Capricorns and Aquarius. I don't want him to get away :(

Good evening !!

So, I decided to come here because I've been reading some of the boards and I like that you guys answer pretty quick and have a lot in common with what's going on in my "love life" at this moment.

I'm an Aquarius woman, independent, I have 2 daughters (I've been separated for over a year) and recently met a Capricorn man, no kids, independent but still lives at parents house (we are both 28) in process of getting into law school.

I am a magnet for Capricorn men, I have 3 (maybe 4) important Caps in my life. My first bf, my second bf 11 yr relationship and daughter's dad, my business mentor who has claimed over the past 8 yrs that he is in love with me. (Reason we are not together is because I always respected that he was married, never approached him differently) And now this guy that I met in September during a business party.

He guessed my sign, told me we have a connection (which I felt too), and I ended up taking him home because he had been drinking and I didn't want him to get pulled over (strict DUI laws here)

Anyway, we started texting very often, the first few weeks he came to see me or we went out partying (even though I don't go out that much and I spent a few nights at his house. He swears he's very "home type of guy " which I believe, I dated a cap for 12 years. Now he says that he doesn't have time since he is back in school and working a lot, he has also been doing other work and gym (he likes to box) and has a business with his brother. I totally understand him, I am a busy woman too, I'm a single mother (which he knew from day 1) and I have made effort to see him.

He recently took over one of my cases, I don't know if it was a good idea because he has been doing an excellent job, but I feel like he's more distant now.

He said that his boss told him that we can't have much contact outside the office (kiss/sex/etc) until the case is over.. I thought it was a joke but he has been doing that in the last month and I don't know what to do. I don't want to be pushy about the relationship because I know he's busy but I don't want to seem uninterested and let him get away.

Recently he said he wants to buy his first house and "that way I could go visit him and stay as much as I want" (like if I'm chasing him )

All these mixed signals are confusing me and he's not making it any more clear.. I don't know if I should say something because he one day (at the beginning) told me he was cold hearted, not emotionally attached and that people don't understand him..but when he's with me he's the sweetest guy and I like him a lot.

Sorry for the long mesaage!

Posted by Capri-sun
Where are you getting mixed signals?

Well, you might not notice much from what I've said but basically he's very sweet when we are together and takes care of me in all ways but I always have to go to him, he makes no effort, he says that I live far (35min) and that he's always busy.. but tells me to go, on the other hand he asks me to stay over at his home (like I said, he still lives with family so it's a bit uncomfortable for me to leave in the morning since I haven't officially met his fam, just his mom but I never see her)

I still think that if he really cares he'd do more effort..

another thing, one day he went out with his friends and told me he was letting me know. then he told me when he was on his way home, I don't know if he expected me to ask to meet him, I know he told me he sometimes doesn't know how to approach girls.

We haven't kissed lately, he just kisses me on the cheek but I can see that he gets nervous and wants to hug me..we've spent a few quiet, romantic, passionate moments together so now it's different.

How can I not let it fade. I still show up to see him, I've told him I want to see him, or that I miss him, he doesn't say that directly, although he did say he likes me. But he has changed, I feel like if I ask something he might be more distant..

I'm still wondering if it is because of the legal case he's handling.

Short answer, yes.

Does he drive? Have a car?



He does, but he says he's always "busy to come to my place" he texted me at 3am today and I asked what was he doing, he said he left the office at 1:30am and 3am was when he was going to sleep. He does work a lot, how can I spend more time with a Cap who is always busy...

Posted by ITSCAPLOCK
Capricorns don't tend to like to mix business with pleasure.

And chances are his work is going to be first before everything.

I totally understand that his work would come first, it's his career not just a job. I just thought he was joking 😢 everything was going so well.

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Posted by ITSCAPLOCK
Capricorns don't tend to like to mix business with pleasure.

And chances are his work is going to be first before everything.

I totally understand that his work would come first, it's his career not just a job. I just thought he was joking 😢 everything was going so well.

He was serious if he was told not to interact with you while he's working on the case, that sums up everything including the distance. Take him at his word. Then see what happens once the case is over.

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I guess that's what it is. Some friends said that he's just gonna go ghost after the case is done.

