nngemini
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capricorn behavior- help!
I wouldn't say this is Cap behavior...In general it could be you've both spent enough time together and he needs time to unwind by himself.
Try not to make a man's behavior and energy about you or you'll always feel confused. Just go about your day and forget about it.
Try not to spend your down time worrying because you end up creating a problem where there was no problem, instead find something positive to do to preoccupy your thoughts.
Some women don't understand how our female energy can drain a man, we literally can suck the energy right out of a man and he needs his own down time to regenerate.
Try not to make a man's behavior and energy about you or you'll always feel confused. Just go about your day and forget about it.
Try not to spend your down time worrying because you end up creating a problem where there was no problem, instead find something positive to do to preoccupy your thoughts.
Some women don't understand how our female energy can drain a man, we literally can suck the energy right out of a man and he needs his own down time to regenerate.
Tiki's right, I wouldn't take it so personally.... 🙂
Gem I'm curious if you're Cap comes back rejuvenated and all around in a wonderful good mood or does he come back cranky, angry, cold, slightly withdrawn? What's his mood like when he finally comes around again.
If you continue to feed into the negativity then yes your biggest fear will eventually come true.
I always say have something fun and wonderful to do, something you can fully engage in and fully absorb yourself in so you can break the negative thought patterns you're developing.
Don't you have a hobby that you love doing? Just something that makes you feel regenerated and rejuvenated. Get busy, stop making your man your whole entire life because he can't be responsible for you and for himself, too much pressure for a man to be responsible for your happiness.
Men generally are happiest when they see their women happy not just when he's with her but when he's without her. Makes him feel less suffocated when he can't spend some time engaging in his hobbies/life.
If he continues to see you react to him in a negative way he'll eventually decide that he's had enough of the suffocating fearful energy he's feeling and experiencing with you.
You can stop the cycle without the alcohol but you gotta really put some positive effort and energy into something else that is productive and healthy for you---you'd be surprised how that can turn it all around for you.
If you continue to feed into the negativity then yes your biggest fear will eventually come true.
I always say have something fun and wonderful to do, something you can fully engage in and fully absorb yourself in so you can break the negative thought patterns you're developing.
Don't you have a hobby that you love doing? Just something that makes you feel regenerated and rejuvenated. Get busy, stop making your man your whole entire life because he can't be responsible for you and for himself, too much pressure for a man to be responsible for your happiness.
Men generally are happiest when they see their women happy not just when he's with her but when he's without her. Makes him feel less suffocated when he can't spend some time engaging in his hobbies/life.
If he continues to see you react to him in a negative way he'll eventually decide that he's had enough of the suffocating fearful energy he's feeling and experiencing with you.
You can stop the cycle without the alcohol but you gotta really put some positive effort and energy into something else that is productive and healthy for you---you'd be surprised how that can turn it all around for you.
Posted by tiki33
Gem I'm curious if you're Cap comes back rejuvenated and all around in a wonderful good mood or does he come back cranky, angry, cold, slightly withdrawn? What's his mood like when he finally comes around again.
If you continue to feed into the negativity then yes your biggest fear will eventually come true.
I always say have something fun and wonderful to do, something you can fully engage in and fully absorb yourself in so you can break the negative thought patterns you're developing.
Don't you have a hobby that you love doing? Just something that makes you feel regenerated and rejuvenated. Get busy, stop making your man your whole entire life because he can't be responsible for you and for himself, too much pressure for a man to be responsible for your happiness.
Men generally are happiest when they see their women happy not just when he's with her but when he's without her. Makes him feel less suffocated when he can't spend some time engaging in his hobbies/life.
If he continues to see you react to him in a negative way he'll eventually decide that he's had enough of the suffocating fearful energy he's feeling and experiencing with you.
You can stop the cycle without the alcohol but you gotta really put some positive effort and energy into something else that is productive and healthy for you---you'd be surprised how that can turn it all around for you.
When my Cap comes back from his cave, he behaves as if nothing happened, and is very cheerful and happy to see me.
Perhaps part of the reason might be cause i never complained or showed i notice he withdraws (this might be a mistake maybe but we havent been dating long enough for me to have a right to complain just yet)
i have my own stuff i do when he is not around, i try to txt just very briefly to show i am thinking about him, or when i have something concrete to tell him.
i have learned that he is not a type who would keep in touch all the time (unlike my exs for which i have a hard time adjusting), so i just try to get along....
Posted by GemShimmiesPosted by tiki33
Gem I'm curious if you're Cap comes back rejuvenated and all around in a wonderful good mood or does he come back cranky, angry, cold, slightly withdrawn? What's his mood like when he finally comes around again.
If you continue to feed into the negativity then yes your biggest fear will eventually come true.
I always say have something fun and wonderful to do, something you can fully engage in and fully absorb yourself in so you can break the negative thought patterns you're developing.
Don't you have a hobby that you love doing? Just something that makes you feel regenerated and rejuvenated. Get busy, stop making your man your whole entire life because he can't be responsible for you and for himself, too much pressure for a man to be responsible for your happiness.
