Disgruntled Cap

Hello all,
Complicated story, here it goes??_ Met a cappy about 2 years ago. Things moved slow, he repeatedly came into my job, sat in my section, and we developed a friendship. He was intrigued by my aloofness at first and thought I was somewhat distant. Eventually we dated and he was very respectful, never touched me. We never had sex. We began to argue about him flirting with other girls to make me jealous and I began to ignore him. He stalked me for four months. That's when the tables turned and he had more of the power. I contacted him and he came quickly, but he me with a bomb, —I'm moving to Dubai for the summer.?? He stayed gone for about five months then I texted him. He was happy, joyous, and excited to talk to me. We planned another date, but he canceled due to an emergency. I told him to be respectful of my time, again he thought I didn't trust him and pulled away. Finally, in our last argument I told him to kick rocks, then apologized. He told me not to text him anymore. Been two months now. (In the past, I've told him a few times to kick rocks before this argument) Gone forever— Me, Scorpio- Nov 17, Him-Capricorn Dec 8

Nope he think you'll be back so let him contact you. He will DONT worry.

Thank you October91 for your response. How do you know he wants me to contact him? What makes you think he will eventually contact me?

Before I even finished the post, I figured this was a Scorp. You sound like a few other Scorp lunatics running around here, wreaking havoc on their own romantic lives, and whining about how they fucked things up.

Leave him alone. IF he chooses to be back, he will. If not, well then you fucked up. Stop being a retarded drama whore and maybe you'd be able to keep the guy around.

Also, interest does not equate taken. You cannot expect girlfriend treatment when you aren't even together. Consider this a learning experience and do not do it again. The end.

His not a Capricorn his a Sagittarius

He's a Capricorn. I reacted to his insecure behavior of trying to make me jealous. This is where the conflicted started folks. I was actually the mature one, he would do things to get a rise out of me to assume more control. Typical cap behavior. I never played those types of games. I never played games at all. I think he's somewhat mad things didn't go his way.

Sorry, his b day is January 8th

If you were truly as mature as you state, then you wouldn't be doing the whole "get away from me, oh lol nvm" approach.

Your reaction to his bs is just as in the wrong as his bs.

And I also can't help but wonder why you're being such a bitch when he had an emergency that caused him to cancel. Your response was "be respectful of my time?" Really? What was the emergency?

No, I don't see a future here.

I wouldn't be with someone who didn't trust me. 'Nuff said.

Ignore the hell out of him... he's playing games to make you jealous— WHAT??

He needs to grow up.

Thanks aquapisecescusp. You were able to interpret that he is the one playing games. My responses were due to his actions. I'm not the villain in this scenario.

Posted by melyssa04
Thanks aquapisecescusp. You were able to interpret that he is the one playing games. My responses were due to his actions. I'm not the villain in this scenario.

"I agreed with the response that best enabled my own bad behavior, thus leaving releasing me from any responsibility in my own actions."

Thanks for not answering my question. By ignoring it/not answering it you just said a lot about where you actually stand in the situation.

Evolve already.

However, in YOUR defense, I'm not disagreeing that dude was playing games. I was involved with a Cap with the same birth date. Tons o games, control issues, and attempts to make me jealous. It was offputting.

It still doesn't excuse you from acting like the guy owes you girlfriend treatment, downplaying his emergency situation to inconveniencing YOU, and constantly telling him off, only to change your mind later on.

You are what guys call "cray cray" when you behave like that. Is he wrong in his behavior? Yes. But you aren't correct in your reactions either. Grown up women who can put on their big girl panties either tell the guy off for good, or just distance/drop the guy all together.

Otherwise, your argument trying to make you the innocent one here is the equivalent of "NUH UH, HE DID THIS AND THAAAAT!! IT'S HIS FAULT I BEHAVED LIKE A 12 YEAR OLD GIRL!"

Posted by melyssa04
Thanks aquapisecescusp. You were able to interpret that he is the one playing games. My responses were due to his actions. I'm not the villain in this scenario.

It sounds like a frustrating situation you are in, take a step back from it. 🙂