Cap Sun, Aries Ascend, Cancer Moon, Venus Aqua

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Caps are good for us and we’re good for caps. I do agree that both signs are reserved and both have our guards up initially. That’s the most complicated part. Once you get past that, it’s smooth sailing and a well balanced pairing.


Hey miss lady, how ya been?!?!
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Posted by RingsOfSaturn
With cap sun Aqua Venus, emotions aren't very obvious to this person. The cap sun suppresses feelings to accomplish goals. Who knows what the Aqua Venus feels about anything. The feelings for other people are there but not obvious to someone with this placement. It is hidden from them.

Usually there is a trigger moment that causes this person to go aha I really like this person. Once the switch is flipped then the cap side will take over and lock on as a goal and chase.

In the meantime there are things that will cause that switch not to flip. The feelings are there but if there are mixed signals this will confuse the cap Aqua more. They could be stuck between liking you and not sure like a light switch turned halfway neither turning on or off the light.


This was a really well written response. Makes total sense.

What causes your switch to not flip?
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This is a great way to put it. The sad part is that the "switch" is different for every person I've dated seriously. So when it does flip, I'm just as surprised as they are.
Posted by hippiecrite
Cap sun/Aqua Venus = emotional Aspergers

Romantic relationships aren’t something we particularly want or need. We value our freedom and our independence. It’s kinda scary when someone comes along and gives us pause. I mean, even with well matched individuals, relationships are hard work. Extra work. Extra work we weren’t exactly looking for. Ha. I could talk myself out of it every day.

But we are better when we’re not alone. Deep down we know that. We’ve had people come along to remind us that and then make us think we were wrong, only to be reminded again.

You can only control you. Live your life. That’s what attracted him in the first place and it’ll be what attracts the next one if this guy can’t get his head out of his ass.



My twin has spoken!!!
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Posted by daron76
Hard to catch.... not really. I mean I don't see it that way (my potential blindness on this is obvi). We may be hard to deal with though. Our (my) expression of love can be a bit roulette like. Even I don't know what your going to get on a given day. The feelings are constant-- its the expression that chages--sometimes dramatically. It does get more reliable with time(and age) however.


Thank you so much for that description. Any advice on dealing or dating these types? Give space and let them lead?
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Try taking the pressure off. The friends part others have mentioned is huge. Communication is also very important. Also, before you try to figure him out- figure out if this is what you really want. Cause if the "switch" flips- meaning he falls in love with you- he is going to fall hard. I've heard its not pleasant trying to get rid of someone in that situation.
Posted by ellesbelles
Yeah, don't chase. Let him figure out what is going on in his head.....and keep doing you.

My Cap and I went two years with no contact because I was just exhausted with the confusion and he needed to figure out what he wanted.

These placements need you to hold on loosely. The Aqua Venus needs a solid friendship first and the Cap Sun needs to trust himself.

Exes are a pain in the ass with these guys because they can't seem to let them go completely. Probably because it takes them so dang long to actually *be* in a relationship and they cover every angle possible....and it's a huge hit to the head and heart when it doesnt work out.



Sometimes, when I read your posts, I swear you are talking about me!!! Then I get over myself and realize its some other lucky fella
Hard to catch.... not really. I mean I don't see it that way (my potential blindness on this is obvi). We may be hard to deal with though. Our (my) expression of love can be a bit roulette like. Even I don't know what your going to get on a given day. The feelings are constant-- its the expression that chages--sometimes dramatically. It does get more reliable with time(and age) however.
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Posted by ScorpioTruth
My sons dad is a cap with cancer moon. I love that combination but his aqua Venus is something else ? Lol


Yes, that aqua venus is something aint it?!?!! lol


I was wondering where you went!
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How are you ma'am? I hope all is well. I stepped away for a bit. Been working on somethings, both personally and professionally.
Posted by ScorpioTruth
My sons dad is a cap with cancer moon. I love that combination but his aqua Venus is something else ? Lol


Yes, that aqua venus is something aint it?!?!! lol
Posted by cappiegirl
When we fall we really fall, if the other person doesn't reciprocate how do you manage to let go of your deep feelings?
I am trying to bury mines for a month now but in no avail. There are other guys interested but I just know that this was the best connection.
What is your strategy?


First, I feel for you. I went through this recently and wish the experience on no one.

Second, what worked for me was to focus on bettering myself- career-wise- spiritually- emotionally- etc. Doing this kept me very busy (i.e. distracted) and the benefit was, months later, I had new accomplishments, new experiences and new memories to build from.

Third, know that this will take time-- and whatever time it takes you is OK. This is your healing process- not someone else. Don't judge yourself based on some other persons timeline.

Fourth, don't forget to forgive yourself.

I know it seems like "better" is a long way away but you will get there.
I truly wish you the best.
Wow. Just wow.
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Posted by Sagiluv27
I dated an ex and I was really into this guy for like 8yrs seriously butterflies and all that's a long time to have feelings for a person who is out of the picture, he came back and we tried to rekindle what we left behind, I realized that he wasn't for me, I realized I no longer wanted someone like him for myself, I also realized that it was good that he came back because after hanging out for several months it allowed me to get closure for myself it also allowed me to get over my feelings for him. Yes the image I had of him before changed drastically after he came back, but that was good, that's all I needed to walk away & get him out of my mind and life completely. I said my goodbyes, he still reaches out and wants to hang out but I will always refuse because giving someone a second chance makes you realize a lot of things... I really hope you give this guy a second chance to see what life has in store for you as far as lessons, in your case it can be the opposite of my story, but you'll only know if you give it a try. Good luck ?


