man, oh man...this cancer of mine

I'm (Aries) so in love with my cancer man. It'll be a year in October and I've loved every moment. Yes, we've had our ups and downs, but he never lets me go and holds on so tightly when I made mistakes and pushes him away. He's so sweet, funny and affectionate... Makes my heart want to burst. We began to understand each other so quickly in our beginning and cherish our different views of life. I feel he's my forever. We introduced both our families to each other and they all get along so well. He's never late to text me back and when he returns from working out of town, I'm his first stop and he would stay over for days before going home to unpack. I sleep on his chest and cuddle with him all night, which is something im not use to. He takes my temper with ease and calms me down with just his eyes. I love this cancer of mine!

Posted by Finbuff
Amazing - a postive Cancer male post. Is that the 1st one this year?
Miracles never cease.

Lol, trust me! Few months ago we were ready to give up. But something in the air made us realize that in each others life is where we wanted to be

Posted by RumiLove
Aww cute
Do you mind sharing your other placements? 🙂

Sun Aries
Moon Aquarius
Dominants Aries, Aquarius, Cancer, Leo, Scorpio

Nice post!

Posted by Finbuff
I'm happy for you. The Cancer male, Aries female combination is very interesting. I've had some memorable experience.
If you can keep him from feeling too insecure, it can last. I'm curious, what decan is he?

Hmmm, ill find out. But we both can get a bit insecure, but we also try our hardest to reassure one another. I tell him every day why I love him.

And also, thank you

Posted by crabbycrab76
Nice post!

Thank you!!!! ‰

I do love the ram/crab combo. I think crab guy/ram girl works better. If I get the chance to date another one I'm going to be full on communication from the beginning. Well I was last time but probably not as much as I should.

Posted by kissmygrits
I do love the ram/crab combo. I think crab guy/ram girl works better. If I get the chance to date another one I'm going to be full on communication from the beginning. Well I was last time but probably not as much as I should.

Yes, communication is important with cancers. If you go a while with out talking or being open, they get nervous

i love my little crab

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Posted by kissmygrits
I do love the ram/crab combo. I think crab guy/ram girl works better. If I get the chance to date another one I'm going to be full on communication from the beginning. Well I was last time but probably not as much as I should.

Yes, communication is important with cancers. If you go a while with out talking or being open, they get nervous

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Exactly! I thought I was blown off. Then I get a call after a week. "Sorry I was rebuilding an engine. " I couldn't be mad about something that hot. But then it kept repeating so I moved on. I'm too old to wait around.

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I do love the ram/crab combo. I think crab guy/ram girl works better. If I get the chance to date another one I'm going to be full on communication from the beginning. Well I was last time but probably not as much as I should.

Yes, communication is important with cancers. If you go a while with out talking or being open, they get nervous

Exactly! I thought I was blown off. Then I get a call after a week. "Sorry I was rebuilding an engine. " I couldn't be mad about something that hot. But then it kept repeating so I moved on. I'm too old to wait around.

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He used to do that disappearing act until I started doing it back. Then when he'd get back in contact with me, I'd be lil heeeey, acting as if I didn't notice. He haaaated it and suspected me if cheating! Lololol. Now he makes sure he text me at least once a day

Wish I knew yr secret!! Man..mines gone now..no idea why...i play it suuuuper cool...amd also give him what he needs...i just don't get it and I'm.at my wits end. My confidence is failing....

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Wish I knew yr secret!! Man..mines gone now..no idea why...i play it suuuuper cool...amd also give him what he needs...i just don't get it and I'm.at my wits end. My confidence is failing....

Ugh, I'm sorry. We went through struggles in the very beginning. Talking down to each other, both doing disappearing acts, not putting in effort to understand the other... I don't know why he chooses me. He does compliment my independence and my content and peace at being single if I chose. He says most women are dependant on men and its hard for men to find a women that they can depend on, always one sided. Did he just disappear on you, did y'all argue?

Well yea we did, we had talked about moving in together and then he seemed to wanna back track again, and I got upset...he likes to do that. I tried to make amends and was kind and all that shit, but he's barely said a word to me in a week now. Its exhausting...im very independent but I don't like being ignored no one does..and its like his way or the high way! I understand him but I feel he needs to try to understand me a bit more and stop being so self absorbed. Sigh... Really thought we were doing well and now maybe its time to move on... The rollercoaster is unbearable.

