Cappys depression

I have a cappy male friend who is really depressive and I need pointers on how to give him at least a little glimmer of hope in the love department.When he's around single females they are usually not willing to take him on as a date perspective because he's always dogging himself.I don't know what his charts are or anything but he's a very nice guy,good job,nice car,house and his only problem is the nobody will ever love me depressing attitude.Then women who he at first doesn't think anything of because thier married or involved and is himself around them and knows his lack of confidence and use it to thier advantage in the material gifts department and he always ends up hurt.Tried fixing him(at his request as well) up but that always fails because the girls don't think he's interested because he clams up,gets depressive on them or overly does it with flowers and attention.Pointing out that his depressiveness is his only problem has also failed as well.Although I know a psychologist is best for him he doesn't think he has a problem in that area and thinks its just him on the whole,and nobody can make anyone do anything anyways.I'm not interested in him in anyway beyond friends so does anyone have suggestions on this that doesn't involve me doing anything with him in that way.

shoot him, put the poor bastard out of his missery, did you everthink that perhaps he may be a homosexual, could be maybe he isn't turned on by girls. look at it from his point of view if he acts like he is depressed he doen't have to face facts.

I am new to this board so first thing is: Hello to everybody!
Tiamat, from my point of view and being a cappy myself, I think it is fairly difficult to help a Capricorn out of any kind of emotionally depressing situation. They have to find their own way and sometimes time does it for them. For some cappies, especially when they are quite young, one major task is to learn how to deal with emotional situations and people they are emotionally involved with. They either seem really detached towards the person they are interested in or tend to overdo things, just because they do not trust their own feelings and do not always follow them. How old is he and did he have any happy relationships so far?
So actually the only idea I have is to be a good friend for him in the way of cheering him up and making him feel alright. I learned that the person himself has to find a deeper insight in what bothers him. So maybe that could be something you could help him with.

My best friend is a girl cappy and she is doing that right now, except she tries to act like she has no emotion, which is worse. I know what's going on because she just says she wants to be alone and then barely calls or acts like she exsists. It's wierd, but I'll have to agree with yaline. Caps are really hard to get out of a rut. They have to watch everyone else for a while and then get the guts to do something about it. That's why my best friend and I understand eachother's space. She needs the space to recollect and get her "sh@!" together and so do I. You can tell someone how to be until you're blue in the face before you just have to tell them they're on their own. I know that sounds tough, but you have to. What's his rising sign?

He's thirty,i've started to think he's doesn't want commentment as well but don't think he's gay.Im just to the point that I don't know what to tell him when he comes to me with these problems.I don't know what his moon,rising or anything is,I forgot what his birthtime was.At this point I think im just going to do the deal with it way just didn't know if it would make things worse,I just wanted to see if anyone else has experianced this and had opinions on this problem.As well as wanted to see if im not thinking of something to do or say,other people i've known with these problems have all evenually gone to get help on thier own,or admitted that it was a game for whatever reason which im starting to wonder about too but would like to think optimistically about the intentions because everywhere else our friendship is great.Thanks everyone.

Oh yeah,although he's thirty he's only had two long term girlfriends he overdoes it with them although they do care about him they break it off with him over it.All the rest has been the involved women and ones that don't stick around for longer then a couple dates.I've ran out of nicer ways of telling him to stop doing the flowers on a daily basis,favorite whatever for no reason,so on and so forth,he'd like to pamper them but the over doing it makes it feel like grobling to them.

wow...he sounds like he's a hopeless romantic. Yeah just tell him to back off a bit with the ladies. Tell him flowers are for just because occasions or special occasions. In this case he needs to have a life other than them. haha. Wish I knew what to say, but maybe he will actually find a girl who likes all of that overdone stuff.

God am I ever depressed, I cant take much more I am a capricorn And I find people calling us cappy,s or caps very depressing we get no respect.

What would you like to be called? 🙂

Yeah he is a hopeless romantic I will use that advice,thanks.Sorry jake at least from me it's meant in a term of endearment for the cappy thing.The other friends and relatives I have that just happen to be capricorns are just so cute and loveable sometimes.But yeah,I guess it can be a little too cutesy plus im kinda lazy.

I'm a Capricorn man.

It's very difficult to read your posts Tiamat. Ultimately, though, Capricorns have to figure themselves out. Unless you're a Scorpio it may be VERY difficult to get through to him.

I suggest trying to get him interested in an online game like Second Life, There, or The Sims Online. Second Life is the best. There he can go and mingle with people from the safety and security of home. He can let his real personality out, and hopefully develop some social skills.

Actually I am a scorpio.Just feeling a little burnt out at the moment and looking for other suggestions.And sorry,I know,I need to drill"paragraphs good"into my head,and do got a few typos and skipping of letters in there too,wasn't paying attention.I'll try that suggestion too.Thank you.

GEMGEM call all capricorn males stud muffin that will do females you will have to ask TIAMAT this is not a grammer contest I only type drunk.hem.

LOL. OH my god! You're too funny. Okay from now on I'll call them stud muffins.

Will sexy beasts work too?Rubs nipples thinking of capricorns.

Yoohoo.

"Sexy Beast," is actually probably more appropriate. 😄

Save, "Stud Muffin," for another Cardinal sign.

I like the sexy beast one a lot more. haha. In fact I've already said that one to my "sexy beast." It was a joke though and he liked it of course. I can always find something to make him laugh.

LOL gone for a weekend and come back to this I love it.