My fire is weak, My air is calm, My water is deep and I stay grounded

Posted by aquanib
Posted by daron76


To fall under this category, the bar is very, very low. For example, if a server makes more than $ 30 per month from tips, then they are eligible for this rate (provided that their income from tips + the minimum wage ( $ 2.13)= the minimum wage per hours worked ( $ 7.25)

So while the server will make the minimum wage regardless (by the end of the month), refusing to tip them deprives them of badly needed income.




Your estimate on server wage: 4 digit number, in $ 's.

That 30 $ per month and you fall in some different rate class (if i understood correctly)......that's kinda counterintuitive, you can make 30 $ in half an hour on a weekend night.

Idk, i think you gave me some statistics and i have to calculate this with idk 160hr/month or 180-200.....but what i wanted was what i wrote in the first line. Not stats but something more practical.

Thanks nevertheless

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I understand what you asked and I attempted to provide the most coherent answer I could. What one could make in tips, per hour, per shift, per day etc. depends on so many variables (none of which were provided). So literally what I would be trying to answer is an equation similar to; a+(b*(hrs worked))=x
My best answer to that would be speculation, and, since speculation is worthless, your guess is as good as mine.

Sorry for the confusion.
Posted by aquanib
Posted by daron76
server (who likely makes approx. $ 2.50hr)


That hurts.
What do they make within a month? I know it varies, but you can probably give some estimate.

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To fall under this category, the bar is very, very low. For example, if a server makes more than $ 30 per month from tips, then they are eligible for this rate (provided that their income from tips + the minimum wage ( $ 2.13)= the minimum wage per hours worked ( $ 7.25)

So while the server will make the minimum wage regardless (by the end of the month), refusing to tip them deprives them of badly needed income.
Posted by Hare
There is a Federal minimum wage.

State and local can pass laws that exceed but not not go lower than Federal.


Exactly. That should cover your first two questions OP.

As to the third, tips (in most cases) are not mandatory. Rather, they are a custom designed to allow the consumer to compensate the service provider based on their (the consumer) perceived value of the service. However, the regulations on wages in many jurisdictions provide (and indeed the Federal rate is lower also) for a much lower minimum wage for those who earn a certain amount of their monthly income from tips. Therefore, refusing to type a server (who likely makes approx. $ 2.50hr) for service provided, can be quite harsh.
I agree with what the ladies have said. I would add, however, that you might want to keep in mind the fact that going a day or two with out much chit-chat isn't an issue for us. I wouldn't go so far as to call that "disappearing". If you need constant communication, then ask for it. Otherwise it will be assumed you are OK with the status quo
Posted by Shadowcat
Posted by daron76
My best experiences have been with sextiles. Oddly, trine relationships (for me) have always felt like something was missing. Blame the aqua venus? *shrugs*


Searching for something different?
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I guess. Just no sparks with trine-- very comfortable yet, somehow, boring. According to my chart my moon is my strongest influence, despite having 2 planets in Virgo (still don't know how that works). So maybe that could be it as well.
My best experiences have been with sextiles. Oddly, trine relationships (for me) have always felt like something was missing. Blame the aqua venus? *shrugs*
I see success like this; I'd rather die on the road to my goals (even if I never get there), than to live forever standing here.

So, as long as I am moving in the right direction, I consider it success.
I feel like you literally have to "catch" a Virgo, they can't sit still for 5mins lol (I actually like that about them). I'd give it try. Although my best experiences has been with water signs.
Posted by youngali
from my experience, i feel like Capricorn dudes come back around once they see that you're doing good and looking good without them. it's game. it's the chase and it's the challenge of seeing whether they can get you to fall for them again. it's basically to see if they "still got it".


Gasp!!!

I thought you loved me!!!

OP take your time with this guy. It will help you keep things in perspective and, besides, its clear he is not in a rush anyway.
Posted by Infinite8
Maybe when you pick him up in your admins clothes, where a skirt and nothing underneath.

Drive, straight faced and just grab his hands and draw them to where he realizes you have nothing on.

Let him get warmed up naturally...


Ladies and gentlemen, we have our winner!!! lol
Posted by ScorpioTruth
On another note. I'm having pizza tonight.


lol that cheesy goodness was calling your name haha!
Posted by ScorpioTruth
I know there is never a good excuse but I need to know the reason. Typical Scorpio probing... Lol


I'm the same way. Although with my ex, its clearly an answer I'm never gonna get.
clearly I opened Pandora's box lol
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Posted by WonderWoman14
Posted by ScorpioTruth
I thought we came pretty damn close until he had the affair. Lol

Now after the affair and after I've left him he seems convinced that i am his happily ever after and wants to go ring shopping. What in the actual treetrunk? I thought Capricorns were logical and think things through? Knowing that, i find it difficult to believe him when he says it wont happen again and i am the one he wants to spend his life with. If that were true, why did it happen to begin with??

Thanks for allowing me to VENT. Sorry for not providing hope for the people. Lol


I really feel for you as you're torn between your head and your heart. I'd feel the same in your position. I can pretty much forgive anything but I can't forget and I don't think I would be the same in a relationship after the trust has gone but then I believe in 2nd chances too. You have time and you don't need to rush anything. Sending a virtual hug your way.


Thanks lady. Yeah this is exactly where I'm at now. We just got out of our counseling session a couple hours ago. So emotionally draining but so necessary. She dug into our history and touched on my issues that resolved from my parents divorce and his issues of being molested by his babysitter when he was 7 years old, and the fact that his parents were never married and split when he was 5.

The counselor was really good about bringing these past demons to the forefront and how they are impacting our relationship today. Tears were shed on both sides. The only other time I've seen him cry was when our son was born and we heard his first cry. I couldn't help but to grab his hand and hold it. He's opened up to me before about his childhood, I was aware of everything he'd been through but he's never broken down and cried about it until today.



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sounds like this was helpful. I hope it continues

Posted by Rindaroo
Completely stressful! What's with the always making plans for the future, with you, without you, and verbalizing it as if you're just thinking about it? Doesn't make for a happy Sag. Just saying.. and then you act all sweet, loving, caring for me like I never heard it. And you wonder why I hesitate, why I'm not jumping all over the commitment. Omg. Who said stressful?

Okay needed to vent apparently.


Jump in lol
Posted by pinkbird03
Until you've dated a Capricorn man, you'll never understand what it's like to date one.

Sorry daron 😝♥️


Posted by youngali
i love Capricorns, but y'all stress me. 😩😩😩😂


Awww. There are plenty of great ways to work out stress
Posted by Aerazo
Posted by daron76
Posted by Aerazo
I have a few Cap stories.

My first fwb and I when we were both 14-15.. we were each other's first, but no one knew what we had. I think it was bc of me, I've always liked hidden relationships. We barely ever talked, he'd call me, I went to his house, had sex, cuddled and left. It went for over a year and we have a kid together. He doesn't know :/ he cut me off when I left the country without telling him. He said it wasn't his, I was 15 so I was hurt and decided to never say a word to him. (14 yrs have passed)

So I created a fake fb account for my friend a few yrs ago and I added him there to see how he's doing.
One day all of a sudden he sent a message to the fake fb which is obv. fake...I replied and started talking to him. To this day he doesn't know it's me... I stopped texting since last year because it's soo weird.
He messaged me again a couple of months ago and I didn't reply.


Don't know what to say to that story. I'd give you a hug if I could. Yikes.


Thank you!!!! I never really talked about my stories, I bury them in the bottom of my heart and I practically decided not to even think about it.


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Been there as well, talking about it (when you're ready) is def helpful