Workaholic cancer man

I'm going to make this as short as possible. The main question here is how or mostly what can I do to survive and still support a cancer man who has become a workaholic recently?

I'm still there for him and I love him very much and I know he feels the same about me but recently work is the only thing that's going through his mind. I'm patient and let him do his thing, even in his personal time so we have some "we" time two times a week, saturday night and wednesday night. But he can't still fully disconnect from his work even in our personal time.

We talked about this but it's pointless. He said he wanted calmness at home and I know he's very tired after a workday but I must admit I do MISS the old him, being all lovey dovey with me, saying sweet things and actually dedicate his time to me. This is wrecking myself a bit I must admit. When I focus on my things and feel quite okay about it, I suddenly feel single then begin to think about him => me moody again. I try to think as positively as possible that we're going to be alright, etc.

How can I deal with this?? I don't want to leave and neither is he but the weight that it's upon us and mostly me right now is sometimes nerve wrecking and I can't really focus on anything else.

Hm I have cancer rising so hm first it may depend on my watery moods..

I don't like people complaining about how much work I do and or don't do.. I work hard and I am fucking lazy after that. But I still come home to clean, cook, and have sex with you..

I don't want to do much but I will after I had some peaceful sleep..I get up and plan my evening with you..I'll plan an adventure but sometimes I get so tired fast. That I would rather cook and watch a movie, and had someone initate some things, discuss and communicate important things after I settle down..
Ii will open up and be affectionate caring to you when I can....

.Because I work hard to take care of myself, you, and the household. If the guy is working to bring money home to you. I would be happy.. That is stability..a rock..

.yeah I would feel neglicted if I did everything for you and showed nothing in return..if you have days where you meet up from a busy work week.. just be glad that you and him are spending time..

It's ok to do things separately apart from each other.. not too far apart though. I might drift..

Enough space and don't ever nag about anything after long hours of working.. just be a woman and do things for the guy but not to where it get taken advantage of. And you know the difference in a hard working workaholic compared to no job no income and you have to maintain. It should be both ways.

My point is don't nag...about working too much..

You are right- Cheese she/he must know that being secure gets you far in life. You are right the woman should just chill out for a minute and let him do the man of the house thing and build into a solid foundation with a partner.

Security and stability is a must have, you know that despite my cancer rising.. My Taurus side needs to see you work at your goals to be come successful in the best way you can.

Posted by Cheeseburger

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
My point is don't nag...about working too much..

I disagree. He's going to lose her if he doesn't change his ways. He must know.

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This is how I feel right now. I know being secured means awful a lot but like Cheeseburger said after, this actually comes in the way of actually building something.
I'm not nagging him in any way, especially work related. Sometimes he tells me that it "annoys" him how calm I am (even though sometimes it's only a mask). But this absence is wrecking me down day by day and I don't know how to handle it anymore.

I want to let him know about all this.

He's very hard to love