Hopefully not, he once got upset at me because I told him I wasn't just a hook up, and that he was wrong about me. (DUMB MISUNDERSTANDING) HE said that he's not that type of guy and that I didn't know him if that's what I think of him.

**UPDATE**

I haven't given him the gift yet, I asked him if I could stop by his house last Friday he said he had family over (completely fine with me).

He didn't wish me a Merry Christmas, only posted a snapchat with his little nephew which is odd that he didn't post anything else anywhere about Christmas (he did last year). I know he gets isolated when he has a lot of work to do. I just let him be.

I asked him how is xmas going and he didn't reply. His birthday was the 26th, he liked a day old picture of me on Instagram on his bday past 12am, I thought of wishing him a Happy Birthday but I was annoyed bc he didn't say anything or answered my text. (I know one time he did text me back).

I kept holding back to say HB. but my friends invited that I should call him, so I did, he rejected my call with a message "at the shop". I text him back "I just wanted to wish you a Happy birthday and see if you were free for a little bit"

I got nothing...not even a thank you.

I let him be, and Wednesday I asked him if everything was ok, he say yeah.

I said: So being an ass to me is just normal? ?

He said: oh my gosh really. you just made me break a smile.

I said: at least I made you smile ?

He said: aww

I asked him about his bday he said it was boring. and then that night at 12am he texts me saying that he was at the office, working on his personal business plan, that he's a hardworking guy, he is focusing on that now and he was all happy saying that he is buying a house soon and moving around summer!

(He had told me 2 weeks ago that he wants to buy a house, I live by myself with my daughters and he lives with his parents, we are the same age )

So, he confuses me, I don't know if he is doing this to let me know that he's responsible, hardworking etc. or he's just letting me know that he has no time for relationships or anything to do with me. I haven't seen him in a while now. he's usually at the office working or studying or with his mentor.

Honestly I do not have any problem with that, he knows I'm a single mother and my daughters go to their dad house every other weekend, the rest of the time they are with me. He hasn't met them yet, because I'm very reserved with my family when it comes to meeting someone I like, unless is something I see official.

I haven't told him this, he took over the case about a month after we met and that's when everything changed, it's been 3 months and we have barely spent time together so.i don't know if he does like me or not.He told me we couldn't kiss or be together bc of the case and I respect that but I think that it wouldn't be a big issue to see him or have a drink?



what signs should I look for to see if he's interested? I don't wanna bug him asking things.

Posted by CAPRILICIOUS
"...he took over the case about a month after we met and that's when everything changed, it's been 3 months and we have barely spent time together."

A few questions...whose decision was it? Did he offer to handle your case or did you go to him? What is the case regarding? Don't answer here. Just letting you know that the issue might lie there.

You knew him only for a month before he took over your case. If this was your decision, he could question your motives.

It was also too early to have involved him in this way. If the case is a minor one, then it's not a big deal.

I don't know if he has any plans for the future...for now it looks like he's trying to create as much distance as possible. He must have been conflicted between treating you as a client or lover. Can you understand his dilemma?

There is no need to gauge his interest. When the time right and if he is still interested, he will let you know.

I had an accident (lady hit my brand new car) he works with bodily injury cases, I told him what happened, so he started telling me the steps I should follow, I went to his office and I decided to give him the case.

he's the type of guy who when he's with me he's very affectionate, he would even carry me from the living room to the room, I'm 5'2" ft not too slim, he's like 6ft built (he was a pro boxer in my state) ? I'm so into him bc we have a strange connection. He kissed me, hugged me, sex is amazing. When we slept together he used to hold my hand in the middle of the night or when driving.

I think it was too early to have him involved in the case because it clearly is affecting what we started. The first day I went to his office he kissed me by surprise when I was filling out the papers, he was also massaging my legs and then got closer and we kissed for a long period. ?

he showed me his office and hugged me there too, there are cameras everywhere so I feel like he might have gotten a word from his boss. I've been to his boss's house, he loves him.



At the beginning he used to tell me how self-centered he is, he said he doesn't have much emotions for people, and that most people don't understand him. But with me he was the opposite.

