Cap Man & Aquarius Gal

Hello - So I've been getting mixed signals from a guy I've been dating for a couple months now. Prior to this we were texting for over a year and saw each other a couple times and the chemistry was always there. Now that we live in the same state and see each other regularly, I feel like I haven't been able to get to know him. He doesn't ask questions or open up about himself, ever. As an Aquarius, I am also guarded with my feelings so I don't push anything onto him. I don't want to make him uncomfortable. He did tell me that he loves me, but how can he be in love when he doesn't know me that well? Am I overthinking this and need to wait it out? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

We all know I'm a big fan of cap/aqua relationships.

One of you will have to open up first, might as well be you. So got out on that limb and see if he follows.
You can do it gradually.

Every time I see the word, "mixed signals", I think "he's just not that into you". That's what it boils down to. I'm gonna find this article I read. It was spot on about hot and cold behaviour.

Ask yourself this: do you run hot and cold with someone you like? If not, the answer is crystal clear.

When I like someone, there is consistency. Expect consistency right back.

Sadly, I don' t know how capable of that I am... any suggestions on how to do so without it being too much, too fast?

Posted by aquarius09
Every time I see the word, "mixed signals", I think "he's just not that into you". That's what it boils down to. I'm gonna find this article I read. It was spot on about hot and cold behaviour.

Ask yourself this: do you run hot and cold with someone you like? If not, the answer is crystal clear.

When I like someone, there is consistency. Expect consistency right back.

I'd love to read the article if you can find it. I think my usage of mixed signals might haven't been the right wording to use. It's more of I can't tell if he's into me or not... as he's not giving me anything to work with in that regard.

Posted by aquarijerri
Sadly, I don' t know how capable of that I am... any suggestions on how to do so without it being too much, too fast?

Are you saying you're not capable of being consistent?

Posted by truecap

Posted by aquarijerri
Sadly, I don' t know how capable of that I am... any suggestions on how to do so without it being too much, too fast?

Are you saying you're not capable of being consistent?

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Because a cap needs consistency. We don't function well with inconsistency. A cap needs to know what to expect and what is expected in return.
A cap views inconsistency as flaky behavior and we don't trust flaky people.

Generally speaking of course.

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Posted by aquarijerri
Sadly, I don' t know how capable of that I am... any suggestions on how to do so without it being too much, too fast?

Are you saying you're not capable of being consistent?

Because a cap needs consistency. We don't function well with inconsistency. A cap needs to know what to expect and what is expected in return.
A cap views inconsistency as flaky behavior and we don't trust flaky people.

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No, I can definitely be consistent. I meant I don't know how capable I am being the initiator of talking about feelings.

Posted by truecap

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Posted by aquarijerri
Sadly, I don' t know how capable of that I am... any suggestions on how to do so without it being too much, too fast?

Are you saying you're not capable of being consistent?

Because a cap needs consistency. We don't function well with inconsistency. A cap needs to know what to expect and what is expected in return.
A cap views inconsistency as flaky behavior and we don't trust flaky people.

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Nobody likes flaky people. Even flaky people whine about other flaky people. LOL.

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Posted by truecap

Posted by aquarijerri
Sadly, I don' t know how capable of that I am... any suggestions on how to do so without it being too much, too fast?

Are you saying you're not capable of being consistent?

Because a cap needs consistency. We don't function well with inconsistency. A cap needs to know what to expect and what is expected in return.
A cap views inconsistency as flaky behavior and we don't trust flaky people.

No, I can definitely be consistent. I meant I don't know how capable I am being the initiator of talking about feelings.

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Well, hun, he's a cap male, neither is he.

See, that's where a cap/aqua relationship is hard to get off the ground.

Geesh. If I never went out on a limb, we'd probably be wondering what we were (even after 3 1/2 years).
I just had to suck it up and take a risk.

But he's told you he loves you, right?

I really don't see what the problem is. You two should be communicating pretty comfortably by now.

Unless.......you didn't return the sentiment, which would definitely make him back up and hold back.

Posted by truecap
Geesh. If I never went out on a limb, we'd probably be wondering what we were (even after 3 1/2 years).
I just had to suck it up and take a risk.

I need to suck it up, for sure. Definitely in my head too much.

I did return the sentiment - possibly why I've been particularly uneasy about the lack of communication.

Just relax and be yourself.

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Posted by aquarius09
Every time I see the word, "mixed signals", I think "he's just not that into you". That's what it boils down to. I'm gonna find this article I read. It was spot on about hot and cold behaviour.

Ask yourself this: do you run hot and cold with someone you like? If not, the answer is crystal clear.

When I like someone, there is consistency. Expect consistency right back.

I'd love to read the article if you can find it. I think my usage of mixed signals might haven't been the right wording to use. It's more of I can't tell if he's into me or not... as he's not giving me anything to work with in that regard.

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Here's the article:
http://nevertoolate.biz/2011/08/15/mixed-signals-what-his-inconsistency-tells-you/