Men generally are happiest when they see their women happy not just when he's with her but when he's without her. Makes him feel less suffocated when he can't spend some time engaging in his hobbies/life.
If he continues to see you react to him in a negative way he'll eventually decide that he's had enough of the suffocating fearful energy he's feeling and experiencing with you.
You can stop the cycle without the alcohol but you gotta really put some positive effort and energy into something else that is productive and healthy for you---you'd be surprised how that can turn it all around for you.click to expand
He fluctuates quickly and usually he's pretty rejuvented....but i had a hard time understanding this til recently so i cant act like ive let him completely up for air. We have opposing shifts and different days off so we arent usually stepping over each other....though he thinks i text too much. Ive been trying to chill....but then i wont text and he'll get an attitude. The one day we were both waiting for the other to text and he got mad because i didnt cave.....and i didnt tell him id be 20 minutes late from work.
Ive explained to him that on my days off i have zero issue with him taking a "him" day as long as i have one of those nights. I told him i feel like hid priority is his tv, xbox, phone games and if there's time left over then i get that....if not oh well. He accused me of not being happy with him. That isnt true at all....though the adjustment has been ro
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You guys are MARRIED, not dating. You seem as if you're playing the dating game of keeping score. In a marriage, it doesn't matter who texts first. Communication is what is important. All those games should be over by now.
And, it was very inconsiderate of you not to let him know you're going to be late getting home from work. He was probably worried about you.
You guys are MARRIED, not dating. You seem as if you're playing the dating game of keeping score. In a marriage, it doesn't matter who texts first. Communication is what is important. All those games should be over by now.
And, it was very inconsiderate of you not to let him know you're going to be late getting home from work. He was probably worried about you.
Posted by nngeminiPosted by tiki33
Gem I'm curious if you're Cap comes back rejuvenated and all around in a wonderful good mood or does he come back cranky, angry, cold, slightly withdrawn? What's his mood like when he finally comes around again.
If you continue to feed into the negativity then yes your biggest fear will eventually come true.
I always say have something fun and wonderful to do, something you can fully engage in and fully absorb yourself in so you can break the negative thought patterns you're developing.
Don't you have a hobby that you love doing? Just something that makes you feel regenerated and rejuvenated. Get busy, stop making your man your whole entire life because he can't be responsible for you and for himself, too much pressure for a man to be responsible for your happiness.
Men generally are happiest when they see their women happy not just when he's with her but when he's without her. Makes him feel less suffocated when he can't spend some time engaging in his hobbies/life.
If he continues to see you react to him in a negative way he'll eventually decide that he's had enough of the suffocating fearful energy he's feeling and experiencing with you.
You can stop the cycle without the alcohol but you gotta really put some positive effort and energy into something else that is productive and healthy for you---you'd be surprised how that can turn it all around for you.
When my Cap comes back from his cave, he behaves as if nothing happened, and is very cheerful and happy to see me.
Perhaps part of the reason might be cause i never complained or showed i notice he withdraws (this might be a mistake maybe but we havent been dating long enough for me to have a right to complain just yet)
i have my own stuff i do when he is not around, i try to txt just very briefly to show i am thinking about him, or when i have something concrete to tell him.
i have learned that he is not a type who would keep in touch all the time (unlike my exs for which i have a hard time adjusting), so i just try to get along....click to expand
That's what is good about recharging. They're happier to see you when they get recharged, instead of resentful that they don't get alone time. You're doing the right thing by not noticing. Just be happy to see him.
Posted by truecapPosted by nngeminiPosted by tiki33
Gem I'm curious if you're Cap comes back rejuvenated and all around in a wonderful good mood or does he come back cranky, angry, cold, slightly withdrawn? What's his mood like when he finally comes around again.
If you continue to feed into the negativity then yes your biggest fear will eventually come true.
I always say have something fun and wonderful to do, something you can fully engage in and fully absorb yourself in so you can break the negative thought patterns you're developing.
Don't you have a hobby that you love doing? Just something that makes you feel regenerated and rejuvenated. Get busy, stop making your man your whole entire life because he can't be responsible for you and for himself, too much pressure for a man to be responsible for your happiness.
Men generally are happiest when they see their women happy not just when he's with her but when he's without her. Makes him feel less suffocated when he can't spend some time engaging in his hobbies/life.
If he continues to see you react to him in a negative way he'll eventually decide that he's had enough of the suffocating fearful energy he's feeling and experiencing with you.
You can stop the cycle without the alcohol but you gotta really put some positive effort and energy into something else that is productive and healthy for you---you'd be surprised how that can turn it all around for you.
When my Cap comes back from his cave, he behaves as if nothing happened, and is very cheerful and happy to see me.
Perhaps part of the reason might be cause i never complained or showed i notice he withdraws (this might be a mistake maybe but we havent been dating long enough for me to have a right to complain just yet)
i have my own stuff i do when he is not around, i try to txt just very briefly to show i am thinking about him, or when i have something concrete to tell him.
i have learned that he is not a type who would keep in touch all the time (unlike my exs for which i have a hard time adjusting), so i just try to get along....click to expand
That's what is good about recharging. They're happier to see you when they get recharged, instead of resentful that they don't get
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