His friends were sort of shocked I was with him. I met them the 1st day we went out after meeting him, one of his friends (girl) said he looked very happy and he said "Because she likes me how I am" then she asked how long have you been together, we said: we just met last night.

So they thought I was probably gonna leave him after? they asked if we had sex, and other things, kind of figuring out why I'm with him..

I heard stories, he's the guy who likes to live on the edge, he would climb walls to trespass if you dare him, he'd jump in open water, (he did), he had a few motorcycle accidents, he now has plated parts in his chin and cheek bones.

He's the crazy party boy too, not a player. (He pointed it out)

at a Point I got upset because we kept having sex and I felt like it was just hookup, so I told him that I'm not going for that and he answered upset saying that if that's what I thought of him then I didn't understand him.

He told my friend he's insecure bc he doesn't trust women after being cheated on by his middle school sweetheart (8yr relationship)

he told me his party life is over, he's focusing on the future, he asked me if I want more kids (Yes I do), he has mentioned that he likes me bc I'm smart, grounded, independent, a super mom. he told me he looks up to respect a partner and he said "I care about you"

All of that is great,this was in the first month. a little too fast for me but I liked that he was serious about me.



I just think that even though he has the case, it shouldn't be a problem to say what he expects? if he wants me to wait for him... I will.

I just don't want another woman to come ?, I'm sort of jealous when I don't feel secure from his side.

Since we are distant now, I still do little things to show I care about him.

I took him a snack and he still texted me at 3am

Thank you.

He said to me about 3 weeks ago that he has been very busy and that he knows that they sound like excuses but they are not. we live about 40min away so is not a long distance.

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Posted by CAPRILICIOUS
"...he took over the case about a month after we met and that's when everything changed, it's been 3 months and we have barely spent time together."

A few questions...whose decision was it? Did he offer to handle your case or did you go to him? What is the case regarding? Don't answer here. Just letting you know that the issue might lie there.

You knew him only for a month before he took over your case. If this was your decision, he could question your motives.

It was also too early to have involved him in this way. If the case is a minor one, then it's not a big deal.

I don't know if he has any plans for the future...for now it looks like he's trying to create as much distance as possible. He must have been conflicted between treating you as a client or lover. Can you understand his dilemma?

There is no need to gauge his interest. When the time right and if he is still interested, he will let you know.

I had an accident (lady hit my brand new car) he works with bodily injury cases, I told him what happened, so he started telling me the steps I should follow, I went to his office and I decided to give him the case.

he's the type of guy who when he's with me he's very affectionate, he would even carry me from the living room to the room, I'm 5'2" ft not too slim, he's like 6ft built (he was a pro boxer in my state) ? I'm so into him bc we have a strange connection. He kissed me, hugged me, sex is amazing. When we slept together he used to hold my hand in the middle of the night or when driving.

I think it was too early to have him involved in the case because it clearly is affecting what we started. The first day I went to his office he kissed me by surprise when I was filling out the papers, he was also massaging my legs and then got closer and we kissed for a long period. ?

he showed me his office and hugged me there too, there are cameras everywhere so I feel like he might have gotten a word from his boss. I've been to his boss's house, he loves him.



At the beginning he used to tell me how self-centered he is, he said he doesn't have much emotions for people, and that most people don't understand him. But with me he was the opposite.

His friends were sort of shocked I was with him. I met them the 1st day we went out after meeting him, one of his friends (girl) said he looked very happy and he said "Because she likes me how I am" then she asked how long have you been together, we said: we just met last night.

So they thought I was probably gonna leave him after? they asked if we had sex, and other things, kind of figuring out why I'm with him..

I heard stories, he's the guy who likes to live on the edge, he would climb walls to trespass if you dare him, he'd jump in open water, (he did), he had a few motorcycle accidents, he now has plated parts in his chin and cheek bones.

He's the crazy party boy too, not a player. (He pointed it out)

at a Point I got upset because we kept having sex and I felt like it was just hookup, so I told him that I'm not going for that and he answered upset saying that if that's what I thought of him then I didn't understand him.