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Well yea we did, we had talked about moving in together and then he seemed to wanna back track again, and I got upset...he likes to do that. I tried to make amends and was kind and all that shit, but he's barely said a word to me in a week now. Its exhausting...im very independent but I don't like being ignored no one does..and its like his way or the high way! I understand him but I feel he needs to try to understand me a bit more and stop being so self absorbed. Sigh... Really thought we were doing well and now maybe its time to move on... The rollercoaster is unbearable.

I went through the same thing! He asked me to move in then back tracked. I ignored it and let him go with his own pace. 2 months later...he's moving in with ME. Just got hos key yesterday! He didnt even ask. It just happened. Sometimes you just gotta let them be. They'll eventually come around.

Their way or the high way is true. Very selfish. But once they see you're still sticking around after the conflicts and confusion, they'll eventually give in to your needs. Trying very hard to please and keep you

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Posted by kissmygrits
I do love the ram/crab combo. I think crab guy/ram girl works better. If I get the chance to date another one I'm going to be full on communication from the beginning. Well I was last time but probably not as much as I should.

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Yes, communication is important with cancers. If you go a while with out talking or being open, they get nervous

*get

Just today, he hit a parked car and texted me about it. When I called, he acted like he didn't want to talk. Called himself disappearing on me. But I texted him that ill be here when he needs me, now he's pretty much begging for my attention.

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i love my little crab

You two are back together?

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No, I'm still waiting for him to reach me. I cracked on Wednesday when I texted him saying that I miss him. He replied "that's okay. I hope you're alright. Kisses". Now i know that if I contact him one more time I feel I'll be invading his space.

but I still love my little crab as he's the boyfriend I've ever had.

He's the most sweetest boyfriend* URGH

Posted by ariesheart
Their way or the high way is true. Very selfish. But once they see you're still sticking around after the conflicts and confusion, they'll eventually give in to your needs. Trying very hard to please and keep you

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Posted by ariesheart
Their way or the high way is true. Very selfish. But once they see you're still sticking around after the conflicts and confusion, they'll eventually give in to your needs. Trying very hard to please and keep you

man I really hope yr right!! I can't believe how similar our are!! I just hope HE sticks around thru the conflicts and confusion..it hurts like hell when I think he's abandoning me. I really do love him.

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Yes, it does hurt! For me, it was worth it. His disappearance shortened, his affection heightened, it took a while, but he's wrapped around my fingers now. Almost to the point of annoyance. But I love it and I love him

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Their way or the high way is true. Very selfish. But once they see you're still sticking around after the conflicts and confusion, they'll eventually give in to your needs. Trying very hard to please and keep you

man I really hope yr right!! I can't believe how similar our are!! I just hope HE sticks around thru the conflicts and confusion..it hurts like hell when I think he's abandoning me. I really do love him.

Yes, it does hurt! For me, it was worth it. His disappearance shortened, his affection heightened, it took a while, but he's wrapped around my fingers now. Almost to the point of annoyance. But I love it and I love him

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your words give me hope lol hoping for him to stick around after all his confusion. I know crabs always remember when/where it was nice/comfortable for them.

Yes! He reminisces a lot and always go back in those most precious moments for us

I'd just like to know how to get over the hump and into the good stuff...how and when does this happen??!! Sigh...not sure if its worth it. You musta had tremendous faith. I pm'd ya btw.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
I'd just like to know how to get over the hump and into the good stuff...how and when does this happen??!! Sigh...not sure if its worth it. You musta had tremendous faith. I pm'd ya btw.

Every cancer are different. You can't just focus on their sign, but who they are, past, family. My best friend would tell a woman he loves her after a few weeks of dating but stays in his shell more than any cancer I know. Same for my first love back in high school. My boyfriend now took forever to say it and rarely goes into his shell. Even if he do, its not fo long. I messages you!

It's funny, you beg for the attraction and affection. But beware! Once you get it, its the most exhausting, neediness, obsessive, yet greatest feeling ever!

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Wow carmirnta..... Our cancers seem to always dissappear at the same time

If they disappear . Do the same..just disappear as well, enjoy your life without them. Most of them they always come back.
Don't try harder and keep initiating the contacts. You are a woman. He is a man. Women should know where to draw the line. Less drama and no heartaches. Be strong ladies.

sorry gals, perhaps you can help me with my cancer guy. i am aries woman, we've been dating for 8 months (dating every weekend, cuddling at his apt, he met my parents, he said he told his parents and his colleagues about me, we haven't had sex as i am traditional gal) then after he moved to new company, he likes to being missing, sometimes he'll missing for days, until recently i asked him, are we in relationship or not, he said he cares for me, likes me more than friend but cannot have relationship. he's been thinking about having relationship but not on near time, he said he is busy with his work. after that time his intensity to meet me is zero, he keeps saying sorry not be able to meet me, he said he misses me, but lately he's been gone. he only read my messages without replying it, or if he replied it, only using short answer "sorry i'm busy".i know he likes to go inside his cave, but can't he just reply my messege?
i love him, but sometimes my feeling told me that he's been avoiding me. but to look again, he probably is busy. what should i do the

That's exactly what happens with mine^^he'll come back. Yea cappy! Just read your post..sigh smh..

