Cap Best Friend

My Cap best friend has been dating a Sag guy for over 6 years now, but all she ever does is moan about him. Examples are: him not paying the rent and getting them thrown out of the house they lived in, him taking drugs, him being out all night when he told her he'd be back at 10pm and switching off his phone (he's done this countless times), him having his friends round her flat every night (it's her flat, he's staying there till he finds somewhere else to live, but that was 5 months ago and he hasn't made any effort to leave), loaning money off her and not paying her back, quitting his job on a whim so she has to support him.
She keeps saying she has to get rid of him. She has had a number of affairs but never ends up leaving the Sag (he doesn't know about them). In some ways I think they're as bad as each other, but I hate to see her getting stressed and upset even though I know she holds the key to stopping her own hurt. Other friends are worried about her as well.

Just wondering what you guys' opinions were on this? Is there anything I can do for her?

Probably not, though, it reallly shows your heart is with her and her struggles.

Sometimes, we have to split in half before we ever realize we are broken. People can tell us we need mending, but, we are still in one piece, cracked, but one piece .. so we can't see it.

It would be nice if we, as people, could learn from anothers wise words, but, we can't .. we have to live it.

The only thing you can do is to keep standing by her .. so, she will having loving arms to catch her when she falls.

She's a Cap .. she'll recover .. they are strong people. She's fortunate to have a person who worries for her because it's FOR her, though her judgement is a little cloudy right now and she might not see it .. she will, though .. when the fog lifts, and she'll know in her heart that she had a true friend standing by her. 🙂🙂

Thanks P Angel!

I do listen to her and I try advise her and she agrees with me, she just never does anything pro-active about it. Although when I'm having troubles with my partner she is blunt and straight to the point about what I should do lol But that's part of the reason I love her!

She is strong and she always picks herself back up when she's had a set back. I only hope she wakes up before this Sag drains her of everything. It's frustrating to watch her be so downhearted and so happy when he does one little thing which is nice.

I will just stay on the sidelines and be there for her like you say.

she seems to be addicted. i suppose like any addiction, this would require vast support, counseling,
and for her to truly want out of that relationship.

Hmm, she reminds me of three capricorn females I know. The problem with us is that we have a terribly hard time letting go of ... stability. This has nothing to do with "love" its just stability. She sounds like a person that needs someone to call her "boyfriend", and although he's horrible, he's still around.

I dated a Saggie guy for a tiny while and it drove me crazy (but we won't get into that), what attracted me to him was the fact that he was like a father-figure with a mindset of a 16 year old boy, if that makes sense LOL.

Another bad quality about cap girls is that we are drawn to those we feel need "to be taken care of". I use to have the bad, but after some bad relationships, I now stop myself and I try to look deeper into the guy instead of being the first one to give.

Yikes! I just lost my train of thought. 😢

I'll right more when I get my mind back LOL