He told my friend he's insecure bc he doesn't trust women after being cheated on by his middle school sweetheart (8yr relationship)

he told me his party life is over, he's focusing on the future, he asked me if I want more kids (Yes I do), he has mentioned that he likes me bc I'm smart, grounded, independent, a super mom. he told me he looks up to respect a partner and he said "I care about you"

All of that is great,this was in the first month. a little too fast for me but I liked that he was serious about me.



I just think that even though he has the case, it shouldn't be a problem to say what he expects? if he wants me to wait for him... I will.

I just don't want another woman to come ?, I'm sort of jealous when I don't feel secure from his side.

Since we are distant now, I still do little things to show I care about him.

I took him a snack and he still texted me at 3am

Thank you.

He said to me about 3 weeks ago that he has been very busy and that he knows that they sound like excuses but they are not. we live about 40min away so is not a long distance.

He has already expressed this. Not to be harsh or rude, you’re just choosing not to listen and accept it.

You gave him your case, now you need to wait until it's over.

Do you not realize that you are running the risk of jeopardizing your own case over a few minutes of kissing and dick? I mean you say everything was moving fast to your taste, now it's on pause, and it's still an issue.

Now if your case gets messed up in the end because you guys want to play footsies and make out, I'm sure you would feel some type of way about it, and him, and his firm, and possibly hold him responsible because he is the one handling your case.

He's being responsible and professional and all you can see is your own selfish wants and desires. Look at the bigger picture.

Chill

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Lol is not that!.. I'm just trying to find subtle ways to let him know I'm still here, and I'll be here until the case is over.

Right now he is not expecting me to stay with him or wait for him I know that, but I've seen little things he's been doing to stay in touch. We don't even text thru text message, I only text him on snapchat just in case.

I'm being very respectful and I have a career as well and I would not do something to jeopardize his career, I admire him for that.

All I asked was what little details would let him know I'm still here. I'm not very expressive, I talk to him in a friendly manner.

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Posted by Aerazo

Posted by CAPRILICIOUS
"...he took over the case about a month after we met and that's when everything changed, it's been 3 months and we have barely spent time together."

A few questions...whose decision was it? Did he offer to handle your case or did you go to him? What is the case regarding? Don't answer here. Just letting you know that the issue might lie there.

You knew him only for a month before he took over your case. If this was your decision, he could question your motives.

It was also too early to have involved him in this way. If the case is a minor one, then it's not a big deal.

I don't know if he has any plans for the future...for now it looks like he's trying to create as much distance as possible. He must have been conflicted between treating you as a client or lover. Can you understand his dilemma?

There is no need to gauge his interest. When the time right and if he is still interested, he will let you know.

I had an accident (lady hit my brand new car) he works with bodily injury cases, I told him what happened, so he started telling me the steps I should follow, I went to his office and I decided to give him the case.

he's the type of guy who when he's with me he's very affectionate, he would even carry me from the living room to the room, I'm 5'2" ft not too slim, he's like 6ft built (he was a pro boxer in my state) ? I'm so into him bc we have a strange connection. He kissed me, hugged me, sex is amazing. When we slept together he used to hold my hand in the middle of the night or when driving.

I think it was too early to have him involved in the case because it clearly is affecting what we started. The first day I went to his office he kissed me by surprise when I was filling out the papers, he was also massaging my legs and then got closer and we kissed for a long period. ?

he showed me his office and hugged me there too, there are cameras everywhere so I feel like he might have gotten a word from his boss. I've been to his boss's house, he loves him.



At the beginning he used to tell me how self-centered he is, he said he doesn't have much emotions for people, and that most people don't understand him. But with me he was the opposite.

His friends were sort of shocked I was with him. I met them the 1st day we went out after meeting him, one of his friends (girl) said he looked very happy and he said "Because she likes me how I am" then she asked how long have you been together, we said: we just met last night.

So they thought I was probably gonna leave him after? they asked if we had sex, and other things, kind of figuring out why I'm with him..

I heard stories, he's the guy who likes to live on the edge, he would climb walls to trespass if you dare him, he'd jump in open water, (he did), he had a few motorcycle accidents, he now has plated parts in his chin and cheek bones.

He's the crazy party boy too, not a player. (He pointed it out)

at a Point I got upset because we kept having sex and I felt like it was just hookup, so I told him that I'm not going for that and he answered upset saying that if that's what I thought of him then I didn't understand him.

