Are Caps Impulsive?

Hi everyone, I'd like to know if a Cap is in a bad relationship/marriage w no sex will he/she go out and impulsively have sex with anyone who shows an interest in them even if the relationship has not officially ended?

I know the majority of Caps are cautious and therefore they take their time to get to know someone before they get "sexually involved" but the question was...will they also behave impulsively to have sex if it doesn't really mean anything to them? In other words just have sex to have sex? Also how common is it for a Cap to do this if at all? Thanks everyone

Very rare! Caps are not looking for cheap thrills they are looking for stability and long lasting unions! This is why they take their time and get to know the other person first! And speaking from experience they can go along time without sex!!!

Casual sex? That's not in Cappy's dictionary! Speaking from experience where I've been in a bad marriage and had no sex for 4 years (oh yes- that was F-O-U-R)..I would never have thought of cheating...well, I thought it but never could ever have actually done it...LOL. And yes, tempting situations have occurred but impulsive is not one of my traits. Try words like calm, cool, collected...or wise.
Now that I'm divorced,(even that was a difficult thing to do-Caps do try their best to make things work) it's still taking me a while to get back into the swing of things..like..'once bitten, twice shy'... So, yes I'm playing it 'cautious'...
That's a Capricorn's qualities... (woman at least): faithfulness, loyalty and integrity to the max!

I agree wholeheartedly, however, never say never. I knows some female caps, who, when realy really unhappy, have strayed. But usually with someone they have ended up with, or at least wanted to end up with...

I was in a bad relationship for quite a few years and I never ever strayed. Might of looked and thought hey they look nice but the rest is a no no and I did have offers of both scenarios of either one-night stands or we could take this farther if you wish. I never could entered into either. Now funny thing is I had only left my ex when I fell and I mean fell deeply for a scorpio and yes we did have sex but I had got to know this person over a matter of weeks first before any intimacy took place. This relationship is over and still I miss him so you can see it wasnt a superficial thing. Since yes I have had sex with a few people but know I do this because I like the person, am not prepared to get involved as I am not over my scorpio friend yet but feel at times I would like to be held even if its only for a night - which is usually my call! So to your answer very few (there is always the exception although) caps would consider having sex while involved with anyone or married and even when the marriage is bad and over they will hang in there trying to make it work but they will never stray. Hope it helps.

Yes...they are human and yes, they will stray. If it really means a lot to them they will finally succumb to their desires. They may have regrets afterwards or maybe they won't. I do however believe that if they are in a bad marriage (men) they will stay. This is a good quality that they won't just give up but in another way, they end up suffering because they do not allow themselves the true gifts of life.

I am NOT saying all Caps are like this as we ALL are quite different. I am just expressing what I know from my personal experience. Age may also have something to do with it. I miss my Cappy friend but we always seem to connect and it usually comes out of the blue which is exciting to me.
I do not feel that Caps will go out to just have sex, nope.....they do prefer with those that mean a lot to them. Why not? this makes for the best sex. They are highly intelligent people. I've learned a lot from my Cappy friend. Even if we never end up together, the ride has been great. What more can I ask for?

yes, yes, yes, i am a cap female and during my marriage had a fling because things weren't well.... but i have to add that having the fling made me realise my marriage (and commitment) meant more to me....
my marriage did eventually end but it was completely ended before i even looked at another man.... caps do not commit easily or end things quickly, but sometimes when things get too much we throw it all to the wind in a fit of frustration....(it never lasts long...!!!)

These responses are great! And so very true. It's nice to know that they will not go out and do that and stay in a bad marriage but here's another question for you all...Why wouldn't their partner leave? These responses are mainly from Cap women and you've given me your reasons for staying but how did/does your partner/spouse feel? And what do they do about it? Do they just tolerate living in this manner? I can see and admire why a Cap would stay and hang in there but why don't they (partners) walk away from it all? Surely they can't be happy neither living that way if it's a bad relationship? It sounds so sad.

I'd love to hear from ANY Cap males on this one too.

Sorry, not a Cap male, but asking why the partner hangs on to a Cap female, well! That's like asking why the sun rises and moon glows! We Caps are fantastic and way too precious to ever think of leaving my dear.
Seriously, in the relationships I have had, I have always been the one to throw in the towell, after much pain, strain, debate, throught, after-thought, attempts and all those wonderful things. I don't know, but I think Caps become unhappy when their partners aren't necessarily. Maybe also their partners feel so scure because of our commitment and loyalty that they do not see it coming. She'll never leave me, kind of thing...
Anyway, hope you hear from your male Cap.

