what is it......

For you crabs out there & the people who love you...Who here has been intrigued by an evasive crab for long periods of time...why do you/are you so intriguing...what is it about them/you that keeps us wanting more...why are they/you so hard to read?why does it take them/you so long to trust, why does it take you/them so long to verbalize how they/you feel? What's the deal with the dance?

I can't wait to see the answers on this one....good grief...very good post

Sometimes things just cant be explained....you have to go with it! I'm not trying to be mean....but geez I thought virgos were the thinkers and analyzers! You would drive me crazy with all the questions...I can see why the crabs here get so aggravated...I'm not hating on you at all....just being honest! Carry on....

Oh dear lawd. I see another 47gazillion page thread. 😄

Intriguing? That's subjective, I think maybe you're just infatuated right now. We have a spontaneous way about us because we're often ruled by feeling and instinct, maybe some people like the change and the occasional craziness. We take so long to trust because we protect ourselves and the people in our lives. Why should we verbalize when you can just...be? Is verbalizing how you feel something that provides validation? I think that actions speak louder than words, not to be too clich?.

The dance, I don't think it's on purpose, in the beginning we just do what we do, sometimes we can tug at your emotions, it's a way to gauge how you feel, what you think, if you care, it's about building trust over time, we're actually pretty sensitive to even the littlest thing that you do. Maybe it's because we don't want too much of you right away, but at the same time we do. Maybe it is about that excitement that builds up when we don't get to see you every day. Makes perfect sense, right? I guess I could say a lot more, but I'll just stop.

I'll cosign on what cancerguy said.

@lost...haha! Your entitled! =)@Gems maybe 48 =)

I've been intrigued by a cancer male for years now.

He's a mess on the emotional side. he's scared of everything. He's easily hurt. He's angry and holds grudges. He's a miserable sack of shit at times too.

However...he's got a brilliant academic mind. He's got an amazing sense of humour. He cries and doesn't care that I see his vulnerabilities. He's quite funny while plotting an imaginary revenge on someone. And, more than anything, if I need his help he's always there, no matter how busy he is or how tired he is, he is always there.

@cancerguy..thk u for even a glimpse of a cancer mans thoughts, not so much just infatuation but more so in love, I got a lot of the spontaneous & now it seems as if he is planning to see me in advance now not so much spear of the moment which is also nice =)its not so much about verbalization or validation its the unknown that's beating me up here...he always tells me the same thing! Actions speak louder than words..and when we are together they do..but then he gets quiet, really quiet and those actions speak louder then no words...its my pride too...I'm so torn...there are times I just want to walk away and any other time with anyone else I would, but something tells me to stick out a little longer...it will be worth it..he always tells me I will get bored with him & I don't understand why? I'm just not used to this...at all. It just confuses me to no end..@maddy going with the flow...is what I'm doing..easier said then done!

Posted by missscorp
he always tells me I will get bored with him & I don't understand why?

It's simple, insecurity, and you know that already. "you're going to get bored.........and leave me". Questions like that are usually geared toward prodding your psyche about him and the relationship. Sometimes sarcasm works in those situations, you never know.

He confuses me...my feelings hurt..my pride dwindling...I only see him...he's the one I love. He joked about our wedding photo? And then disappeared on me? Again..it screws with my pride cause I turn down people waiting on him...I've been waiting for a long time now...I think he thinks because of my image maybe I'm just to much for him? Can he not see my heart with the cancers intuition...its been him & only him for sooo long now 😢

I "know" he knows my heart or he wouldn't give me the time of day...if only I knew his...I think I do...until he disappears...😢

I've been seeing a Cancer for some time now and we dont verbalize alot of things but 'feel' them. (I have Cancer moon, btw) We are both very reserved in a lot of ways but since we've been dating we see each other about 3 times a week (prob more if our schedules and personas allowed) & I just 'know' its all good. I did have occasion to mention that I'm a loyal person and expect the same and I could tell he felt relieved to hear that. He said he is too. It took us to another level.
Maybe you should find a way to work that into a conversation sometime & see where it goes. IMO there comes a time when you need to stop wondering & just have to put it out there and see what comes back.