cap on cap action

I will try to make this as short as possible. I'm a capricorn female and I'm interested in a capricorn male. I'm 2nd deacon and he's 3rd, i don't know about our sun signs or anything else. Mutual friends set us up and a group of us went to a concert. My friend said he was a really good dude/not a player/deserved a fun night. He was very engaging, funny, bought me drinks, had a first kiss like in the movies, he'd hold my hand/extend his arm out all gentlemanlike, and told his friend that he liked me a lot. We had both been drinking and I drank more than I should have and stayed the night (please no comments about this because i already know that was a mistake). Next morning he took me to my car and i said thanks and gave him a hug. A few days later my friend said he asked her for my number because he forgot to get it from me. Few days later, i add him on fb and ask if he wanted to go to a haunted house with me and some friends. No response (my friend said later that he was at band practice/busy so he didnt respond). Fast forward to monday. I'm at the bar with the friends that set us up and he shows up and apologizes for not calling, saying he was working a lot. (he's one of two bartenders and when he's not doing that, he's usually serving. my friend works with him and said he does work a lot and the morning after our first night he had to work 10 to midnight) So that night he talked to me all night and was being a little flirty and would touch my back and stuff like that. Got me drunk again, ended up staying the night. I hadnt planned on drinking a lot and I was lucky he got me up early n got me to work on time. I sent him a fb message thanking him because i would have been screwed if he hadn't done that.

As a capricorn, i know i am very apprehensive and pay attention to everything and read way too much into things and one little thing can be a deciding factor for me. I generally like to be friends with someone first, as rushing into things generally freaks me out. I've read a lot about capricorns and capricorn men and i find conflicting information. Some say that they're too shy to make the first move, so go ahead and do it, and I've read that if a cap likes you, he will chase you. Also that at first they are very stand offish because they are sizing you up, trying to determine if they can trust you, then they will open up. He's not really my type at all, but I really like him because he's sweet, creative, funny, quirky, and i felt comfortable around

him which is pretty rare when i first meet someone.

Basically, I'm just wondering if there's any chance he's into me? he did say he liked me and he asked for my number and he's really sweet when I'm around. i feel weird about things because i rarely ever drink and i definitely never sleep around and i dont want to give him the wrong impression. I might see him at the bar on monday and i am debating if i should bring it up/tell him how i feel. i am interested in him and would like to get to know him, but i don't want a casual sex thing. even if he didnt like me in that way, he's a really cool dude and i'd still like to get to know him and be friends. would it be a terrible idea to try to talk to him about it? or should i just chalk it up as a one night stand and drop it?

Whats the question? If it'll work out or if you need to learn how to drink? I'd say if hes not your type let it go. No need to form a relationship just because you might think thats what should happen ( capricorns follow the rules religiously and your need to form a relationship might stem from your saturnian influence, being a capricorn and all). Have fun and enjoy the moment. He likes you and is attracted to you. Just be honest with him and if feelings show up RUN ^.^

Just saw the 2nd post.... Too lazy to read ease take my advise ak owledging i only read your first post *goes into another post*

Yeah, hate to say it, but what is there left to chase? He already got the goods. Twice. Caps are into character. What part of your character have you shown him?

No disrespect to you, because you're entitled to get yours, but you've presented yourself as easy. Cap men want a challenge. They like to earn what they get.

You wanted an honest opinion. So no, he is not into you, you're the booty call.

Honey, you don't want the casual sex thing. Then, don't have casual sex. Drunk is no excuse!!!!!!!

You will learn to set the precedence. You get what you give. Understand?

I might be interpreted as a bitch or judgmental, but I am trying to give you some insight into the male frame of mind.

You still have a shot. When two caps get together everything just clicks. The most natural and comfortable relationship is formed instantly. Just ask him where you guys stand. He already asked about you, Like you asked about him before meeting. Plus both of you have the same goals and qualities that you look for in a potential partner. That's why you guys where hooked up for in the first place...

Posted by capinc
Slept with him on the first night.

NEXT!

lol

Posted by StillWater

Posted by truecap
Honey, you don't want the casual sex thing. Then, don't have casual sex. Drunk is no excuse!!!!!!!

You will learn to set the precedence. You get what you give. Understand?

I might be interpreted as a bitch or judgmental, but I am trying to give you some insight into the male frame of mind.

I think times are changing... it feels like women judge each other more than men now...although there are still men who are very old school.

You just have to be true to yourself.

click to expand

You think so? I am recalling old wives standing by the fence telling gossip and old wives tales, and scorning women who were "outcasts" thus the "Scarlet Letter" type of films.

Women will never really change, honestly, only the times.

I'm not judging the OP. By no means and apologize for it coming off that way.

But, think about this: If she had not had sex with him, she wouldn't be wondering if she had given him the wrong impression.

Posted by StillWater

Posted by truecap
Honey, you don't want the casual sex thing. Then, don't have casual sex. Drunk is no excuse!!!!!!!

You will learn to set the precedence. You get what you give. Understand?

I might be interpreted as a bitch or judgmental, but I am trying to give you some insight into the male frame of mind.

I think times are changing... it feels like women judge each other more than men now...although there are still men who are very old school.

You just have to be true to yourself.

click to expand

I know times are changing. And I realize that everyone has to be true to themselves.

How many threads do we read: We had sex. Does he like me? We had sex, now he's disappeared? We met, had sex, now he won't talk to me. I'm just saying....having sex too soon make women feel insecure and act needy when they're really not.

No judgements here, though it may seem so. I was in their shoes in my younger days and have learned my lessons the hard way.

You have a good point, too.

My own life experience taught me to wait until you know each other and develop feelings and respect for each other. Because if you develop some sort of relationship first, then sex enhances and doesn't destroy or make anyone feel akward (unless it was bad sex! lol!)

But, I'm so much older than yall, so that probably influences my thoughts. My daddy used to say "a girl that puts out goes out, but she doesn't go out for very long. A girl that doesn't put out doesn't go out, but when she does it's for a long time." That's about the only guidance I got from my father on these matters and I guess it made a big impact.

I'll try to keep your point in mind for future posts, though.