Scorpio83
@Scorpio83
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CAP guys sexual relationship before emotional one?
What he initially told you...
"wanting an open relationship"
"curios of me as a lover"
"this is where he is at right now given the fact that he is juggling responsibilities."
"tells me that its not a match for him and I"
is the truth.
What comes after should really not matter IF you are looking for something more.
He wants to have sex. All the other stuff he's talking about is probably what he wants from his wife, and down the line in the future and really has nothing to do with what he wants NOW, which is to feed his curiosity..
"wanting an open relationship"
"curios of me as a lover"
"this is where he is at right now given the fact that he is juggling responsibilities."
"tells me that its not a match for him and I"
is the truth.
What comes after should really not matter IF you are looking for something more.
He wants to have sex. All the other stuff he's talking about is probably what he wants from his wife, and down the line in the future and really has nothing to do with what he wants NOW, which is to feed his curiosity..
Talking to a Cap Guy and getting to know him. He admits to wanting an open relationship. I told him I don't do those kinds of relationships because its not for me. I'm a Scorpio gal so I let it be known that's not how I roll. He said I'm a strong woman and respects my views. Although, he admits that he is curios of me as a lover, its purely for physical means. He says that this is where he is at right now given the fact that he is juggling responsibilities.
He obviously tells me that its not a match for him and I. But then goes on to say that he is physical first then emotional. Then he goes onto describe about how he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom then a Stafford wife in public. What gets me is that when I asked him what he wants from the get go of dating? He tells me a woman that knows her capabilities, what she wants and her boundaries.
Now I'm confused because it sounds like a double standard that he respects I can't do an open relationship that includes being friends with benefits. Although, he mentions he has the sex first before the emotion. The last thing he said is that I make him think of things and he'll talk to me later. So any two sense would help.
He obviously tells me that its not a match for him and I. But then goes on to say that he is physical first then emotional. Then he goes onto describe about how he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom then a Stafford wife in public. What gets me is that when I asked him what he wants from the get go of dating? He tells me a woman that knows her capabilities, what she wants and her boundaries.
Now I'm confused because it sounds like a double standard that he respects I can't do an open relationship that includes being friends with benefits. Although, he mentions he has the sex first before the emotion. The last thing he said is that I make him think of things and he'll talk to me later. So any two sense would help.
Posted by FoxGlove
Oh, oh, this sounds SO familiar. I may get a lot of dissent here, but it has been my experience that Cap men want a lady in the parlor and a... lady of the evening, let's say, in the boudoir. One that I'm friends with has told me that he would love to have an open relationship with me, with me being his primary partner, but he'd still be able to have sex with other women. Let me also add that he is into some VERY kinky stuff, which he has matter-of-factly stated that he would expect from me in the bedroom should I become his wife. Also, he has specified that he'd like me to change the way I dress, even letting him dress me before we go out for a while, until I develop my own style -- ie -- that of someone who dresses to convey affluence. If I comply with all this, he says, I'll marry you. Now, there's one small thing I haven't mentioned yet -- he's already married. To someone else!!!! (wtf?!) My response to him was (after I stopped laughing) -- "ummmm.... I just like you as a friend, dear. 😛"
+1 to Inana04 -- he's definitely attracted to you and I'm sure would love to have a physical relationship. If you want more, though -- don't let this player break your heart. 😢
HOPEFULLY he was getting his Dave Chappelle on and this was all a joke! Omg, what did he do/say after you laughed? Funny thing is, he was being completely honest. It's just the arrogance to think that someone will willingly go with this plan or idea lol. My goodness, I done really heard it all!
@FoxGlove,
Wow@his ego being hurt after presenting that to you LoL. I could see me being upfront like that though, and having the nerve to be hurt when the person says "no thank you" lol, so *sigh* smh.
If people really listen, they'll realize that many Caps present them with the truth a lot of the time. In cases like this, I think it all seems so ridiculous people think it's a joke and continue to pursue, unfortunately. I'm so glad you laughed lol.
@Metoo
"Basically he is already forming his alibi for leaving you before its begun. So when your feelings get involved, as they almost always do after sex, then he can say..."I was upfront with you"
This is it.
Wow@his ego being hurt after presenting that to you LoL. I could see me being upfront like that though, and having the nerve to be hurt when the person says "no thank you" lol, so *sigh* smh.