Thank you and I hope I hear from him too. I can see why a Cap would be worth holding onto for security purposes but I fail to see the purpose in this when neither one in the relationship are happy? My bro is a Cap and in a miserable relationship. His escape is the bottle. No one seems to be able to get thru to him for some reason. Meanwhile he's "out cold" and his Mrs. has escaped "into a world of her own". I have to ask myself what kind of "life" is this for either one of them? Are they not cheating themselves of joy for the sake of "security"? (Sounds like the partner has no confidence or self esteem in themselves to make it on their own if they have to rely on someone else for security?) Sure sounds like it to me.

Someone needs to inform all Caps that loyalty is definitely OVERRATED and that they need an equal in their life!!!! Especially if they are NOT HAPPY! Life is just to short IMO. I hope the Cap I love will see the light?

Wow, your brother's relationship sure seems to upset you. Yes, I agree with you. Holding on to something because we feel secure is not always the best choice. I only know one male Cap and he was burned by a woman he was madly in love with. And, he has not been in a relationship since. He became all engrossed, depressed, stuck, and could not move on. He still hasn't and that was about 9 years ago. Don't know male caps and so i cannot speak on their behalf. I do know that female caps, which I think I understood you to be involved with, are very loyal and loving. They appear aloof, a bit cold and even emotionless. However, only when they trust completely (and i mean completely - as in trust someone with their heart and life - will they relax, open up and show emotion. But beware what you ask of them, because once the emotions start pouring out, you will not know what hit you. You will see a whole new person give herself entirely to you in every way. And since, imo, sex is so related to trust and intimacy for female caps, you can expect it to be out of this world, once the hump is conquered.
As for your brother, maybe he is in a place right now where he feels more secure with the known than the unknown. Only he can move himself from that spot. And once he makes a decision to move, I think it will be fast and painless. Until he makes the decision, he will be miserable. Keep in mind, that as harsh as this may sound, and I speak about myself too when i say this, for a Cap, it is often an ego blow, not a heart break. We cannot imagine being rejected or insulted, especially when we give our hearts and trust to someone. Although connected to the heart, the head is always there.
I wish you luck. Give a cap a reason to trust you and the world may change.

Oh yeah, and I am sure that there have been cap women who have been left by their partners, but I have 4 cap female friends and every one has always been the one to leave eventually, in all relationships. I don't know why. Perhaps it is because when female caps make a decision, they act quickly on it. Perhaps their partners eventually really feel the emotions a cap finally invests and can predict the horror that would ensure. Because Caps seem aloof and emotionless, I think others often underestimate their inner strength and independence....But those who know us never underestimate how fragile we can be and how deep our emotions actuallyt run. To know us is to love us. I dunno, just thoughts...

Yes my bro's relationship upsets me very much. There seems to be no one who can get thru to him or to let him see reason? I am very close to him and you can't imagine how painful it is for me to see him in this way. He's either working at his job (to the bones BTW) or he's "out cold" from booze. These are his 2 escapes. There are no other realities for him. I cry for him. They say that love is thicker than water but I have to wonder in this case. It's not that I want him to do something that he doesn't want to I just want him TO LIVE HIS LIFE AND HE AIN'T! I too hope he comes to a "better place" and soon. I hold no faith in that BTW for he's all into that loyalty crap. It really makes me mad that people can have that much sacrificalness (is this a word?) to them.

I'm a female Sag in love w/a male Cap BTW. I can see where the confusion would originate from. It's funny but the fem Caps are the same as the males so you are right on the money with your thoughts. What saddens me is that my friend is going down the same road as my bro. I'd like to spare him from this fate but it seems that he's the only one who can do that.

But he is a beautiful person (the Cap I love that is) and you're so right when you said that when a Cap "let's you in it can be heaven". And it is!

I give you credit and your friends for walking away from a relationship that did not make you happy. I hope other Caps, especially the males, will have the same courage to be able to do that for their own happiness.

