Cap boyfriend asking me about plans for my kids?

Sorry if this is an overthinking or stupid question, but I was curious about this cause I've never had this happen before.

My Cap boyfriend and I went to lunch yesterday, followed by studying for an exam we have coming up later this week. I was talking about my childhood over lunch, and how I used to go to private school through 4th grade. My boyfriend went to private school for high school (maybe for the earlier grades as well, not sure though). He asked me if I would have my kids in private school, and I said I wasn't sure, and mentioned the pros and cons of both sides. We changed the subject afterwards, but for two weeks in I wasn't expecting to hear that question.

I play the piano, and this Cap really likes holding my hands and stuff, and he joked with me over studying that he will have his kids (he used "my kids") play the piano so they could hold the football better when they did athletics. He also asked me (over lunch) if my kids would be involved in athletics.
I also sing, and joked that I had "cheater abs" from singing and from my frame in general/skinny. He joked that he would have his kids sing and play the piano to have a good core and long fingers to hold the football better.

Common conversation topic for Cap boyfriend to have with girlfriend?

I think it's just a general conversation to see what your thought process is. Perhaps to compare stories since you both attended private school as well as public school, to see if your experience is similar and after attending both, what would you do for your kids. Would you want your kids to have the same experience as you. It tells whether you were happy in your childhood and if you would have taken a different direction if you knew then what you know now.

It's not an uncommon conversation to have.

I think two weeks in, he's probably not "making plans" for having kids with you.

Just a different perspective and of course, I have NO idea what his intentions were with the conversation.

Perhaps it is just a general conversation to get to know you better. You both had experience in private and public schools so he may be just wanting to compare stories. Plus, it gives him an indication whether you were happy with your childhood. Such as, which did you prefer? If you knew then what you know now, which was better? Which would you prefer your kids do? That's pretty telling about you as a person. And did you enjoy the piano? Would you want your kids to learn it or do you think it wasn't worth it - tells how you really feel about playing the piano.

I don't think it's an uncommon conversation to have.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he is "making plans" to have kids with you. I don't think at two weeks in that would be the intention. Of course, I have NO idea what his intentions are behind what he is saying. It is just another perspective to consider.

If he is making plans like that after only two weeks....RUN!!!

I understand your question. I had a guy say that our kids would have green eyes(we both have green eyes), before we were even exclusive. My sag venus almost opened the car door at high speed and rolled out. I know it was just a random comment, especially since I know he knows far too much about biology to give such a comment in all seriousness, but I felt it.

I don't think you need to worry - his comment was probably just a way for him to get to know you better and to give you a hint that he is not just joking around with you. But, as truecap said "If he is making plans like that after only two weeks....RUN!!!"

Fast!!!

Posted by truecap
Perhaps it is just a general conversation to get to know you better. You both had experience in private and public schools so he may be just wanting to compare stories. Plus, it gives him an indication whether you were happy with your childhood. Such as, which did you prefer? If you knew then what you know now, which was better? Which would you prefer your kids do? That's pretty telling about you as a person. And did you enjoy the piano? Would you want your kids to learn it or do you think it wasn't worth it - tells how you really feel about playing the piano.

I don't think it's an uncommon conversation to have.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he is "making plans" to have kids with you. I don't think at two weeks in that would be the intention. Of course, I have NO idea what his intentions are behind what he is saying. It is just another perspective to consider.

If he is making plans like that after only two weeks....RUN!!!

This is most likely the case. My boyfriend is, and has even told me, a listener. He just lets me babble and rant about whatever is on my mind, without any type of judgment at all. It's incredibly refreshing. He also asks me a lot of questions about myself, and it's just...its nice. It's really, really nice. I talked about how transitioning from private to public was hard, but I see the benefits in smaller class sizes, etc. And the cost of most private schools are...high. But I see how these "surface-level" questions are very telling. It makes a whole lot of sense.

Disclaimer noted, and again, you're most likely right. Being that we're both still in college, I would hope not. No less, any indication of serious committment piques the interest of Scorpio Venus, although at 20 that's a far-away, unlikely achievable fantasy. Someone in my last thread did warn me about the dangers of a Venus-Pluto conjunction, though....

Posted by HappyCapper
I understand your question. I had a guy say that our kids would have green eyes(we both have green eyes), before we were even exclusive. My sag venus almost opened the car door at high speed and rolled out. I know it was just a random comment, especially since I know he knows far too much about biology to give such a comment in all seriousness, but I felt it.

I don't think you need to worry - his comment was probably just a way for him to get to know you better and to give you a hint that he is not just joking around with you. But, as truecap said "If he is making plans like that after only two weeks....RUN!!!"

Fast!!!

I'm glad to hear your input always, HappyCapper, and glad to know my question is understood. Like I said in my last reply, the comments rattled my cage a bit, but it tickles my Scorpio Venus with that soul-consuming commitment fantasy, which is ridiculous to have a 20. As a matter of fact, my boyfriend and I are separated by only two months. I'm November 1st and he's January 16th (which I think might make him a cusper, unsure). Glad to know there's no need to worry, and again, I definitely see how the seemingly surface-level questions are anything but. I also found out that he had a relationship in high school from junior year to right before his senior year ended (almost two years), then had a girlfriend briefly sometime in the fall 14 semester but for only two months, and then we're here. So I can definitely see the intent that he's not here to fuck around or for pure fun. Which is comforting to know, considering most guys in college are in favor of the wham-bam-thank you ma'am.

Duly noted! Thanks again!

I didn't mean to answer twice. It's just that DXP shut down when I tried posting.

Posted by truecap
I didn't mean to answer twice. It's just that DXP shut down when I tried posting.

Oh yes you did! Blaming DXP like that? Pfft. Pathetic. We all know you did it just to annoy us.