefull and good luck!!