@MsImpala66
13 Years
How to tell when a Male cap is testing....
Posted by MsImpala66
Ok just curiosity here, this is my first time dating a cap guy (Im a virgo). I have read some past threads and i see that people mention that caps often tend to test the other person. In what way do they test? Can you please be more specific for me......
It's hard to be specific becuase the infamous Cap "tests" are suited to the individual and whatever it is they are looking for in the person they are getting to know or are already involved with. Your best bet is to be yourself. If you try to outsmart the "tests" the Cap will know and more likely than not will process this as you having something to hide which is a definite red flag will be duly noted. Just be who you are and let Mr. Cap accept you as is. Better to know if he can handle the good with the bad and vice versa.
Thank you for your response, I do appreciate it. I am always myself but with a cap its a struggle for him to really see me when he has his wall up all the time.
Posted by MsImpala66
@PidelightThank you for your response, I do appreciate it. I am always myself but with a cap its a struggle for him to really see me when he has his wall up all the time.
Trust that he sees you more, better and deeper than you think regardless of that self-imposed wall. He's paying attention to things about you you're probably not even aware of and that is more appreciated than trying to temper down the true nature of who you are and what you are all about. Just take your time to get to know him and let him know you and all will be fine.
Again thank you for your advice. I guess it is hard to try to see that he sees me more because his is so distant with me. I feel like I am no importantance to him. I'm the one who starts commincation with him. And now with me sticking my foot in my mouth, I pretty much screwed.
The ultimate Cap test is to see if you are who you claim to be!!!
How to tell if a Cap is testing? ANSWER: Whenever you are around him!
Posted by GemJenn
How to tell if a Cap is testing? ANSWER: Whenever you are around him!
+1000
Unless you prove to be yourself around everybody. Which is hard for most people to do...
Thanks guys for all your advice, it does help me in a big way. I like to think that I am me most of the time. However, it is hard for me to show him the real me when we hardly ever see each other. So I have to show him through my words. It's so hard to understand a cap guy, because they are so distant. One minute he is there and the next he isn't. So if he went out of his way to wake me up at 6:30 this morning that is a big deal right——??
they are always testing, verifying and accumulating data, and just like that, they can pull it up for arguments sake
Lol....thanks for the reality check.
Do you do what you say you're going to do?
How do you treat strangers? waiters? your family?
How are you with managing money?
Do you follow through with things?
Are you where you say you are?
Are you honest?
How do you act when you're irritated? when you're mad?
Can you keep a job?
Are you respected by your friends? your coworkers? your community?
Do you flirt with other people when you're with me?
Are you authentic?
Do you have common sense?
Are you flighty? grounded? emotional? a hot head?
Are you stable emotionally?
Do you have good work ethic?
And so on, and so on....
It's really not a "test". Its that we want to know all angles of your personality. It takes time to establish these things and we won't be rushed.
Posted by xxoommmxxoo
You should be testing him to see if he is good enough for you NOT the other way around.
+1
you know ANY man is testing you when you are IRRITATED with them. lol
Not perfect, just consistent. That's the key is to be consistent. Are you worth are time? We can accept most flaws, we just want to know what they are before we proceed further.
Well considering that I am far from perfect, lol. If he can accept my flaws then I can accept his, right—
Growth, are you willing to get wiser from your mistakes? We love helping people we care about. Maturity or the will to get mature is what we look for in everybody, not their flaws or mistakes.
It feels so good when CP agrees with me! lol!!!
And Sureshot too!!! He is right on the money!
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Ok just curiosity here, this is my first time dating a cap guy (Im a virgo). I have read some past threads and i see that people mention that caps often tend to test the other person. In what way do they test? Can you please be more specific for me......