He told my friend he's insecure bc he doesn't trust women after being cheated on by his middle school sweetheart (8yr relationship)

he told me his party life is over, he's focusing on the future, he asked me if I want more kids (Yes I do), he has mentioned that he likes me bc I'm smart, grounded, independent, a super mom. he told me he looks up to respect a partner and he said "I care about you"

All of that is great,this was in the first month. a little too fast for me but I liked that he was serious about me.



I just think that even though he has the case, it shouldn't be a problem to say what he expects? if he wants me to wait for him... I will.

I just don't want another woman to come ?, I'm sort of jealous when I don't feel secure from his side.

Since we are distant now, I still do little things to show I care about him.

I took him a snack and he still texted me at 3am

Thank you.

He said to me about 3 weeks ago that he has been very busy and that he knows that they sound like excuses but they are not. we live about 40min away so is not a long distance.

Hmm...from what you've explained so far it seems like he was just getting to know you and now suddenly feels burdened by all these expectations.

You said you are feeling insecure and that is reflecting in your actions. Giving him space would be a good idea.

As far as his interest goes, it would be easier for you to assess that if you were to practice a little detachment.

Your Cap sounds quite similar to mine. Lol. After around 3 months of dating, we were having issues too, because I was not able to able to trust and that was holding him back. With a little help from @daron76, I was able to resolve that.

His perspective on your problem may be different from mine. I would approach him or maybe wait to hear from him.

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Well... I'm just waiting for the case to be over. im.very observant with him and he told me once about us not being able to kiss or have sex and I understood right away. I never intend to kiss him or throw myself at him.

I just miss him so much ?? I know it hasn't been that long but with him it was almost immediate connection, I feel sparks, goosebumps, and a lot of things when I'm close to him, is so hard to stay away. we even sit far from each other now. He asked me to stay over about a week ago and I said no. to respect the decision.

Yes it was a little too fast, I think this time is good to really test if we like each other that much, without seeing him and talking very little.

I don't bother him at all... I just come here and vent haha

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Posted by CAPRILICIOUS
"...he took over the case about a month after we met and that's when everything changed, it's been 3 months and we have barely spent time together."

A few questions...whose decision was it? Did he offer to handle your case or did you go to him? What is the case regarding? Don't answer here. Just letting you know that the issue might lie there.

You knew him only for a month before he took over your case. If this was your decision, he could question your motives.

It was also too early to have involved him in this way. If the case is a minor one, then it's not a big deal.

I don't know if he has any plans for the future...for now it looks like he's trying to create as much distance as possible. He must have been conflicted between treating you as a client or lover. Can you understand his dilemma?

There is no need to gauge his interest. When the time right and if he is still interested, he will let you know.

I had an accident (lady hit my brand new car) he works with bodily injury cases, I told him what happened, so he started telling me the steps I should follow, I went to his office and I decided to give him the case.

he's the type of guy who when he's with me he's very affectionate, he would even carry me from the living room to the room, I'm 5'2" ft not too slim, he's like 6ft built (he was a pro boxer in my state) ? I'm so into him bc we have a strange connection. He kissed me, hugged me, sex is amazing. When we slept together he used to hold my hand in the middle of the night or when driving.

I think it was too early to have him involved in the case because it clearly is affecting what we started. The first day I went to his office he kissed me by surprise when I was filling out the papers, he was also massaging my legs and then got closer and we kissed for a long period. ?

he showed me his office and hugged me there too, there are cameras everywhere so I feel like he might have gotten a word from his boss. I've been to his boss's house, he loves him.



At the beginning he used to tell me how self-centered he is, he said he doesn't have much emotions for people, and that most people don't understand him. But with me he was the opposite.

His friends were sort of shocked I was with him. I met them the 1st day we went out after meeting him, one of his friends (girl) said he looked very happy and he said "Because she likes me how I am" then she asked how long have you been together, we said: we just met last night.

So they thought I was probably gonna leave him after? they asked if we had sex, and other things, kind of figuring out why I'm with him..

