Calling all Capps women for help!!!!

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So I have been talking to the girl for about two months. In the beginning when I meet her through a mutual friend we hung out the first night at her house and I knew instantly she showed interest in me. The next day my friend called me and gave me her number so I texted and told her to come to a party I was have ( family and friends at my house ) she came had a good time and at the end of the night we kissed she is older than me but she says she is very inexperienced with relationships and says she is very flaky and indecisive at time. I tell her I understood and everybody is different the first month of us hanging out and spending late nighta on the phone talking about how she is and how I am just as two people starting a relationship would so we talk on the phone for hours and once we hang up she texts me that I am and great man. Weeks pass we keep contact but not as steady she is really getting stressed with school, work and her internship I know she is busy so I don't bother her much but text her I am thinking of her little things like that. We attend a wedding together and have a great time speak the same night till 5 am then I don't text her for 4 days cause I know she is busy with school work midterms are due and she is going to Texas for another wedding but when I do text her Thursday before she leaves I put everything out there basically saying I see potential in us I like her but I know she need space and reassurance and that I am here for her when she needs me just trying to her I am not going anywhere. She texts me back saying " your a amazing guy mike don't let my flaky ass ruin that" which I replied "you can't ruin that" ( me thinking in my head that I am who i am and that's the only person I can be) we also had a talk about her being ready for a relationship and she said she was but we both agreed on the no pressure thing and just see where things Go for now. We continue to hang out and see eachother text and things like that, but the past week as she came back from Texas I asked her Tuesday about school and how her midterms are going she said they are crazy and she has spent 6-7 hours in the library working on her paper I did not answer her text till Friday just to say hi she said " hey I was just thinking about you I was gonna text you before I went into to work tonight" we talking about some things about me going back to school just everyday stuff. I told her I wanted her to come to the community college with me so she can help me sign u
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You didn't finish!!! Not sure what the question is.

Reading so far, I think she likes you. Be patient with her being busy (caps get pretty focused) and be patient with how inexperienced she is in relationships.

I'm going to tell you like we tell the girls - She is telling you what she is like from the get go. She is flaky, inexperienced and indecisive. She's telling you this from the get go. Just be warned and don't let that stuff bother you.

Based on what you've said so far, she is admitting her worse traits openly and telling you what she is like. Decide now if you'll be willing to overlook those qualities. I think she's afraid she's going to run you off. So, be persistent (but not annoying) and be constant. Consistency, dependability and reliability are turn ons for us cap ladies.
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@truecap Sorry I meant to finish the story!!! So after I said that comment about community college she didn't responde. I text her the next day(at like 5 am ) and asked if I could cook her dinner that night she didn't answer me so around 12:30 in the afternoon I said sent her a text saying " I guess not" and just left her alone I text her Monday to say have a nice day and she later texted me this "Hey!! Sorry I've been so distant lately. I was just trying to get my mind straight. I don't want to keep stringing you along when I'm being flaky and indesisive. It's not fair to you. I don't think I'm able to give you the time or attention you deserve right now" so I waited an hour then called her she didn't answer me and then I called her the next morning to tell her I was thinking about her and left her a message saying "hey just thinking about you then hung up" and we haven't talked since since she last texted me so I am asking what should I do just leave her alone or what I am confused?
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But why would she say she doesn't think she can give me the time
Or the attention I need right now when she never talked to me about what attention I need? she is assuming things! I was thinking she is scared and trying to push me away but I don't know what to think anymore maybe she doenst like me!!!



Maybe she thinks you're acting needy? Are you doing anything that would make her think that? Texting more than once a day or wanting her to spend a lot of time with you? Caps need a lot of space, are you giving her space?

Usually when people say they don't want to string you along, then they're NOT afraid and pushing you away because they're scared. That means they're not as interested in the relationship as you are.

Actually, her saying that really is honest and open.



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Nitty1311
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I can be kinda clingy sometimes! I know I can! we talked about that before and she said she just disappears when that happens and she doenst want to do that with me cause she sees potential in me she is very honest and open with me but beside what I have shared I havent been overly clingy just wanted to see her one time but she never answer so I said never mind and I know she has a lot on her plate but since she texted sent me that text we haven't spoke I have not texted her back! So I should just let her come talk to me when she is ready or is it over??