If people really listen, they'll realize that many Caps present them with the truth a lot of the time. In cases like this, I think it all seems so ridiculous people think it's a joke and continue to pursue, unfortunately. I'm so glad you laughed lol.
@Metoo
"Basically he is already forming his alibi for leaving you before its begun. So when your feelings get involved, as they almost always do after sex, then he can say..."I was upfront with you"
This is it.
Posted by Metoo
I cant even BELIEVE there is a second thougt as to what you should do regarding this guy. He has told you in 1,000,000,000
ways how he is not the one, your not a fit, he doesnt want a relationship.
Basically he is already forming his alibi for leaving you before its begun. So when your feelings get involved, as they almost always do after sex, then he can say..."I was upfront with you".
Well I just started talking to him mind you and so this is something he brought up after the "Where are you from?, what do you do for a living?, What do you do for fun?" type questions. He just got into asking me if I was interested in a sexual relationship right off the bat LMAO...So when he wanted to talk about that particular subject area I wanted to pick his brain and see where he was really going with it? Haha I mean the guy was really honest and to the point of asking me if I wanted to have a "Sharing relationship" with him and I asked him to enlighten me about "What exactly he means by a sharing relationship?" LMAO!
So I was having fun with how much honesty this CAP guy has to say what's on is mind and his intentions. I admire that and appreciate it as we Scorps can sniff out liars and phonies from the get go. Also, the fact that he is not that bad looking either so it helped to get into a bit Haha.... But I was curios as to all he would divulge to me of what is in that greezy head of his haha...So I was asking questions to see how far it would go....LMAO...But yes I have already came to the conclusion that he is definitely not what I'm looking for and what I would succumb too getting wrapped up in that nasty mess.
I'm much too wiser and not that desperate to get laid given all the mess that comes with "Sharing relationships". As a triple water gal I need non superficial relationships and especially giving into intimacy requires exclusiveness not promiscuity with me. All in all this was fun but just wanted other two senses to nit pick at the situation as well. Thanks! Scorpio83
Well..my Cap said the exact same thing 3 years ago. He said he could not fall in love without being intimate first. I looked at him like really dude is the best line you can come up with. He was serious. I am not telling you to do something that does not make you comfortable. However, I do believe that he is sincere when he says he can not committ without it. There is something about Caps and sex. I don't know. They are not going to pressure you about it or even beg. They are simply going to tell you the real and the decision is yours.
I don't know about the open relationship thing...that might be a recipe for disaster.
I love my Cap..it is not easy in fact, it is downright difficult sometimes. We just don't think the same. However, he has my back like nothing I have ever seen. I haven't felt this secure since I was living at home with my mom and dad. He would literally do anything and eveything for me. It's like once they do committ it is forever. I have tried to leave mine a few times. Nope, they take this forever thing pretty seriously. In case you haven't noticed, they are pretty serious people. It's a pretty cool thing....most days. 🙂
Good Luck
I know a few other Capricorn men that are cheaters however, they are never ever leaving their wives and they will tell you that upfront. I don't think they are about playing games.
I don't know about the open relationship thing...that might be a recipe for disaster.
I love my Cap..it is not easy in fact, it is downright difficult sometimes. We just don't think the same. However, he has my back like nothing I have ever seen. I haven't felt this secure since I was living at home with my mom and dad. He would literally do anything and eveything for me. It's like once they do committ it is forever. I have tried to leave mine a few times. Nope, they take this forever thing pretty seriously. In case you haven't noticed, they are pretty serious people. It's a pretty cool thing....most days. 🙂
Good Luck
I know a few other Capricorn men that are cheaters however, they are never ever leaving their wives and they will tell you that upfront. I don't think they are about playing games.
Being a cap man I can tell you what we want
A Diplomat in the livingroom
an econamist in the Ketchen
a whore in the bedroom
A Diplomat in the livingroom
an econamist in the Ketchen
a whore in the bedroom
Keep your boundaries!!!! Don't sleep with him! It's a test. Even if you pass the test, he seems like he only wants a sexual relationship, so if thats not what you want, then don't get involved with him like that.
Keep your boundaries!!
Why would you want an Economist in the kitchen?. I am an Economist.(at least that was my major) I don't understand. I am the most unfrugle person you will ever meet.
Cute pic Nala!
