Cappy says Im not ready??

Hello all...met this Cappy boy a couple years ago...we started out great, at the time I didnt understand the typical Capricorn male behavior as to why I didnt hear from him for weeks on in etc. so I eventually got fed up and told him I didnt want to talk to him anymore, I dint hear from him for months but randomly I would say hello and he would say hello as well. One day I requested to see him and he told me he didnt want to waste his time...we ended up exchanging some nasty texts and didnt speak or text lol for a year. I recently decided to add him on myspace & try to be cool again. He immediately recognized me and wrote to me, I was hoping he didnt know it was me because I was trying to act like I didnt know it was him but he did... we had a very nice convo. & talked about everything from books to relationships ultimatley leading to one of our last msgs. via myspace where he told me if I was ready to approach him and that it had to be destiny !!! I was overjoyed !!!! 1 week later I ended up seeing him at a party and I was in shock because in the last year since we talked I have gained quite a bit of weight and did not look the same, I TRIED TO AVOID HIM like the plague but of course he snatched me up as I was walking by and told me everything that he knew it was me on myspace where we met for the first time everything I was impressed lol. He was impressed by how much of a socialite i was at the party and how many people I knew to the point when the party was over and we were picking up our cars all he could say was "what do you do" we talked for a few more secs. he gave me a hug & a kiss on the cheek xchanged numbers & we went our separate ways !! I text him the next night but he was very brief telling me he was busy no more conos on myspace nuthin, so I write a few days later trying to start off where we left off he said no..told me he was sorry for neglecting me but that he was busy and told me why do I only text him and say hi..thass all I would initiate the convo with was Hi..to see if he had time for me.. he wrote me back and said.... is that it? I text him the next day and explained I asked him what he wanted ...nothing!! So I asked him if he wanted to be with me he said "if Im ready" then he says he would like to sit down and talk about it first to see what Im about. Im like ok but he does not set a date or anything. Fast forward a week later I try 2 make small talk to and we set up a date to sit down and talk... he flakes on me

told me he doesnt have time to chill lol... the next night he hits me up asking where a certain club is and I tell him and also told him I was there and wanted to se him, he comes through and basically we talk almost the whole night but he kinda avoids the relationship subject... understandable however he is checking me out from head to toe, inspecting my jewelery my shoes outfit even asking me what kinda lipgloss I wore..then he goes on to tell me he is not looking for sex from a gyrl because he can have sex whenevr he wants he said he was looking for mental stimulation....ok club is over he puts his arm around me and walks me out the club soon as he get 2 the door he walks off and leaves me i call him back he gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and leaves again lol!! 4 days later we ave a convo. via text again the his last message to me... timing is everything I come off as a keeper, being with him requires more than words kisses or sex blah blah blah & He doesnt think Im ready !!! He doesnt think Im ready..can somebody please interpret !!!! I told him I can show him better than I can tell him..havent heard from him in a week.. I hope its not cuzz of my weight oh and my hair was a little wild the night we our chat at the club.. but what else am I doing wrong? Why cant I get through to him I feel really stupid having asked him to be with me 95 % initiating all of our conversations and then gettin dissed like that... Im like whoa this has NEVER happened to me b4 and I am BEYOND confused someone please advise on my next step please

He's playing hard to get. Most Capricorns play that same bulls**t game. And when it's not that game, they're likely married so again they are "hard to get." I think they want to be chased and begged. If you're not into that type of game, just walk away, leave him be. If you are very interested in him, and want him around, you need to change the way act around him. Here's what you do, act indifferent. Show mostly appathy towards him, even if on the inside you're melting and screaming "I love you", be cool. Don't be an ice queen, if he tells you a funny joke, laugh, he'll be fine with that, just don't act clingy. Also, talk less, listen more. Listen to anything and everything he tells you, even when he tells it to you for the 10th time. Don't interrupt him. Let him tell you more and more about who he is. You can casually ask some leading questions. For example, "who do you consider your hero?" If he answers with only a name, ask him why he believes that person/character is so special. Or ask "What type of movies do you like most?" then ask what he finds so facinating about those type of movies. And you have to listen. If he tells you some secret or something embarassing about his past, do not tell anyone. It's only between you and him. Once he gets more and more used to you, he'll let his guard down more and eventually he'll tell you everything. You just have to be a cool friend in his eyes first, then he may consider something else with you. This by the way may take years but if he means that much to you, don't give up. Again, men hate needy and clingy women. So, you must at all times act like you have a life even if you don't. Go out, hang out with friends, don't bother calling him back the instant you see a missed call from him on your phone. Call the next day. Don't stress about it too much if he flakes out on you, don't tell him that it bothers you. He's counting on that. He's testing your sensitive bottons. He'll be shocked and intrigued by you if you act like nothing happened. When he calls you in a month after the incident trying to appologise, say something unexpected like "Oh, that night? Don't worry about it! One of my friends was celebrating her bithday the same night and since you didn't show I went to her birthday party instead." That way he won't get a mental image of you all dressed up and sobbing in the corner because he didn't show. He'll see you as someone strong who bounced back quickly and painlessly.

It will seem to him almost like a date wasn't something you even considered serious. It will also imply to him that you may not see him as someone serious. At that point, he'll turn around and try to prove to you that he too, is serious and that you shouldn't dismiss him so fast.
You see, in most cases, the more you try to get away from a guy, the more he wants to be with you. And the more available you are, the less interesting you'll be for him.

If you do get into a relationship with him, don't tell him that you love him first. Trust me on this one!

I miself would only date people who are available. I hate chasing men. The minute I put my eye on a guy and he starts acting like he's a prize that I must work hard in order to achieve, I walk away. I don't think I'm willing to invest all that energy into something that may not last. Unless the feelings involved are very strong where I feel I'm so in love I may die, I don't even bother. If they want to act like they're a gift of God, that I must earn, I leave them alone with their overinflated ego. There's plenty of other fish in the sea. Games are too exhausting and not for me. But that's just my opinion.

Anyway, good luck!