Posted by M143
If they disappear . Do the same..just disappear as well, enjoy your life without them. Most of them they always come back.
Don't try harder and keep initiating the contacts. You are a woman. He is a man. Women should know where to draw the line. Less drama and no heartaches. Be strong ladies.

*thumbs up*

Posted by M143
If they disappear . Do the same..just disappear as well, enjoy your life without them. Most of them they always come back.
Don't try harder and keep initiating the contacts. You are a woman. He is a man. Women should know where to draw the line. Less drama and no heartaches. Be strong ladies.

Exactly!!!

Totally. And mine's back. Good call.

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember

Posted by M143
If they disappear . Do the same..just disappear as well, enjoy your life without them. Most of them they always come back.
Don't try harder and keep initiating the contacts. You are a woman. He is a man. Women should know where to draw the line. Less drama and no heartaches. Be strong ladies.

If the women here follow this advice, then they are going to end up lonely old maids for life.

Depending on who does the breaking up, the dumpee should not be chasing after the dumper. PERIOD.

If the girl ditches the guy, then the guy doesn't owe her SHIT in terms of contact initiation.

Any man worth his salt will date other women if his woman pushes him out.

You women are trying to act masculine in this day and age, and it will never work on a man.

That shit might work on a weak beta-male whom you want to chase your sorry ass, but it will never work on a real man. EVER.

You idiots need to keep in mind that there are 3 women for every 1 man on this planet, so the odds are totally against you and any bullshit games you have in store for us.

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If you are dealing a cancer man or with a cancer man. I might take your advice.

I would rather end up as old maid for life than *In a relationship* but still lonely.

Maybe your butter works for you.

@DXPMember,

Stop spreading that there 3 women for every 1 man on this planet. Fools do. Good people don't.

If you allow people to disrespect you - they will do or is your past made you think sooo negative.

Regards,

M

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Totally. And mine's back. Good call.

I'm really happy for you!!

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember

Don't deny the reality, honey.

It makes you look stupid.

Encouraging women to play games with men only causes the game playing women to end up all alone and as old maids.

Why?

Because the men know your petty game-playing isn't worth it, and find other women instead.

Hence you all end up as lonely old maids with no children and no man.

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what the heck you are calling me. I am so ashamed of your behavior. I am not lonely. I have my cancer man. you don't know what you are talking.

hahaha. It made me laugh here in my desk. 😆 😆 😆

renutzu,

Who is this *YourFavoriteDXPMember*. she/he doesn't know me. I bet you know my background.

thanks for liking my advice. I said women should be strong. This DXPMember is attacking me.

Excuse me YourFavoriteDXPMember you seem angry to the whole world. what is going on? you called me idiot,stupid and duplicitous?

you are not above than me in reality. Believe me that. Shame on you. I can sense where you coming from... bitterness world.

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Shut up, you crybaby.

You gave shit advice when you suggested that women should play games with men, and I called you out on it.

If you don't like what I have to say, then get off the damn board.

oh no. raging fire. hahaha 😆 😆 😆

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
You are a pest.

I understand you are less educated. thank you.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Totally. And mine's back. Good call.

well i guess you are right. my ex (a cancer also) suddenly he texted me back, well he got a new gf already but i dunno somehow he texted me and said things like " if you were bla bla bla back then, maybe we still together now" what the....
anyway, i'm dissapearing now for my new cancer guy, waiting for his come back while i will try myself to be busy

Disappearing when they do is your best call. These men dont like to be smothered until they give you the go ahead to baby them! As long as you're there when they come back, they will be surprised and amazed that you stuck through their crabby moments. Took me a while to see that.

By the way, disappearing when they do is not a game. It's about respecting their space and their way of coping. I'm an Aries, and introvert. I shut down easily when I get all in my feelings and prefer people to respect that. It took me forever to get use to a man doing what I've always done, lol! Now we give each other space when needed. Which is not as often as it use to. Nowadays we prefer to bring each other into our shells with a blanket, pizza and movie. We'll shut the world off together

Posted by ariesheart
Nowadays we prefer to bring each other into our shells with a blanket, pizza and movie. We'll shut the world off together

That is the cutest thing I ever read today haha