Cap. Men-- could you sound off on this please??

Cap. men on here? I?ve been hearing and tell me if this is true? If you?ve known a girl for some time and there?s a foundation there (a friendship, and previous dating relationship), if she confesses that she?s in love with you (in a darn text msg.), do you feel compelled to eventually respond? I mean, if you don?t feel the same, do you feel an obligation to tell her that somehow? And if you?re silent and not responding immediately, is that a good thing? If you?re feeling the same, are you going to come out and reveal that or will you just resurface and re-establish contact with her at some point? Sorry for the barrage of questions but please tell me how you?d approach this in confronted with such a "declaration of love". Thanks!

I would respond one way or the other, If there was no feeling for her above that of a friend I would tell her, I would not say lets just be friends. Doesn't work. I would suggest we part ways. keep it civil, however if I had been humping her could be a bit sticky. could be she assumed there was more there than there was. women look at sex different than men. They tend to mistake it for love. good luck

It explains something that I went through with one of the cap guys I have dated, JT. I have one still remained who is Cap sun/Aqua moon. It is a casual dating. He emailed me yesterday after two weeks no corresponding...I did not write him since he did not write me. It doesn't bug me because it is all casual and have not much feeling involved. But I have to think *when and how* a cappy guy falls for someone. It seems that they take *forever* to? No? I am seeing a Virgo and Scorpio guy at the same time; they seem bit more easy to deal with than three of cappy guys I have dated.

Yeah, the cappy guy whom I suggested to stay friends and see where it goes took *one month* to respond.

Personally, I think we're a little more responsive to women we REALLY care for. I'm not saying he doesn't care, but unless my cell phone somehow got flushed down the drain, there would have been a response.

To me cappy guys should make it clear - if it is just for sex or more. It's just fair that way. I don't believe all women think sex equals love. As long as it is on the table, both know about it, it should be OK.

Peachcow...I have a Cappy moon and ya know what? it takes me FOREVER to fall for anyone and I don't know why? I can have plenty of friends but to be with one person—?? nah, cannot do it. In my life right now is a wonderful Leo man who would do anything for me but....I cannot be his one and only. Lucky for me he understands this about me and accepts me for me. I do tell my male friends that all I can be is friends...I am not ready for a commited relationship. Hmmmm maybe I am not ready to put forth the effort required for one..I am enjoying my comings and goings - my doings when I want to with no pressure any where. NO complications.

I don't know if this is what your Cappys feel like - hopefully they can be open enough to share their thoughts with you. Confusing I know.....

To me, the cappy guy who took a long time to respond me wanted to be sure of what he is going to say. That is why I think he took that long. He knows the consequences of his response. I think how long it takes for one to respond is relative and *nothing* to do with how much he or she cares. At least that is what I felt when I read his message.

Thanks Peachcow. That last post was reassuring... I'm also on this other Cap. Board which has alot of women dealing w/ Cap. men and they all experience this withdrawal, and disappearing acts of the Cap. male. (You should check the Board out-- there's more activity and in-depth discussions going on-- BridgetWalthers astrology.)

Hello Freebird~ nice to hear from you. I have a Cap sun/Virgo moon g/f who is really struggling with this kind of thing. She is exclusively seeing one guy for a year now, but she doesn't sound like she's in love (she admits it too). She feels like trapped because of it. I wish she can be like you and be open about that with her b/f and keeps her option open. I think she feels trapped, well, by her own mind.

I guess everyone is different when it comes to love affair...I am not sure what mine is at this moment of my life after going though what I went through past several months. I have guys that I see but I don?t feel *it* yet with anyone.

capgirl~ i would definitly rispond some way or other. As for the pause in response, i know i would pause just so it could sink in. The length of time is impossible to know. If i was your cap in his situation i would go for it!

OAF~ Thanks doll 🙂 I am quite the catch, I must admit! haha Oh well... I will give him his space. I have a couple of other guys I'm seeing, so that helps. Damm you Caps are a pain in the ass!! LOL Even though I am one myself, I guess I'm more impulsive and reactive. Patience, I have not/none!

OceanWanderer~ I get your point, in general. But as far as my situation, I did what I needed to do for myself, which was a first and only "declaration of love." Now, I can be at peace with myself and have no regrets.

OK peach , you have a good point but how many times have you been out drinking with a cap you know its two or three in the morning next thing you know the light is coming through the window your both nude in bed and you have no idea what happen. It happens more than you can imagen here.

JamesTate- you're funny... That is kind of what happened to me w/ this Cap. guy, and it was only once. But, no, not really. I'm a smart girl, and I knew why I was there and had to prod him along to take me. haha Didn't sleep all night, and fled out of there the next morning.

LOL! I guess I don?t drink that heavy ? to the point that I don?t remember what happen?thanks to my alcohol tolerance🙂 But if I happened to sleep with a guy drunk like that I at least know he was that drunk. If he doesn?t remember at all it tells me that it did not mean much to him.

Well, good to know cappy guys can sleep like that ? I was concerned that if they could since they have this barrier around them 😉