I am a female cap that walked away from an unhappy relationship and I have a cap female friend who is in the process of doing the same. You asked why does the partner not leave. Well in my relationship and with my friends its because the other party wants us to stay. My ex begged and pleaded with me not to leave and probably thats why it took me the 5 years or so to go. I dont know if it was purely love on his side or because I was the one who done all. My ex worked and brought in money - and to him that was his part over. I worked, looked after the kids, the house, paid the bills, booked the holidays etc etc. Caps can be very organisated, reliable etc etc and I think there partners sometimes sit back and let them do all. So then when a cap is unhappy and wants out they feel responsible for the other person - will the ex cope, not only is it their wife or husband they are losing but also there friend, lover, mother, housekeeper, decision maker etc etc. I know it sounds strange but caps do look at life like that and responsibility of others puts a large strain on us! I think once we see that there are problems will we try and fix them but once we know its over we will EVENTUALLY leave but we must feel that we did our best, tried in every way to make it work. I believe we all get to a stage where we go right sink or swim. If you stay in this relationship your going to sink (eg hit the drink etc) or you go I'm strong I want to swim, see life and live life!

Well put, me thinks!

I am a female Cap, 41. I am fragile yes, and I know my emotions run very deep. Always have. I think it is hard sometimes for whomever we are involved with, to understand the depth of our feelings. I only left one relationship, and that was a bad marriage to a low life and loser. That was 16 years ago. I have not remarried since, but am not against it. I have had several relationships in all these years, some good, some not so good. Had one that was on/off for 5 years, until it was completely off. Didn't date for a very long time after that. Was hurt, and didn't care to go out, or date. All the relationships I've had since being divorced, the guy was always the one to leave the relationship. So, it happens to female Caps too, getting depressed and down from a relatioship that ended badly, or just ended not by our choice. Eventually, it takes time, you can come out of it. I started dating again, going out with friends very often, and now would like to, want to, get married again someday. To the right person.

I'm a 33y. old female Cappie and I've only made the decision to divorce two months ago....It was my choice after a relationship of 12 years, most years have been really good!

Only after I had a major depression and had to rebuild myself I found out who I really am. And by being myself more eg more emotional, stronger and independant, I lost my connection to my husband. Until then our relationship was always very good, but last year I changed and started to feel unsatified in my marriage. It took me 6 months to see my marriage had no meaning to me anymore, that's a short time compared to the other stories! Maybe it also had to do with me faliing in love with a penpal in Canada (I live in Europe) which made me realise my heart's not in my marriage anymore.

I know, us Cappies are very loyal and I've never had any thought of going astray as they say, simply because I loved my husband very much. But as soon as you feel unsatisfied and fall in love with someone else the love is over....Cappies can feel very deeply so there's always ONE person in my heart at the time!

And now I'm thinking about another relationship again, this time with a more emotional person. It's not like cheating because emotionally we've already "separated". I'll be careful this time, investing your emotions into someone else is not easy. But like someone said "once they let you in it's pure heaven", I agree. We're careful at first but once we trust you completely all the floodgates open....😉 Be sure to hang onto us then!

Seagoat

P.S. my next relationship will be mainly sex-based, he's a Scorpio so we're very much attracted to each other! But I've known him for several weeks now and first we're becoming friends. I like him for who he is and what he tells me about himself, the sex is secondary to me. Sex is only good if you really care for someone! If my head's not in it as well the sex is simply not good....I need to feel relaxed and trust someone before I can show him my passion!

Seagoat

Heres more opinion:
I am not a very experienced person as far as relationships go but i can say this much from all the relationship attempts i have made.

I dont belive in multitasking relationships. I always give my very best to what/who i am involved with. I sometimes feel i go way out of my way to accomodate the other person (but that happens only if he has proved his worth to me in small ways - i dont mean that he would have to go run out in the middle of the night and buy me flowers! 🙂
But i have my own ways of judging wether i may be right for him and the other way round!)

Since i myslef take a long time to open up and feel trust for the other person i tend to think that everyone works on the same lines.
I like to give time to the other person to show his true self and i expect him to give me time to overcome my shyness.

So, i think if i were in a relationship then i would not stray because i would be soo involved in making it work that i have no time to think of anything else.
I think i temd to not belive that the relationship i am in is over till i reach my limits and when there is no other way to go but to tell myself
"Alright girl, it is over - you need to move on!" 🙂

I think these are traits of all women - not just capricorn women - but maybe i am wrong!