Cap contacts me when he feels like it.controlling?

so my cap has gone away for a few months and he basically doesn't contact me as much as he used to.When I contact him it takes days maybe weeks to respond.But whenever i upload pics of me out with my friends on fb he contacts me immediatly wants to know where i am what i'm doing etc.It's not fair cause it takes him days to respond to me but when he wants to talk i have to respond asap and give him all the deets. are caps controlling and selfish?

Mine is good about calling me, he usually calls me 1st and we talk several times a day, but texting he waits he will respond that day but only to the texts HE wants to respond to. I don't know if I would call it controlling but selective yes lol....

Of course he is calling you when you post on FB....He sees you have a life without him, and that is a good thing!

Cap men are hard to read for sure, been dating mine for about 8 months exclusively and I have a cap friend on here that I have to get advice from all the time to try and see what direction he is going. Its not just you, they are very hard to read!

that man sounds insecure as all get out. run.


capricorns can be very destructive when insecure.

+1 Creepy

He may just be bored, attracted to you but bored. I don't say this to be an asshole but it's a possibility so next time he comes back around IGNORE him as in take just as many days as he takes when responding.

If it took him 3 days, 4 days, 2 weeks, you take that many days...When you jump for a Cap he really starts to lose interest and respect. CHALLENGE him mentally, emotionally BY NOT GIVING IN, give him something to do, something to THINK about, think about as in how to get you to do what he want you to do.

The pictures is one way of challenging him mentally but instead of showing enthusiasm when he contacts you, show indifference, make your statements no more than 5 words, display no excitement whatsoever, NONE, don't say I'm bored but just have this apathetic energy, he'll be all over you again.

Caps, the less evolved Caps are quite Narcissistic IMHO. Don't let a mans love, attention, affection turn you into a waiting needy doormat--if he can walk in and out of your life just because you like him well this is a DISADVANTAGE to you because he can now get away with poor behavior just b/c you like him.

If you allow your feelings about him to control you, he has an ADVANTAGE over you which is you like him, maybe love him, need him and this gives him an ADVANTAGE to do what he wants to do come in and out of your life.

He can walk in and out of your life at HIS convenience which means he has an ADVANTAGE over you b/c he's walking all over you b/c he can and you let him, it's okay to like the guy but don't be available for crumbs of attention and in and out bullshit.

Posted by Bravolo
so my cap has gone away for a few months and he basically doesn't contact me as much as he used to.When I contact him it takes days maybe weeks to respond.But whenever i upload pics of me out with my friends on fb he contacts me immediatly wants to know where i am what i'm doing etc.It's not fair cause it takes him days to respond to me but when he wants to talk i have to respond asap and give him all the deets. are caps controlling and selfish?

Why do you have to respond asap? BS on that sh*t! Why is HE calling the shots? This is a two way street not a one way street. I'd say screw it and contact him when I feel like it. When I have time. Right back at him. Give him a taste of his own medicine. And if he's not wanting to be the good boyfriend and treat you that way, then he doesn't need to know what you're doing. If he wanted to know and if he really cared, he'd be contacting you more often and more regularly. Don't just up and jump and feel like you have to explain yourself. Tell him this straight up! Confront him with his behavior. He's acting like out of sight, out of mind. Don't work that way, buddy!

*I know you're not a cap, but this is probably why cap men and women don't make a good mix* (just sayin').

Posted by GemJenn
Mine is good about calling me, he usually calls me 1st and we talk several times a day, but texting he waits he will respond that day but only to the texts HE wants to respond to. I don't know if I would call it controlling but selective yes lol....

See! ^^^^ Cap men that are into you will keep in steady contact with you!!!

Mine knows there's consequences for such selfish behavior... he doesnt always heed but boy does he suffer the consequences... he ends up calling me a monster woman or something like that! ROFLMFAO

Posted by Metoo

I think the only way a Cap man is gonna be a keeper and solid mate is when he has met his equal IMHO.
When he finds a strong independent woman who can walk away and survive without him any moment, He will step to the plate and rise to the occasion. Otherwise he is likely gonna steamroll, take advantage of insecurity or run from clinginess.
If he hasnt dealt with inner demons etc. you've got even bigger problems as you have a person with tons of testosterone and ego, and he doesnt know how to channel it, or use it for good.
He is seeking order and spinning a little and will not make you a priority.

Having said these things, I DO feel Cap males get a bad wrap. We all have a dark side, we all have issues. and
I find it best to be friends with a cap male first because then you can see him as himself, see all his sides without the confusion of deep feelings, then you can decide if his manner is something you can tolerate in a romantic relationship.
To date a Cap male, you gotta be strong, and you gotta hold your own. I love Cap males, they just need strong women.

+1000. Exactly this.