I heard stories, he's the guy who likes to live on the edge, he would climb walls to trespass if you dare him, he'd jump in open water, (he did), he had a few motorcycle accidents, he now has plated parts in his chin and cheek bones.

He's the crazy party boy too, not a player. (He pointed it out)

at a Point I got upset because we kept having sex and I felt like it was just hookup, so I told him that I'm not going for that and he answered upset saying that if that's what I thought of him then I didn't understand him.

He told my friend he's insecure bc he doesn't trust women after being cheated on by his middle school sweetheart (8yr relationship)

he told me his party life is over, he's focusing on the future, he asked me if I want more kids (Yes I do), he has mentioned that he likes me bc I'm smart, grounded, independent, a super mom. he told me he looks up to respect a partner and he said "I care about you"

All of that is great,this was in the first month. a little too fast for me but I liked that he was serious about me.



I just think that even though he has the case, it shouldn't be a problem to say what he expects? if he wants me to wait for him... I will.

I just don't want another woman to come ?, I'm sort of jealous when I don't feel secure from his side.

Since we are distant now, I still do little things to show I care about him.

I took him a snack and he still texted me at 3am

Thank you.

He said to me about 3 weeks ago that he has been very busy and that he knows that they sound like excuses but they are not. we live about 40min away so is not a long distance.

He has already expressed this. Not to be harsh or rude, you’re just choosing not to listen and accept it.

You gave him your case, now you need to wait until it's over.

Do you not realize that you are running the risk of jeopardizing your own case over a few minutes of kissing and dick? I mean you say everything was moving fast to your taste, now it's on pause, and it's still an issue.

Now if your case gets messed up in the end because you guys want to play footsies and make out, I'm sure you would feel some type of way about it, and him, and his firm, and possibly hold him responsible because he is the one handling your case.

He's being responsible and professional and all you can see is your own selfish wants and desires. Look at the bigger picture.

Chill

Lol is not that!.. I'm just trying to find subtle ways to let him know I'm still here, and I'll be here until the case is over.

Right now he is not expecting me to stay with him or wait for him I know that, but I've seen little things he's been doing to stay in touch. We don't even text thru text message, I only text him on snapchat just in case.

I'm being very respectful and I have a career as well and I would not do something to jeopardize his career, I admire him for that.

All I asked was what little details would let him know I'm still here. I'm not very expressive, I talk to him in a friendly manner.

You don't have to do that. A Capricorn is aware & knows. Just live your normal life. No need to remind him you're still there. He knows. Lol. Just be the awesome person you are, why would he forget you? 🙂 that's the confidence and attitude you have to have. Best wishes!

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Awww thank you!!! I loved that!

You're right, I just miss him so much even though it hasn't been that long and I hate to have to wait so long to be close to him, but hopefully it will help us to get to know each other better.

Time will tell if it was worth the wait.

it's just sad that lately people "move on" so fast, you think you're important to someone and then a minute later they are someone else. ?

So, that makes it hard to trust people and is the reason why we put huge walls around us.

Mine are still high up. I've been letting him get to know me as well.



Happy New Year guys and best wishes!!!!

Oh aqua don't even bother entertaining him. Continue to work on the case because those ppl that said he'll disappear after the case are right.

You are offering intimacy so he's game for that because you are offering it. If you can really see yourself being with him in which most aqua woman can.. stay in your lane, don't transform, be that woman that you are when you aren't trying to attract anyone at the moment because you have some important priorities to handle before you can think about casual dating

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"...he took over the case about a month after we met and that's when everything changed, it's been 3 months and we have barely spent time together."

A few questions...whose decision was it? Did he offer to handle your case or did you go to him? What is the case regarding? Don't answer here. Just letting you know that the issue might lie there.

You knew him only for a month before he took over your case. If this was your decision, he could question your motives.

It was also too early to have involved him in this way. If the case is a minor one, then it's not a big deal.

I don't know if he has any plans for the future...for now it looks like he's trying to create as much distance as possible. He must have been conflicted between treating you as a client or lover. Can you understand his dilemma?

There is no need to gauge his interest. When the time right and if he is still interested, he will let you know.

