Capricorn men and responding to soft ...

Sometimes I receive no response from him -- it's kind of his way. I inserted a personal dance party because him responding made me happy.

Posted by Ms.Pisces
I'm wondering why you're dancing around like you won the lottery, simply because he responded to your text. That should be a given, especially if you are willing to spend the day with him in bed.

It is a big deal. Caps only gush on the inside and rarely do we let on that we are. I ignore this kind of stuff all the time.

Warholian: If it's one thing that I've learned about my Capricorn man is that he certainly allows me to take the time to appreciate the simple things he does for me -- the fact that he responded tells me he cares. I was beaming at the fact that he responded -- it tells me he acknowledged my message and kinda liked it. I think my message made him happy (though he'd never tell me this, and that's quite alright). You know, it's interesting -- I tell some of my friends about these things and they say "Wow. You're happy with that kind of response? Seems to me you've lowered your standards ..." Interesting, huh?

Curious -- why do you ignore messages like these? Do you not like them, or is it difficult to respond to as a cap male?

Ms. Pisces/Archer: I agree with you both to a certain extent on this. I sent a sweet message and in him responding is him "being sweet", I guess. However, he's never been one to "take a hint" -- I have to be direct in my requests, or, he makes the decision that I will stay in bed with HIM (which I never object to unless I have something to do myself). I hope one day soon he will set aside the time to stay in bed on a rainy day. Even if for a few minutes ... we've done it before, we'll do it again.

If I got that text I'd be really happy about it. I wouldn't call and say "I'm really happy about this." It's more a gender thing than a cap thing. But caps don't spout out emotions like that unless asked. Or if they have a lot of water in their chart.

Thanks, Warholian. You have answered my question and I appreciate it. I will take the fact that he responded as a "good sign" -- a sign that he does, in ways, appreciate my "soft-ness" and that I should feel good about him and his thoughts about me.

Do Capricorn men have the ability to go weeks without seeing someone they're involved with?

The ability? Yes. More than others. I see a lot of girls come on here with the whole "capricorn disappeared again" and all that. It's sad because we are loners and people take it personally. We don't require the company of others as much as most people do and most times we prefer to be alone, especially if there is work involved or we are trying to sort though those disgusting things called emotions. We stay busy, to a fault, and forget to make time for play. I don't know how to tell you how to help him with that. I'm still looking for the one who can keep me distracted long enough for me to learn how to relax and have a good time without worrying about the superfluous list of things to do that I can't get out of my head. Good luck. We are a frustrating lot.

Frustrating? Yes. Worth it? Absolutely. I guess I just need to be comforted on this element of Capricorn behavior. I've never dated a Capricorn man, but now that I am, I realize how important it is to remind myself that "I am appreciated" without hearing it, and knowing he has decided to keep me in his life because I don't "need" him all the time. I'm sure Capricorn men would tell a woman in their life "it's not you, it's ... well never mind. It is you. Peace out," if they really didn't want her around, right ...?

This is what's most puzzling to me, though: How do I love him in the right ways if I don't see him? Is there a way to do this? I want to be good to him, and with not seeing him, I feel that I'm not accomplishing this ...

What is your sign CapTaur? Really it depends on the day. I love anyone who has the ability to leave me the hell alone. After a while of not hearing from somebody, I'll call them. I'm not saying totally ignore him, but you should probably find a hobby. Share your ambitions, ask him for help on a project...that means a lot.

Thanks, Warholian. I'm Taurus. I was raised around Capricorns -- my mom and older brother, so I have a decent idea of their character (never even seen my mom cry ...).

The good news in all of this is that I do make sure to stick to my own schedule and hobbies (you're right, it helps a lot) -- I love to read, jog and go to the theater (on separate occasions, not simultaneously); I also love travelling so I'm usually off doing that. The most difficult thing I deal with in dating this capricorn is the doubt I feel from friends ... I tell my friends "we're dating" and then they ask "okay ... so you're dating, but you haven't seen him in over three weeks ... you're okay with that? Sure he isn't sending you some other sign?"

I don't think he's trying to "send me any signals", and I'd never guilt him into confirming something he's not feeling with me just to silence the noise. When we talk on the phone, we both are happy to hear from each other -- he wakes up from afternoon naps to talk to me, and that, to me, says "you're my girl", but usually I do the initiating when it comes to communication and I guess I should hold off until he comes to me ...? Absence makes the heart grow fonder ...

Oh, you got it down. Don't listen to your friends. Just how perfect our their relationships to be nay saying yours? You'll get the feel for initiating communication (which as you know will primarily be your duty). As long as it comes in intervals and you don't need to be in constant contact, you'll be fine. The only improvement I can see you making is learning how to jog and read at the same time. That would really impress him 🙂

I have loved every taurus I've met. They seem to "get" me naturally. And our sense of humor seems to match up nicely.

Warholian, you have really helped me out. Thank you for your words of confirmation and taking the time to answer my questions.

Off to find a good book and a sturdy treadmill ...

Archer, didn't you have a similar problem with a Cap man? he was surprised why you can tell him nice words, or compliments. My Cap colleague is always doing hard while I bet he is interested in me. It is an advantage for me that he is so cold. I flirt with no followups.

Doesn't sound like a real relationship to me, if he's not pursuing you then he's not that interested albeit everyone has time in there life when they are busy busy busy but being busy is no excuse for neglecting another person by not reaching out to her from time to time to validate the relationship, if it's a real relationship and I would have to agree with your friends to a certain extent that your lowering yourself yet most of the taurus women that come on dxp seem to always lower themselves when it comes to cap men (not sure why) which is always a huge mistake because he won't work for it, he will just be lazy and do what he wants which is how it pretty much ends up and he will treat you like a doormat, I notice a lot of that on dxp but Warholian gave you hope and there is nothing wrong with hope d:

Sagigoat: Wise words. You're absolutely correct -- I will make sure there's still some mystery and a little challenge in our situation. He likes to work hard, so I should give him the opportunity to do so ...

Tiki: Well, it's not a "real" relationship -- not yet at least. We're still in that uncertain stage dating -- the one where we're both thinking from time to time "do we really wanna do this?" So far, we both still want to pursue it. However, I find it curious that this stage of "uncertainty" is usually an extremely long one when involved in a Capricorn.

Every now and again he and I will reach out from time to time to validate the fact that we still like each other. This could be every day, this could be once a week. And in response to the "lowering my standards" comment -- well, maybe in your eyes this situation could be defined as such, but in my eyes, he's doing alright -- he's doing what he can (emotionally), and as long as I'm establishing a comfortable platform on which he is comfortable enough to open up, I'm happy.

Ms. Pisces: Interesting comment. I like initiating contact, I guess. I'm a bit of a hunter myself, though I'd like to think that I pounce in discrete and lady-like ways -- must be the Leo in me.

Archer: The man is a good one; at least that's what I believe to be the truth. but I guess it depends what ones personal definition of a "good man" is. I like your comment about Cap skepticism of intentions behind too much praise ... One things for sure, Cap men like to be complimented, but if they don't agree with your compliment, they question your intentions and can brush one aside easily. Would you agree?