what to do when cancer woman is avoiding you?

i did something she doesn't like unintentionally, but i sent her a message about it explaining the situation to her, but until now she is still avoiding me. we've known each other for 4 years.. she was sweet, nice and friendly and we were really close (in a positive way) until this year (year 4). i noticed starting this year that she became super sensitive with me (she gets hurt easily with whatever i say and/or do and gets passive aggressive when she gets hurt)... i've never experienced this before from her, so i dunnow what to do and i dunnow how long she will be like this and if we will ever go back the way it used to be with us... any advice would be much appreciated. thanks!

i can imagine like whatever i did the last (even unintentionally) is like the last straw that broke the camel's back and that she now is reviving all of the mistakes that i have made before? (did i get this right?)

Yep. You hit the nail on the head. Cancer woman are very sensitive especially if they like and care for you. Being insensitive is one of the main reasons we will go into our shell and ignore you. A cancer is very forgiving and will give multiple chances, but if the pattern is repeated constantly, our actions may be different each time. This means we may go into our shells longer after each occurrence depending on the severity. Cancer woman can be passive aggressive and we won't tell you what you have done. Once you are on good terms again and you ask her, she might tell you what you did to hurt her...take notes and try your best not to do it again. It's nothing you can do at this moment, but to be patient. Eventually she will speak to you. Just don't keep this up if you want to keep your friendship with her. We tend to lose interest each time you hurt us. We may stay cordial with you, but the relationship will never be the same. We don't like to feel that we are being taken for granted because we give our all in our friendships & relationships.

Posted by Anjo
Yep. You hit the nail on the head. Cancer woman are very sensitive especially if they like and care for you. Being insensitive is one of the main reasons we will go into our shell and ignore you. A cancer is very forgiving and will give multiple chances, but if the pattern is repeated constantly, our actions may be different each time. This means we may go into our shells longer after each occurrence depending on the severity. Cancer woman can be passive aggressive and we won't tell you what you have done. Once you are on good terms again and you ask her, she might tell you what you did to hurt her...take notes and try your best not to do it again. It's nothing you can do at this moment, but to be patient. Eventually she will speak to you. Just don't keep this up if you want to keep your friendship with her. We tend to lose interest each time you hurt us. We may stay cordial with you, but the relationship will never be the same. We don't like to feel that we are being taken for granted because we give our all in our friendships & relationships.

thanks...i don't believe i did anything wrong some of the times that she thought that i did something wrong though... sometimes i think that she is just imagining my wrong doing... so i don't apologize if i think that she is just overreacting/just imagining it... i just ignore her overreaction/passive aggressiveness, wait until she is finished overreacting/being passive aggressive and pretend like it never happened... sometimes i try to explain the situation to her (the situation that she overreacted on) and i asked her recently to understand me because i am understanding her (her overreactions and passive aggressiveness) and i'm not taking it against her or mad at her because of it... what i do is i just wait it out until she is okay again.. i tell her constantly that i forgive her and that i am not mad at her (maybe deep down inside i'm hoping that she does that to me too) and i've never been mad at her... am i doing it right?

i think that she even gets hurt when i don't reply to her message fast when she message me using a common friend's account 🙂) but the thing is i am interacting with our common friend's account as if i am talking to our common friend and not her 🙂) but most of the time i do send messages that are meant for her because i know that she can read and reply to the messages i send to our common friend's account 🙂) i can feel the negative emotion that i think is coming from her when i don't reply fast 🙂) but when i do feel the negative emotion the more that i don't want to send anything because i might send a negative message out of that negative emotion that i am feeling 🙂)

This doesn't add up. You offend her repeatedly then gaslighting the situation. I don't blame her ignoring you. I don't waste my time with disrespectful people. Let alone friendship.

Oh I remember you. This again? I think this friendship has run it's course. Isn't this the crab that was doing something immoral work wise? Why be frenemies? Let her ignore. Cut the string while at it. Regardless of sign. Life is too short for gossip, drama, toxic vibes.

In was gonna say something but I feel like you posted on the boards before about something to do with a cancer lady...are you one in relationship with an older cancer? Have you posted on the boards before?

Yeah, this sounds like copy/paste from an old thread from months ago.

You did something wrong. You clearly don't know what it is but you did something.

yeah...sorry guys... i was just trying to get different opinions from other users...

Just be straight up and ask her what are the things that bother her. If you notice that something is botherin her then talk about it..and come to a solution. ..pretending as if you don't see it ..that's some irritating shit. Now she thinking he know what's pissing me off but he don't want to deal with it . Also I realize you get in this mood where you begin to hold back because you questioning what to do next. When the only thing you should be doing is stop doing the shit that bother her. I sware this shit is simple but scorps makes it hard. For example you speak about hurting her feeling when you don't reply to her fast enough..now you can feel her negative emotions that you are thinkin that's coming from her ..so now you don't want to contact her because you feel negative emotions...omy. you could have cut that out by just explaining to her why you not messagin her fast enough. Instead you run..you know where her emotions come from because she's hurt but you take it as an attack. Meanwhile she's trying to be close to you. You need to talk to her..once a cancer feel secure those emotional sensativity stop..if they not sure or feel secure they hide in shell. Just communicate and tell her how you feel when she get like this and listen to her..

approach with caution but DO approach. she probably not gonna be too happy (esp if you hurt her feelings). it will be worse if you don't do anything at all because then they feel unloved or that you do not care. that is the last thing you want. and the longer you remain inactive the more emotional they get. at least from personal experience.

-Jack