Why is this cancer male testing me?

Advice needed!
I'm currently in a casual relationship with this crab, we have had the conversation about not wanting to be in a serious relationship, and we were both in agreement, for our own reasons, but he stated specifically that he just does not want to be in a relationship right now, he doesn't want to be anyone's boyfriend, and even though he likes me as a person, he doesn't have feelings for me, all of which is fine, hence our casual arrangement. However. Last week I got a call from him while he was on his way to the emergency room bc he had hurt his ankle playing soccer. He kept asking me on the phone if I would take care of him. I was really taken aback because while I'm not heartless, and wouldn't leave someone in pain alone, if he really needed help, he had his friends there at the time. not to mention that it really overstepping the boundaries of our relationship.

I talked to him a day or so later and once I knew everything was actually fine, I kind of got into it a little with him, for calling me like that in front of his friends, and acting like I was supposed to come running to him, like a girlfriend would. IMO he shouldn't even be talking about me to his friends, I'm not a part of his life in that way at all, much less calling me in front of them to see if I'd come take care of him! After a little back and forth about it he admitted that he had been testing me(?) to see what I would do(??) WTF?! I let him know that that was not acceptable, that our arrangement needs to stay as clear and simple as possible, and while we can be a lil friendlier than strictly booty calls, It's not going to equate to much more than that. He agreed to that, and things kind of went back to normal. We text almost daily about random things, I tried to help him find ways to help heal his injury, etc.

The weekend after his injury he said he was able to drive and wanted to come over on Sunday, and then he said that he thought we should start having sex every day because he read something that said that it makes you happier. I said that that's way too much to ask from our arrangement, not to mention that logistically that would be impossible since we don't live together. He let that go pretty easily, but then blew me off on Sunday with a half hearted excuse.

Also 2 more times this week he has text'd or called me to say that he wanted to come over, and then BOTH TIMES kept pushing the time back and acting wishy washy until I told him not to bother. Both times he claimed to have been busy, but when I had talked to him earlier he said he had nothing going on.

I'm a Sag so I'm not very good at keeping my mouth shut, and after the last time he blew me off I straight up told him he was acting like a dick. He tried claiming that he really was busy but agreed to stop texting me but that I could text him if I wanted to see him again.

Seriously, what is going on right now?

Well, I guess that's certainly a possibility...

Sounds like he really doesn't understand the casual sex thing, or is seeing if you don't understand it..he prolly likes you more but is a coward...typical.

I noticed that cancer takes things for granted that he thinks are common sense... that in turn tick sag of to the point of craziness..
What can I say.. troublesome combination on any field..
Your Cancer just want sex....what you want?

Posted by signofthecrab
I noticed that cancer takes things for granted that he thinks are common sense... that in turn tick sag of to the point of craziness..
What can I say.. troublesome combination on any field..
Your Cancer just want sex....what you want?

Ok. He already HAD the "just sex" and he was the one that fucked it up with all of these games/tests, or whatever the hell is going on...

I've had a kind of mixed bag of responses on this which I also posted on the Sag forum. Some also thought he might have deeper feelings, but the general consensus is that Cancers are manipulative and that he's looking for me to act like his GF without him having to have any responsibilities of a BF. That's definitely not going to happen, so I guess this is just going to be over...

Thanks for the input!

Welll don't think he want a gf if he did... he did other behavior... so that's not it... Cancer grave emotional excitement more then just plain sex... sex is a physical thing... Cancer male graves 1 on 1 emotionalism and if he doesn't get it... he can go in great frustrating lengths to lure that emotion out of you.... even so far to go into manipulation mode...into a semi relationship mode..
So yeah it can happen dat they want emotionalism without a relationship... in a cancer's mind that's actually possible to separate the two...(beside the point of its morally excepted) so he can experience it with other ppl to 🙂... open (emotional) relationship lets say..

very frustrating..and hard to understand.. drives a no BS straightforward sag crazy!
hope it helps a bit.