Cap Ladies, your thoughts on FWB?

Would you be able to be sexually intimate with someone without the love?

If you are in a FWB situation, it is only a matter of time that you get over it when someone new comes along?

Either my emotions end up getting in the way because I start caring.

OR

I get bored because its empty and lose interest because there are no feelings and just don't care anymore.

Would rather not.

not if Im being true to my heart. If I did do FWB it would only be because I put a mans wishes first and buried my own deepest desires

My thoughts on FWB is that its was something developed by men that women were convinced to go along with...The fact women eventually did is a sign that mens wishes are still dominant and we are just as unequal as ever.

Im not a feminist. In fact I believe female energy has been a factor in creating the nanny state, red tape, excessive political correctness etc. But I do believe that women have simply been transformed from housewife slaves into sex slaves. We are still slaves. We dress like men and act like men thinking this is equality FWB is part of acting like men.

Giving up who we are and becoming loutish heavy drinkers with potty mouths, who use people for sex isnt defending the feminine. Its destroying it and worshipping sports of men.

A woman in her primal state wants 1 partner for life..that feels to her dinginfied and honourable and she feels clean and like she is getting the loyalty she deserves . Women dont like to have lots of notches on their bedpost or to feel like they are bing used for sex. They want a man who is responsible and loves them not for their 'hot body' or 'fancy clothes' but for their mind, heart, soul. someone who's mind bonds with their mind like family. Where this bond is the main thing not sex and sleazy porn fantasies

When they get this they will fall in love and then the man will get good sex...so it works! Its the kind of bond where its unique and you only feel it rarely. Thats why women read mills and boon, talk about human relations so much. The love they feel as a mother is so profound and if they cant share that kind of love with their partner they will be unfilfilled subconsciously on a deep level

Very different school of thoughts from michellemabelle and capgal but both of you are neither right or wrong, very good opinions on the topic.

Therefore, FWB is really just SEX? Would you not develop all the aftermath of FWB i.e all the emotions, fears, insecurity etc etc and then decide enough is enough, time to move on to rid yourself of all the emotions?

Its really not worth it. Will leave me feeling empty in the end. The frienship will never be the same, and I'll feel like I'm selling myself short. Once someone is a friend, that is it. That's all they are to me, and adding benefits would be suicide to that friendship because I'll end up feeling guilty about it, cz I know I'm not the type of person to do that. And I'll end up avoiding them for as long as they are around.

We seem to have 50-50 of the cappy ladies who can deal with FWB as its just sex and the other half who would rather not go into it at all. Is this because for the reason you spiral out of control (with the emotions) if feelings developed or the possibility of a good friendship being ruined?

Sorry but I feel obliged to answer even though this is aimed at Caps. I have Venus in Cap if that counts.

I most certainly couldn't just have FWB because I'm quite an emotional person and this wouldn't work out well for me. I would much prefer to sleep with somebody where I could see it going somewhere at some point. Just meeting somebody for purely sex would be virtually impossible for me. The idea seems nice enough although I just couldn't do it! I do sometimes wish I could though!

Posted by thxbutnothx
if a real friend of mine aksed for FWB i'd poke his eyeballs out

it'd infuriate me and i'd see it as a betrayal. the friendship would end as soon as he finishes his sentence.

Even if the feelings are mutual ie you like him enough to want him physically and vice versa but no strings attached.