Thank you!



My advice?

Ditch him, date me...

ijs




?? smooth.


LOL

On a more serious note, I've never gone back to an ex. There is only one where I would even mildly consider it and, frankly, she is not worthy. That being said, and since your ex and I share a lot of placements, this most likely isn't a result of loneliness- something serious is there-- even though he may not know how to express it. Be patient and keep doing things that make you happy-- like @-elle- said. Treat your interactions with him as a bonus and a have serious convo when your both ready.

Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

you could just do what I said earlier!!!



lol thanks for the feedback. i've already decided to not go backwards. i attempted to call to talk about my decision, but no answer. waited 2 hours for a response, but nada. so i went ahead and blocked him. ?

besides, second option sounds better. ???
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I'll bring the champagne, you bring the fried chicken. We'll make the waffles.
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Posted by Sagiluv27
I dated an ex and I was really into this guy for like 8yrs seriously butterflies and all that's a long time to have feelings for a person who is out of the picture, he came back and we tried to rekindle what we left behind, I realized that he wasn't for me, I realized I no longer wanted someone like him for myself, I also realized that it was good that he came back because after hanging out for several months it allowed me to get closure for myself it also allowed me to get over my feelings for him. Yes the image I had of him before changed drastically after he came back, but that was good, that's all I needed to walk away & get him out of my mind and life completely. I said my goodbyes, he still reaches out and wants to hang out but I will always refuse because giving someone a second chance makes you realize a lot of things... I really hope you give this guy a second chance to see what life has in store for you as far as lessons, in your case it can be the opposite of my story, but you'll only know if you give it a try. Good luck ?


Thank you!



My advice?

Ditch him, date me...

ijs




?? smooth.
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LOL

On a more serious note, I've never gone back to an ex. There is only one where I would even mildly consider it and, frankly, she is not worthy. That being said, and since your ex and I share a lot of placements, this most likely isn't a result of loneliness- something serious is there-- even though he may not know how to express it. Be patient and keep doing things that make you happy-- like @-elle- said. Treat your interactions with him as a bonus and a have serious convo when your both ready.

Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

you could just do what I said earlier!!!

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Posted by Sagiluv27
I dated an ex and I was really into this guy for like 8yrs seriously butterflies and all that's a long time to have feelings for a person who is out of the picture, he came back and we tried to rekindle what we left behind, I realized that he wasn't for me, I realized I no longer wanted someone like him for myself, I also realized that it was good that he came back because after hanging out for several months it allowed me to get closure for myself it also allowed me to get over my feelings for him. Yes the image I had of him before changed drastically after he came back, but that was good, that's all I needed to walk away & get him out of my mind and life completely. I said my goodbyes, he still reaches out and wants to hang out but I will always refuse because giving someone a second chance makes you realize a lot of things... I really hope you give this guy a second chance to see what life has in store for you as far as lessons, in your case it can be the opposite of my story, but you'll only know if you give it a try. Good luck ?


Thank you!
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My advice?

Ditch him, date me...

ijs


treetrunk= Aqua
Marry= Scorpio
Kill= Gemini
Gemini. They only have two operating modes: annoying and very treetrunking annoying
Posted by Chance_12
Posted by Virgorean
If it helps, you are our first choice for Virgos

As the cycle goes...

Caps want Virgos
Virgos want Tauruses
Tauruses want Caps

Such is life.


Nah, Caps tend to take Virgos for granted. They would have to have a water moon or a significant water placement. Or a fire moon possibly. Otherwise, the traits are redundant. Caps like their partner to excite them. Virgo stereotypically lacks personality.

Caps will go for water all day every day over Earth..and for someone like me (with a lot of air and fire in my chart), I'd take fire over either as well.

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Yeah totally agree with this as far as water is concerned
Posted by poison_ivy
Yea, it doesn't work.. LOL!

You can do it.. Just gives him space.. They actually prefer space.. You'll go back and he'll act as if time never went by..

Reach out at your own free will.. don't base it on him..


This.
Posted by pinkbird03
Do cap men ever play the field when they are dating or do they only date one person at a time? If they date other girls, do they kiss multiple girls?? About how many dates does it take to be exclusive???

This guy says he's looking for something serious. But I met him online and lets face it, so many guys on there date multiple girls at once.


That is really a matter of preference. I prefer to play the field until or unless I have met someone worth dropping everyone else for. Yes, of course you kid wind up kissing all of them.. not really a big deal to me. How many dates until exclusive? Depends on how special you are.
Posted by Capladylike
How do you know if a cap man really cares about you?


I think that really depends on his venus placement. But the most common things would be; we do practical stuff for you and we let you near our family.
Posted by StrawberryJam
do you ever change your mind after you dump someone?

Yes