Cap & Leo relationship ( women)

I am posting in both forums because i want to see the varying views and advise .


I need some insights on leo and cap relationships . What is your view is it always so clashing. i have been dating the leo for almost over a year before we decided well i decided to make it official im not one to rush into relationships.

But she has a habit of feeling i can do better and pushes me away ,blow up at simple things communicating is rather difficult literally she self sabotages herself. Say messed up speeches go into this silent range and shuts you out no talking. I mostly observe and i can tell where its coming from at times but that doesn't make it fear. Everything should be dont on her time and she doesn't like change i have dragged her out of her comfort zone alot since we started dating she hated it at first then like the difference.

But this rigged stubbornness can get annoying at time.where is the reasoning. Why fear someone is going to leave you .when you keeping pushing them away ,blow up ever second and then act like you could care less if the walk . mixed signals

we ice each other out after arguments if i dont speak nothing happens .I just give space at times.



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Asc Aries Cancer
Sun Cap Leo
Moon Cancer Taurus
Venus Cap Cancer
Mer Aqua Virgo

leo energy seems to like cap energy and vice versa.

saturn and the sun. it's weird how that is.

i just notice the consistencies in real life and celebrities.

but of course the other factors in chart make a difference.

I have a Leo moon and the drama is all too familiar.

Only have one experience trying to date a Leo woman.

It was like a toy breed dog always nipping at my heels. Settle the hell down!

I couldn't take it for long. Had to show her the door -- and after carefully explaining why, she still had no clue as to why it wasn't working out.

I don't think she is indicative of all Leo women, but nevertheless, a total disaster with this particular Leo. Very immature for a lady 7 years my senior.

I think she's gone through 4-5 other men in the last year and a half since my experiment. Apparently, they couldn't stand here either. 😄

Posted by bnr7013
I have two really good friends - one is a Leo & the other is a cap. Although they aren't dating, there is no way in hell I could picture it happening. You described the Leo perfectly...the blowing up, the fear, the shutting down, etc. My cap friend wouldn't put up with it for 10 minutes. Caps need someone nurturing & more open IMO. They don't do well at reading into much & Leos require a bit of work until you really know them (I've been friends with this Leo for 15 years & just now understand her to a T.) The cancer in the Leos chart doesn't do much justice in the way of emotions either. However, it seems like you've done some growing in this relationship - a cap dragging a Leo out? Hmmm...I don't usually like to be a negative nancy BC anything is possible 😉 but it's going to require time. Time to understand that the Leo needs security even when they push you away - which is something that's going to happen A LOT.

yea her chart has alot of cancer and im a cancer moon. Im observe her more than i speak pissed her off alot in the beginning cause i wont rush. i understand why she behaves or reacts how she does. but its alot of pass hurt baggage and parental issues. she doesn't let anything go . she beat me i thought i held on to things.

i can tell its a pattern the push away the blow ups and want to blame it on me . but i would call bull! and shut it down or just exit before i get snippy. I have been told by the leo that i take her out her comfort zone. i like a little change and adventure and spontaneity at times so id push til she gives in or things on it. Alot of security and reassurance .

Posted by lisabethur8
leo energy seems to like cap energy and vice versa.

saturn and the sun. it's weird how that is.

i just notice the consistencies in real life and celebrities.

but of course the other factors in chart make a difference.

both out saturn is in capricorn

what consistencies explain please.

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Posted by Rambunctious76
Sorry Op, I wrongly read your post as you being the Leo and her being the Cap. Need to think a little bit more before I comment further.

If I'm correct OP is a Cap and the SO is a Leo, regardless, It's a combo that can work but it does require lots of effort. I'm busy at the moment, but I'll will return with my take on this topic.

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yes i would like that. i am a Cap


my chart

Asc Aries

Sun Cap

Moon Cancer

Mer Aqua Retro

Venus Cap


SO chart

Asc Cancer
Sun Leo
Moon Taurus
Venus Cancer
Mer Virgo

Posted by CapTenn
Only have one experience trying to date a Leo woman.