Posted by WoundedLeoPosted by james tate
Being a cap man I can tell you what we want
A Diplomat in the livingroom
an econamist in the Ketchen
a whore in the bedroom
Oh? Is this a Cap thing? I just thought it was a man thing 🙂
Spell check is pretty useful Mr. Tate. Btw could someone quote me because I think that he's blocked me. HA HA HAclick to expand
I was thinking he'd also need a school teacher in the home office.
Just sayin' 😛
Thanks TC !
A school teacher certainly couldn't hurt anything now could it. LOL Good one BGP
A school teacher certainly couldn't hurt anything now could it. LOL Good one BGP
Posted by Scorpio83
Talking to a Cap Guy and getting to know him. He admits to wanting an open relationship. I told him I don't do those kinds of relationships because its not for me. I'm a Scorpio gal so I let it be known that's not how I roll. He said I'm a strong woman and respects my views. Although, he admits that he is curios of me as a lover, its purely for physical means. He says that this is where he is at right now given the fact that he is juggling responsibilities.
He obviously tells me that its not a match for him and I. But then goes on to say that he is physical first then emotional. Then he goes onto describe about how he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom then a Stafford wife in public.
What gets me is that when I asked him what he wants from the get go of saying? He tells me a woman that knows her capabilities, what she wants and her bound
Now I'm confused because it sounds like a double standard that he respects I can't do an open relationship that is also includes friends with benefits.
And yet he must have the sex first before emotion. The last thing he said is that I make him think of things and hell talk to me later. So any advice e on if I should cut him off or see where it goes? I wonder if this is a Cappy Guy trait or an individual decision?
first of all. this seemsn like a made up shit. if you dont want an open relationship, why post then? what are you up to?
second of all, that "he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom" i think you are watching fiction movies!!!
if it is a double standard you would seed it, like black and white you are and there is no need for advice. so cut the crap. this feels like someone who has gone kaput.
Posted by aqbxxPosted by Scorpio83
Talking to a Cap Guy and getting to know him. He admits to wanting an open relationship. I told him I don't do those kinds of relationships because its not for me. I'm a Scorpio gal so I let it be known that's not how I roll. He said I'm a strong woman and respects my views. Although, he admits that he is curios of me as a lover, its purely for physical means. He says that this is where he is at right now given the fact that he is juggling responsibilities.
He obviously tells me that its not a match for him and I. But then goes on to say that he is physical first then emotional. Then he goes onto describe about how he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom then a Stafford wife in public.
What gets me is that when I asked him what he wants from the get go of saying? He tells me a woman that knows her capabilities, what she wants and her bound
Now I'm confused because it sounds like a double standard that he respects I can't do an open relationship that is also includes friends with benefits.
And yet he must have the sex first before emotion. The last thing he said is that I make him think of things and hell talk to me later. So any advice e on if I should cut him off or see where it goes? I wonder if this is a Cappy Guy trait or an individual decision?
first of all. this seemsn like a made up shit. if you dont want an open relationship, why post then? what are you up to?
second of all, that "he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom" i think you are watching fiction movies!!!
if it is a double standard you would seed it, like black and white you are and there is no need for advice. so cut the crap. this feels like someone who has gone kaput.click to expand
Whoa! This is no made up crap and this was posted for opinions that I welcome as constructive and for those who could relate. I don't know what crawled up your A-hole and died! Geez...if you want to be such a basher then go bash yourself in your own little corner because your causing nothing but bad energy responding like that. If you don't like this post so much then don't view it and move on to something else and someone else that gives a sh*t about the crap that you have to spew out like that. Geez...so immature:-P
You are not a scorpi but an aries famale nwho is gone kaput with 100 profiles on here and all over the place
"Those tender eyes are just looking through you, not into your soul."
Unfortunately, this is exactly what it is.
Unfortunately, this is exactly what it is.
"I think it's important to these guys (I'm almost beginning to think of them as a 'type') to feel that they are still 'good guys' who aren't really doing anything wrong. So, by not pushing for that -- he can always tell himself, and you -- hey, if I was just using you, wouldn't I have been trying to get sex? But, I wasn't so I must be on the up and up -- I truly wanted to be your friend. It's a sort of insurance that they can't be called out later"
That's what it is.
That's what it is.
I never stop anyone from posting what ever they want.
Take your best shot if you can't take the heat get off the thread.
Take your best shot if you can't take the heat get off the thread.
Cap men seem to be like that, not all but a good amount. It goes physical then to a normal level of dating bf gf etc. Its kind of backwards but Caps are unusual altogether in the manner of behaving.
