well, everything I did worked...sweet.

I gave him his space while I was living 3 hours away (we met on a cruise) and didn't contact him unless he contacted me, now he's doing the contacting...but now I'm not so sure I like him anymore. Just moved to his town (living with friends). After being completely non-existant for the past month when I lived at home.. every day since I've moved here he's invited himself to come hangout with me. He cuddles with me, pays for EVERYTHING even though I continuously offer, treats me with respect (I wanted to go farther the other night and he said he didn't want to take advantage of me.. (much to my dismay, lol) BUT he's sooooo freaking quiet and shy and I feel like I'm treading on eggshells around him, like I never know what to say or how to act.. like should I hold his hand or would that be too much? I feel like a freaking pre-teen. I feel like I can't be myself around him at all. I really do like him and I LOVE his friends and family but this might be a deal breaker. Ughh! He's making future plans.. wants to go to all these places with me and hiking and etc. etc., holds the door, acts like a total gentleman. But I don't feel like we click! I'm gonna give it a few weeks to see if once we get to know eachother better things will turn around 😢

Posted by roxyfalcon2006
I gave him his space while I was living 3 hours away (we met on a cruise) and didn't contact him unless he contacted me, now he's doing the contacting...but now I'm not so sure I like him anymore. Just moved to his town (living with friends). After being completely non-existant for the past month when I lived at home.. every day since I've moved here he's invited himself to come hangout with me. He cuddles with me, pays for EVERYTHING even though I continuously offer, treats me with respect (I wanted to go farther the other night and he said he didn't want to take advantage of me.. (much to my dismay, lol) BUT he's sooooo freaking quiet and shy and I feel like I'm treading on eggshells around him, like I never know what to say or how to act.. like should I hold his hand or would that be too much? I feel like a freaking pre-teen. I feel like I can't be myself around him at all. I really do like him and I LOVE his friends and family but this might be a deal breaker. Ughh! He's making future plans.. wants to go to all these places with me and hiking and etc. etc., holds the door, acts like a total gentleman. But I don't feel like we click! I'm gonna give it a few weeks to see if once we get to know eachother better things will turn around 😢

The reason why I love my Cancer so much is because I can be completely myself around him -- moreso then I've ever been with anyone. In fact, I don't feel like myself when I'm not around him, just because he seems to get me more then I do sometimes. All the other stuff you talk about (spending all the time with me, contacting me, taking me places, making plans, great friends & family...) all just bonuses to an amazing package. But the best part is being myself.

Maybe he just hasn't opened up enough? It's hard to be yourself around someone who isn't being himself yet. Just take it slow. Be good friends before you get physical. Hang around his friends and get to know them just as well as you do him. I was friends with all the important people in mine's life before we were even officially dating. Just let him get comfortable with you, and he'll make it easy to be comfortable with him.

It's gotten a lot better. It's weird.. like when he first comes over we're still awkward with eachother, then we warm up a bit and he'll put his arm around me and stuff, and I can almost hear the building tension of like, wanting to do something, lol I don't know.. and then when he leaves he kisses me goodbye always. Never a "hello kiss" yet, but we'll work up to it I guess... slowwwww and steady wins the race! Although he had to fly to his hometown today for a week for a sick relative, so I'm guessing when he comes back we'll have to start from scratch again. Blah