Cappy men shy?

So I found out that the guy I approached at the gym is a Capricorn, and he is much younger than me fyi. The initial contact was simple and breezy, the second was good as well, I was able to make him laugh, but perhaps I scared him off by suggesting us hang out one day. I told him that I was pretty new to the area, and don't have anybody to chill with, his response to getting together was neither a yes or no, so I left it that, thank goodness I didn't end up asking for his number lol! I only felt the need to do so because I see him MAYBE once or twice a week.

So yesterday I saw him again, and going by his reaction the last time we talked, I kept my distance. When is finally made eye contact, he gave me a small wave and a weird half smile, I took it as if I had freaked him out. But I kept on catching him looking at me, and when I went to leave the gym, I was close behind him, he glanced back at me as he went through the doors, and again when he got to his car. I proceeded to go up and talk to him for a minute (as to not make things more awkward than they already were), then we parted ways. Again he was very nice, in all three conversations he shared with me things about his mom and dad, his schedule, little stuff that I don't think he would just tell anybody, or maybe he would idk.

He's a very driven individual, has a lot on his plate, so maybe that's why he doesn't have a great, but I just now don't know if I should pursue him or not. Was his aloofness a sign of intimidation because I was so straightforward in approaching him, because he's shy, confused that I was acting cold towards him, or he thinks i'm a psycho hahaha? Thoughts on how to handle this situation?

*when we finally made eye contact
*that's why he doesn't have a gf

Damn phone won't let me go back and fix my errors!

Posted by Foreverloveme
Relax. Let him come to you, he will if he's interested, then you won't have to wonder.

Haha, staying relaxed is almost impossible for me, i'm a Virgo.

I'm only asking because I read that Cappy men are shy around girls they are attracted to. My last guy, a Cancerian, I had to make the first move, because he thought I was taken, wasn't interested in him, and was afraid of rejection.

He's got the green light. Let him process and take the lead from here. Keep being friendly and be your normal self.

Caps like directness, by the way. Don't worry about that. Be friendly, just don't be pushy.

He'll follow up if he's interested.

Posted by truecap
He's got the green light. Let him process and take the lead from here. Keep being friendly and be your normal self.

Caps like directness, by the way. Don't worry about that. Be friendly, just don't be pushy.

He'll follow up if he's interested.

Noted! I guess the ball is in his court now, I can't do much else lol!!! I just hope that I didn't make him feel awkward in any way. I acted kinda distant the last time I saw him, because I don't wanna be one of those girls who throw themselves at a guy. He's a sponsored Bodybuilder, very hot, so i'm sure he has women falling all over him constantly.

What do Cappy's look for in someone they are willing to invest their time into?

And thank you for the advice. 🙂

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Posted by truecap
He's got the green light. Let him process and take the lead from here. Keep being friendly and be your normal self.

Caps like directness, by the way. Don't worry about that. Be friendly, just don't be pushy.

He'll follow up if he's interested.

Noted! I guess the ball is in his court now, I can't do much else lol!!! I just hope that I didn't make him feel awkward in any way. I acted kinda distant the last time I saw him, because I don't wanna be one of those girls who throw themselves at a guy. He's a sponsored Bodybuilder, very hot, so i'm sure he has women falling all over him constantly.

What do Cappy's look for in someone they are willing to invest their time into?

And thank you for the advice. 🙂

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Don't be one of those girls "throwing" themselves at him.
You'll just be another face in the crowd with nothing to offer that sets you apart. Don't be so basic like them.

The best way to get us, along with the other attributes that makes you attractive to us is to make us laugh aND have fun. We come across as serious/boring but we're really not deep down.

I have some Cap friends and we're always making eachother crack up. They say the same thing, help make us relax and you're golden.

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Posted by Jkats

Posted by truecap
He's got the green light. Let him process and take the lead from here. Keep being friendly and be your normal self.

Caps like directness, by the way. Don't worry about that. Be friendly, just don't be pushy.

He'll follow up if he's interested.

Noted! I guess the ball is in his court now, I can't do much else lol!!! I just hope that I didn't make him feel awkward in any way. I acted kinda distant the last time I saw him, because I don't wanna be one of those girls who throw themselves at a guy. He's a sponsored Bodybuilder, very hot, so i'm sure he has women falling all over him constantly.

What do Cappy's look for in someone they are willing to invest their time into?

And thank you for the advice. 🙂

Don't be one of those girls "throwing" themselves at him.
You'll just be another face in the crowd with nothing to offer that sets you apart. Don't be so basic like them.

The best way to get us, along with the other attributes that makes you attractive to us is to make us laugh aND have fun. We come across as serious/boring but we're really not deep down.

I have some Cap friends and we're always making eachother crack up. They say the same thing, help make us relax and you're golden.

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Ok, but what consists of "throwing myself at him"? He talks to a lot of dudes (he's not gay lol), but I rarely see him talking to girls unless they initiate. I've been the one to start the conversations, but when I didn't the last time, he was acting all awkward, but was watching me.

And each time i've made him smile and laugh, but I don't wanna do all the chasing. Or do Cap guys like it when a girl chases? Ugh, why are men so complicated?!

Posted by narb
most cap men like traditional reserved women.

So my forwardness scared him away you think?

@CAPLOCK

Welcome to the boards!! It's awesome you're here, us Cap females are usually the ones answering these threads.

It's nice that cap males are chiming in and giving advice.

Posted by truecap
He's got the green light. Let him process and take the lead from here. Keep being friendly and be your normal self.

Caps like directness, by the way. Don't worry about that. Be friendly, just don't be pushy.

He'll follow up if he's interested.

Co-sign.

But he doesn't seem very secure to me and this is a bit of a red flag:

"I was able to make him laugh, but perhaps I scared him off by suggesting us hang out one day."

Cap men like to lead, but in their own reserved subtle way. They are more likely to hint at doing something than straight out say it in my experience. If you pick up on that stuff you will be fine. Don't doubt yourself though.