Capricorn: First Encounter

Hello I met a Capricorn man about two months ago. It came out of nowhere, unexpected. He was in town for business, I met him at an outing and we clicked immediately; totally mind blowing for me and quite scary. What made it even more scary but intriguing was after the outing we sat and talked; he expressed he liked me and wanted me to keep in touch;any times he expressed for me not to forget, etc. We exchanged numbers and continued to talk to the wee hour of the morning. He was even very affectionate; cuddly and tender kisses to the forehead. One would think it was moving really fast and maybe other motives, but not once were there advances; it felt really natural. Coincidentally we bother traveling the next day and to the same city; we spent more time, it felt really natural again.

After that weekend together, we continued to communicate, on a normal basis, a lot of love bird talk via text as he continued on with biz. A month went past with this type of action. It wasn't until around the beginning of the second month that things somwhat turned. He had to go out of state for a few weeks; I Barely heard from him which made me worry that something was wrong. I asked him and he just expressed he was really busy with work; from beginning he expressed that he gets really busy with work but it doesn't mean he doesn't want to talk with me, but being the Cancer I am, I worried. The few weeks went by and I was able to see him the next week. The chemistry was still there and I was able to even see a side of humor in him I never knew he had, plus a tad of his jealousy as he mentioned how he could see there was an old flame between a friend of mine an me during our outing. Before he left, he expressed to me he was scared of me, that this was on a real "lovey dovey" level and he could see him self worrying about what I'm doing at this moment and that moment and with what he has going on with his career he couldn't have that. He expressed that he liked how things were going and wanted to take it slow. At first it strikes me as of I was doing something wrong, he quickly said no and he just wanted to take it slow. He leaves and it's back to a distance, where he ignores my txts and calls. I've read caps become cold and distant and patience is needed, but when I don't hear from him I worry. Any suggestions to cope with this Cappy? I really like him and feel something can grow.

haha! sooooo typical of a cap! everything u described fits my old cap male friend to a "T"!

ur just gonna hafta roll with it... or get out. he will not be pushed or he'll push himself on out. they tend to feel the need to plan everything and they really are super busy career ppl. the hypocritical side is that they want u to be ready for them whenever they wanna hang out. my cap would have to "pencil me in" whereas he would turn around and expect me to drop everything for him with very short notice. anyway, don't get too emotionally wrapped up because u could literally be waiting years if u don't fit conveniently into his life as a gf. it won't matter how much he may like or love u.

Posted by Chance11
yeah.. if we start to like someone we back off for a little bit as it's a little overwhelming and we have trouble expressing ourselves. usually we pick someone that can help us with that(like a cancer). just wait..if he comes back then that means he really likes you and it sounds like he does..cappies are cautious so he's prolly just taking his time cos he doesn't wanna mess it up..he's just consumed with work so that he can have a comfortable, secure future with someone like you. good luck!

thanks for the insight on you Caps 🙂 I'd like to think I have good intuitions and feel that all is well, but I am really into him now, against what I wanted; it was so fast! Lol. Wait,eh? I have decide as of today to cool it with my attempts to reach him and my "miss you's",etc and letting him know how much I like him because I wouldn't get a response and felt maybe it was too much...is that kind of thing too much for Caps?

I'm just going to say it, your going to get hurt and real bad. Cap men tend to move FAST to get a woman emotionally bonded to him so this creates confusion in the woman because she has all these feelings and doesn't have an outlet because he's UNAVAILABLE emotionally mentally physically.

I warn and caution you to back up and stop following your feelings and use some objectivity. This man travels which means he most likely has other women on the fly as well (they can be some big womanizers/players) he dangled the I'm developing feelings for you carrot and that made you give him more of yourself, unless you want heartbreak I would warn you to ease back and let him find a way to emotionally bond himself to you because without it your not going to get anything out of this situation, all you will get is a relationship on his terms. Many cap men do this quick fast love bomb kind of behavior only to back out when the woman wants more of him.

Stop chasing him with the I miss you's, I like you's or whatever it is your doing, listen to ninjamu, she is telling you no lies, I would urge you to date other men, go have fun and forget this capricorn until he makes an effort to BE in your life, take it as a great encounter with a great man and hopefully he will MAKE TIME for you in the future but out of sight out of mind, I would not allow the relationship to be on his terms through text messages and emails, you deserve more than that, you deserve a man that is physically there with you, for you. If you want to be close try to develop a friendship without all the loving expressions, let him do it but you hold back to give him time to bond with you until then your just another girl he had an encounter with. To us women we think wow that was a great connection, a great encounter that is promising for a future but to most of these men they feel strong chemistry, strong bonds on a daily so to them it's just another great encounter and they move on, don't get caught up thinking this is forever, just let it be what it was and if it develops into more then it will without much effort on your part.

Don't make it too easy for a Cap!!! Once we feel there is no competition in getting a girl, we start to get bored!!! And the more you show interest in a Capricorn, the more confident we get!!!

"yeah.. if we start to like someone we back off for a little bit as it's a little overwhelming and we have trouble expressing ourselves."

I get that from every Capricorns girls I've met and the comfort level never seem to completely settle in for some reason. It could be because water signs are not emotionally stable enough. Maybe I don't know.