It was like a toy breed dog always nipping at my heels. Settle the hell down!

I couldn't take it for long. Had to show her the door -- and after carefully explaining why, she still had no clue as to why it wasn't working out.

I don't think she is indicative of all Leo women, but nevertheless, a total disaster with this particular Leo. Very immature for a lady 7 years my senior.

I think she's gone through 4-5 other men in the last year and a half since my experiment. Apparently, they couldn't stand here either. 😄

wow

This leo is aware of some her faults and recently acknowlege some . But rather stubborn and gets frustrated alot and blow up especially if i show signs im annoyed and no step,Why talk if its going to cause unnecessary blow ups its annoying. And my sex drive gets bash apparently its too high and hers is low so its a sign im going to get bored and potentially leave or cheat.

From what I've seen Capricorn tend to be more mature then the other signs, especially a fire sign like Leo. Fire and earth is always a bit harder to make work.

Leo's when disturbed or upset enjoy seeing reaction out of people. It reminds them their alive, in control, and the boss. Rather then push buttons, they rather mash them into oblivion. This is hard for an earth sign, especially Capricorn to take. Caps can easily hold back from exploding, because like I said they are extremely mature. When faced with a sign like Leo there is a tendency to eventually explode, and Leo might be trying to make you show an immature side. Once that happens the Leo can put on their mature and wise side and feel they are higher up then you.

To end my opinion this is a big mistake when dealing with a Capricorn. Leo will struggle to climb higher up then the Capricorn, simply because the cap is always looking ahead and prepared for anything.

Posted by Impulsv
Did u think of the damage it did having her wait for ur own slow pace A year, I say that because I can't deal with slow it is torture n does a number. I don't think it's fair that the faster always has to accomidate the slower sign it should be an equal amount of effort. Now I don't know ur situation n perhaps u did speed up some to give her security. But if u didn't this is what happens she doesn't feel secure somewhere along the way it was not built. I could imagine being with someone a lot hole year not knowing we're I stood yet giving my body n soul to them. I'm not fire but scorpio n the say our pace is more fire when younger. N since I'm fast that is some of the issues dealing with slow.

i understand the year wasnt having to her waiting but building a foundation getting to know each other . she wasnt sure of what she wanted and at a stage wasnt looking for a relationship neither was i we were friends.i wasnt in a rush i was coming out of one so was she. we got to know each other and at each stage i made it clear where we stood and i wanted to know where she was never wanting to leave room for uncertainty but im not perfect she may wanted the flashy everyone to know though she sings she doesn't i can see it.

but security seems to be the key word hmm

Posted by unknown2u
OP you also mentioned that your leo has a habit of telling you that you can do better. I'm assuming that she is saying this to you because you don't express your feelings for her or to her. Well then explain to leo why (tell her that caps are not good in expressing their feelings, and that you prefer to show your love through actions and be specific) and ask her to give you time and to understand you. We leos are very loving, forgiving, and understanding and I'm sure your leo will love you for this.

At first my cap told me that she only liked me as a friend, but my pisces rising and venus in cancer intuition told me otherwise. I was determined to get cappy to admit her feelings for me and I never gave up. In fact one day I told my cap —you are going to let me love you weather you like it or not??, she never objected to that statement and so I began my quest. All these years we have been very respectful towards each other. So OP, it's really up to you to decide if you want to continue with your leo or not. If leo is not rational at all then move on, however if you love her and feel that theirs some hope, then learn to communicate and teach your leo how to be logical and rational. And your leo will teach you how to express yourself. Best of luck.

i love the insight something you said i have heard the exact thing. like the test she always says she feels im testing her in certain situations when honestly i wasnt .i do observe her actions and reactions but thats just something i do period.

