Capricorn man: distance and mixed signals

I dated my Capricorn man over four years ago very briefly. Things didn't work out because he told me he gets very attached to girls, and was still attached to his ex gf at the time. About a year ago, he told me he deeply regreted it, and we finally got into a commited relationship and things were going great. He told me he loved me and wanted to be with me forever. He was so proud of me for graduating college. However, I kept my job as an exotic dancer because I was stressed over money (which I am now qutting in a few weeks). He told me he loved me, but if I didn't grow up and get a "real" job, he wouldn't stick around forever. After 11 months, he told me he wasn't happy anymore and needed "space" to figure things out (even though I made sure to give him plenty of it...maybe too much...during our relationship).

Here's where it gets complicated. A few days later I found out I was pregnant. It took him a few days to even talk to me about it. He said he will support whatever decision I make and I am choosing to keep the baby. He went with me to an ultrasound and I asked him if there was any chance we could work on our relationship so that we could raise he baby together as a couple. He said, "I'm not going to say no never, but right now I still need some time to myself." I told him to tell me the truth because I would rather move on with my life now than be hurt even more in the long run. He said, "Let's just take it day by day".

As an Aries, I am aware I am impatient, but I am working very hard at improving that. He is now sending me mixed messages and I am so confused. He has made it clear that he will be there for our baby, but I am unsure where our relationship stands. He asked me to spend his birthday with him (which I thought was a good sign) and took me out to dinner. He even asked me to stay the night (we just spent time together...nothing sexual) so I thought that was a step in the right direction. However, now he is ignoring me again! He is 29 so I figured he would ready to settle down if he truly does want to be with me.

Does anyone have any advice for how I should deal with him? I am currently looking for a "real" job like he wants me to. I told him I love him and am trying to give him his space (I know Caps are slow to show emotion in relationships), but don't know what else to do? I am willing to do anything to make it work because I love him so much! Any advice is appreciated! Thank you!

Thank you QUIETstorm! 🙂 I appreciate your advice and you taking the time to read my long post lol.

That makes me feel so much better! There was definitely no betrayal involved, he didn't even question the fact that the baby was his. I also know he isn't seeing anyone else either. Thanks so much again! 🙂

Get yoursef a decent woman's job, take care of yourself and the baby focus on your pregnancy and I think he will come around as you do so. Cap men are family type men and if you prove to him that you are worthy of building a good family life with him he will come around especially after the baby is born. Thats my gues..

Thank you so much QUIETstorm and Metoo for your support! 🙂

"I have to ask, what exactly constitutes a "decent woman's job"? "

Wiping ass for a living and showing your ass for a living is two diffrent things. No man wants to marry a woman that is showing her ass to thousands of other men for fun or money..Thats What this was all about in the first place and the point of my comment...

Two questions.

1. Have you been looking for a real job since you graduated? I mean REALLY looking, not just applying here and there.
2. What is the real reason you are quitting your job at the strip joint? Is it because he asked you to (no, you've been there 11 months after he asked you to quit). Is it because you're pregnant? (this is my guess).

Caps are all about image. The image he has of his long-term girlfriend/wife is NOT of a stripper.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to sound harsh. But it appears to me you are only quitting because you're pregnant and not because he asked you to. Now, you have no choice, you can't dance pregnant. I'm sure this is how it looks to him. Did you consider he might be embarrassed to present a stripper as someone he loves and wants to marry?

I'm not judging you, but in his world, his mother and other's might....see what I'm saying?

I think he will eventually come around. At the worse case, he will take care of this child. I suggest you do get what he views as a more respectable job, because there is a chance he will sue you for custody after this baby is born.

Like I said, I don't mean to be harsh. I'm just bringing up this angle to try to help you.