Scorpio83 this is a typical Capricorn man. Your dam if you do and dam if you don't lol. If you have sex with him he will still be slow to commit. They take a long time to express verbal emotion. They hold all of their emotion in because they are afraid of being hurt and they are extremely skeptical of whom they choose as a significant other. They are very charming in the bedroom and normally they will do whatever it takes to satisfy their partner sexually. In the bedroom they explode sexually from holding all their feelings in. If you??re looking for a quick commitment a Capricorn guy won't be good match for you. They are very patient individuals and you must have patience to have a successful relationship with them.
Posted by Scorpio83
Talking to a Cap Guy and getting to know him. He admits to wanting an open relationship. I told him I don't do those kinds of relationships because its not for me. I'm a Scorpio gal so I let it be known that's not how I roll. He said I'm a strong woman and respects my views. Although, he admits that he is curios of me as a lover, its purely for physical means. He says that this is where he is at right now given the fact that he is juggling responsibilities.
He obviously tells me that its not a match for him and I. But then goes on to say that he is physical first then emotional. Then he goes onto describe about how he wants a woman to be dominate in the bedroom then a Stafford wife in public.
What gets me is that when I asked him what he wants from the get go of saying? He tells me a woman that knows her capabilities, what she wants and her bound
Now I'm confused because it sounds like a double standard that he respects I can't do an open relationship that is also includes friends with benefits.
And yet he must have the sex first before emotion. The last thing he said is that I make him think of things and hell talk to me later. So any advice e on if I should cut him off or see where it goes? I wonder if this is a Cappy Guy trait or an individual decision?
Scorpio83 this is a typical Capricorn man. Your dam if you do and dam if you don't lol. If you have sex with him he will still be slow to commit. They take a long time to express verbal emotion. They hold all of their emotion in because they are afraid of being hurt and they are extremely skeptical of whom they choose as a significant other. They are very charming in the bedroom and normally they will do whatever it takes to satisfy their partner sexually. In the bedroom they explode sexually from holding all their feelings in. If you??re looking for a quick commitment a Capricorn guy won't be good match for you. They are very patient individuals and you must have patience to have a successful relationship with them.
e told you upfront because he could have waited until you gave up your jewels.
Posted by Scorpio83Posted by Metoo
I cant even BELIEVE there is a second thougt as to what you should do regarding this guy. He has told you in 1,000,000,000
ways how he is not the one, your not a fit, he doesnt want a relationship.
Basically he is already forming his alibi for leaving you before its begun. So when your feelings get involved, as they almost always do after sex, then he can say..."I was upfront with you".
Well I just started talking to him mind you and so this is something he brought up after the "Where are you from?, what do you do for a living?, What do you do for fun?" type questions. He just got into asking me if I was interested in a sexual relationship right off the bat LMAO...So when he wanted to talk about that particular subject area I wanted to pick his brain and see where he was really going with it? Haha I mean the guy was really honest and to the point of asking me if I wanted to have a "Sharing relationship" with him and I asked him to enlighten me about "What exactly he means by a sharing relationship?" LMAO!
So I was having fun with how much honesty this CAP guy has to say what's on is mind and his intentions. I admire that and appreciate it as we Scorps can sniff out liars and phonies from the get go. Also, the fact that he is not that bad looking either so it helped to get into a bit Haha.... But I was curios as to all he would divulge to me of what is in that greezy head of his haha...So I was asking questions to see how far it would go....LMAO...But yes I have already came to the conclusion that he is definitely not what I'm looking for and what I would succumb too getting wrapped up in that nasty mess.
I'm much too wiser and not that desperate to get laid given all the mess that comes with "Sharing relationships". As a triple water gal I need non superficial relationships and especially giving into intimacy requires exclusiveness not promiscuity with me. All in all this was fun but just wanted other two senses to nit pick at the situation as well. Thanks! Scorpio83click to expand
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What gets me is that when I asked him what he wants from the get go of saying? He tells me a woman that knows her capabilities, what she wants and her bound
Now I'm confused because it sounds like a double standard that he respects I can't do an open relationship that is also includes friends with benefits.
And yet he must have the sex first before emotion. The last thing he said is that I make him think of things and hell talk to me later. So any advice e on if I should cut him off or see where it goes? I wonder if this is a Cappy Guy trait or an individual decision?