I have expressed to her how i am more action than words but i notice its both of us and shes the kind that like words so i do try my best to use both action and words something i repeat over and over. I dont like her knocking herself down thinking she is undeserving and i tell her to stop alot.


nope no talking i see she needs time to process information alot of time . i dont like the arguing.

we both said the same thing i guess we both knew that wasnt true we wanted each other . i am hesitant at times because of her volatile reactions so yes it lets me reframe from her a bit. id like a little calm and compassion and listening. I keep repeating communication is key listen to understand not listen answer sigh.

i dont know where we stand we had a blow up well she blew up i got upset and left told her s

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Posted by Rambunctious76
Sorry Op, I wrongly read your post as you being the Leo and her being the Cap. Need to think a little bit more before I comment further.

If I'm correct OP is a Cap and the SO is a Leo, regardless, It's a combo that can work but it does require lots of effort. I'm busy at the moment, but I'll will return with my take on this topic.

yes i would like that. i am a Cap


my chart

Asc Aries

Sun Cap

Moon Cancer

Mer Aqua Retro

Venus Cap


SO chart

Asc Cancer
Sun Leo
Moon Taurus
Venus Cancer
Mer Virgo

I don't know how to read charts, all I can say is that venus in cancer loves deeply. Once you captured my heart, I will obsess about you and it's very difficult to just walk away from a relationship.
Leo is also very loyal, so is cap and sometimes this is what keeps them together. Your leo may withdraw or disappear, but she will always come back if she truly loves you. Now hurt our leo ego then we??re done.

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i can tell alot of ego . i usually tell her straight up i wont feed into her ego for nothing negative. but i do boost in positive areas to lift her confidence. she used to hate it when we just met but said it was what drew her in. she is a zoner and have told me about the drifting and i like my own space. we tend to take them on intervals that dont mesh downside but i understand.

Posted by balooo
^Caps are very good at holding things in, covering their emotions so they can't be seen. Leos are the exact opposite. It may seem everything has to be her way, but it's possible that if you look past the surface, you'll see she is trying to consider you and your feelings. If you're true to Cap nature and hold things in, she's probably just trying to draw some kind of emotion out of you so that she herself can understand you better. I doubt she would be with you if she didn't want to be. Communication is the number one issue/need in this type of relationship. Again, just ask her to be patient, let her know that you wouldn't be with her if you really didn't want to be, as well. Ask her to consider that the next time she starts to jump the gun about you doing better, or thinking the relationship is over. Leos need to be reminded that they're wanted a lot. I'm sure it's a pain in the ass, but it is what it is.

Good luck!

thank you... all true will keep this in mind

Posted by unknown2u

Leo all along feels that she is treating cappy like a queen, at least that's how it starts. Then cap goes silent and leo can't understand why such a sudden change. This causes leo with venus in cancer like myself to feel rejected and has no idea what's going on. Cap of course does not have the decency to explain to leo that she just needs alone time to process emotions or that she is truly upset for whatever reason. Venus in cancer then withdraws and goes silent too and this does not help the situation.

100% true.

"...all I can say is that venus in cancer loves deeply. Once you captured my heart, I will obsess about you and it's very difficult to just walk away from a relationship.
Leo is also very loyal, so is cap and sometimes this is what keeps them together."

^^^^^This!!

Posted by balooo
^Caps are very good at holding things in, covering their emotions so they can't be seen. Leos are the exact opposite. It may seem everything has to be her way, but it's possible that if you look past the surface, you'll see she is trying to consider you and your feelings. If you're true to Cap nature and hold things in, she's probably just trying to draw some kind of emotion out of you so that she herself can understand you better. I doubt she would be with you if she didn't want to be. Communication is the number one issue/need in this type of relationship. Again, just ask her to be patient, let her know that you wouldn't be with her if you really didn't want to be, as well. Ask her to consider that the next time she starts to jump the gun about you doing better, or thinking the relationship is over. Leos need to be reminded that they're wanted a lot. I'm sure it's a pain in the ass, but it is what it is.

Good luck!

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