I had an accident (lady hit my brand new car) he works with bodily injury cases, I told him what happened, so he started telling me the steps I should follow, I went to his office and I decided to give him the case.

he's the type of guy who when he's with me he's very affectionate, he would even carry me from the living room to the room, I'm 5'2" ft not too slim, he's like 6ft built (he was a pro boxer in my state) ? I'm so into him bc we have a strange connection. He kissed me, hugged me, sex is amazing. When we slept together he used to hold my hand in the middle of the night or when driving.

I think it was too early to have him involved in the case because it clearly is affecting what we started. The first day I went to his office he kissed me by surprise when I was filling out the papers, he was also massaging my legs and then got closer and we kissed for a long period. ?

he showed me his office and hugged me there too, there are cameras everywhere so I feel like he might have gotten a word from his boss. I've been to his boss's house, he loves him.



At the beginning he used to tell me how self-centered he is, he said he doesn't have much emotions for people, and that most people don't understand him. But with me he was the opposite.

His friends were sort of shocked I was with him. I met them the 1st day we went out after meeting him, one of his friends (girl) said he looked very happy and he said "Because she likes me how I am" then she asked how long have you been together, we said: we just met last night.

So they thought I was probably gonna leave him after? they asked if we had sex, and other things, kind of figuring out why I'm with him..

I heard stories, he's the guy who likes to live on the edge, he would climb walls to trespass if you dare him, he'd jump in open water, (he did), he had a few motorcycle accidents, he now has plated parts in his chin and cheek bones.

He's the crazy party boy too, not a player. (He pointed it out)

at a Point I got upset because we kept having sex and I felt like it was just hookup, so I told him that I'm not going for that and he answered upset saying that if that's what I thought of him then I didn't understand him.

He told my friend he's insecure bc he doesn't trust women after being cheated on by his middle school sweetheart (8yr relationship)

he told me his party life is over, he's focusing on the future, he asked me if I want more kids (Yes I do), he has mentioned that he likes me bc I'm smart, grounded, independent, a super mom. he told me he looks up to respect a partner and he said "I care about you"

All of that is great,this was in the first month. a little too fast for me but I liked that he was serious about me.



I just think that even though he has the case, it shouldn't be a problem to say what he expects? if he wants me to wait for him... I will.

I just don't want another woman to come ?, I'm sort of jealous when I don't feel secure from his side.

Since we are distant now, I still do little things to show I care about him.

I took him a snack and he still texted me at 3am

Thank you.

He said to me about 3 weeks ago that he has been very busy and that he knows that they sound like excuses but they are not. we live about 40min away so is not a long distance.

Hmm...from what you've explained so far it seems like he was just getting to know you and now suddenly feels burdened by all these expectations.

You said you are feeling insecure and that is reflecting in your actions. Giving him space would be a good idea.

As far as his interest goes, it would be easier for you to assess that if you were to practice a little detachment.

Your Cap sounds quite similar to mine. Lol. After around 3 months of dating, we were having issues too, because I was not able to able to trust and that was holding him back. With a little help from @daron76, I was able to resolve that.

His perspective on your problem may be different from mine. I would approach him or maybe wait to hear from him.

Well... I'm just waiting for the case to be over. im.very observant with him and he told me once about us not being able to kiss or have sex and I understood right away. I never intend to kiss him or throw myself at him.

I just miss him so much ?? I know it hasn't been that long but with him it was almost immediate connection, I feel sparks, goosebumps, and a lot of things when I'm close to him, is so hard to stay away. we even sit far from each other now. He asked me to stay over about a week ago and I said no. to respect the decision.

Yes it was a little too fast, I think this time is good to really test if we like each other that much, without seeing him and talking very little.

I don't bother him at all... I just come here and vent haha

Lol. Nothing wrong in venting. And since you love capricorns, you should feel right at home here. 🙂

Your heart is in the right place, Aerazo. I'm sure he sees that.

You said people change all the time. That is true and it's not something we can control. It's a good thing though, because then you know if someone's feelings for you were real.

So let go of your fears and insecurities. Spend this time on yourself instead. Start a new hobby maybe?

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That's true, sometimes I just wanna know who really wants to stay and who doesn't. I just hate fake people but most of the time I can read them.

I'm usually busy myself, I always have some projects on my hands. 🙂