Capricorn madness

Since last August to date I have had the worse time of my life. I separated from my husband (going for divorce). Meet I great guy (ex harrassed him and so I told him to go for his sake) and am now on my own. I have started to look deeply within myself =- see who I really am, what I want in life etc etc. This seems to be a relationship based problem. Is any other cap having these types of problems at the moment? Is it something in the air or have I been singled out?

You are definitely not alone. I am in a similar position and it scares the hell out of me - but rely on yourself - Cappies can and do cope with these sort of problems!

I had been on my own longer than I can remember. Whenever I 'think' I need 'company', it turns out sour. Somehow, I like my own company, as I found out, 'bit too late, that men are just 'human beings', and a lot of tolerance and empathy is needed to relate to them; they are just like kids ( you know you have to pick after them, and praise them for things that are ordinarily done by MYSELF, etc ). Unfortunately, I don't like 'kids' much as I had raised 'two' of my own, single-handedly, and thus look up for some real FUN. No warts please...!

I hope you not relaying that all men are the way you have protrayed. We have difficulty understanding exactly what you women want. Your communication skills are awful - to make a point you ladies go through two books before we men know what is the point.

I am a capricorn, and when I have issues I look at myself first. I'm true to myself. Besides, I cannot change anyone else other than me. Look at yourself, be true to thyself.

I too am in the same boat. My advice is to find an awesome counselor that you can go to one time a week and vent. I have been given so many GREAT ideas and am focusing on myself for the first time in my life. I feel happier, have more energy and don't worry about having that significant other in my life. I am okay just being with me! Goals are out there and I find people cling more to me because how I feel!

I think it's been a tough time lately for some of us Capricorns.. Well, Caps do seem to be good at spending time on our own.

(A Capricorn guy)

Don't feel alone everyone, Scorpios I think are also sailing in rough weather lately too. : ( Luckily, every crappy cycle has a peak and a drop, an ebb and a flow, a wx and a wane...that kind of thing.

Here comes the sun, little darling/
Here comes the sun, and I say/
It all right..

LOL : )

love to you all,
phoenix_rising
(scorpio female)

"I am focusing on myself for the first time in my life. I feel happier, have more energy and don't worry about having that significant other in my life"...well said 155.77.2.253!!! I've been through quite a major change over the past few months, I've become happier and more free than I've ever been in my whole life! You can call it a spiritual change, I've learned to love and enjoy the people around me!

The only big problem I have nowadays is with my husband, he doesn't understand me anymore! He's a Leo and very practical, while I've changed the other way around, I've become less practical....but I enjoy myself! It puts a serious strain on my marriage, I'm not sure if it will hold....

So yes I've changed very much as well! And I like it...LOL! does anybody have the same problem with changing relationships?

Seagoat

Hi Seagoat!

Yes, I think a lot of people have this situation arise in their relationships. We all are growing. Some of us follow that urge and grow and others cannot seem to adapt to change and therefore, exist. My ex and I went through this and we did not make it (as you can tell by "ex") The therapist that we were seeing at the time said that usually when one person changes and the other doesn't, the marriage will not be able to grow together and therefore will not last. He was correct in our case. (somehow deep in my heart I KNEW that it was not going to last...I needed that "outside" affirmation). I wish you my best and I am so glad that you are feeling great! Hey, this is what life is about 🙂

Feelin Free