Capricorns been distant :/

So the capricorn I have posted about here
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/is-it-too-late-for-something-more-than-friendship-2329224/ has been incredibly distant...
I guess I was just his booty call or whatever because hes moved on and now I have to do the same.
I was stupid to think he thought of me in any other way.
He was someone that I put so much of my trust and hope into, I had much higher expectations for him which is not fair. I know.
I guess I better just forget...

a few weeks ago he contacted me asking why I was so distant, that hes been texting me and I havent been answering but turns out he was texting the wrong number the whole time. So now I've been texting him and initiating some time when we can hangout but he just says he has stuff to do and I say "ok well when is good for you?" and he says he'll let me know but then he doesn't.
Now he'll barely talk to me. and I'm just getting the feeling that I make him uncomfortable now.
This isn't the first time hes done this and I'm sick of making excuses in my head for this like "well maybe hes just busy or stressed out" idk.. I don't know the reasons. All I know is that if he really cared he'd put in a little more effort.


Everythings so complicated 😢

Exactly! and thats the sad thing, its taken me so long to realize it, but if I have to keep guessing if someone cares then they probably don't. because if they did i should just KNOW.

You learn more through a persons actions than through their words... thats what I'm going to start looking out for from now on.

Guys!!!! I don't date, and I still dislike, borderline hate them. I wish you didn't have to go through this foolishness. I'm personally starting to realize how frustrating and stressful men can be. They literally have no idea the emotional turmoil they cause. I wish it was something we knew that could detect all of the BS. Being into someone is such a darn gamble when it shouldn't be, ugh.

btw. People tend to want what they don't have. Currently I have the effort, but not hearing what it is he feel seems just as worse as if he didn't put in effort. I think men, and people in general, tend to do what comes easiest to them. Some are more verbal, and others are more action oriented. Maybe we shouldn't judge by what comes naturally. From now on, I'm going to observe guys and judge them by making the effort to do what they struggle with.

The part where he claimed you were being the distant one and he was texting the wrong number stood out as sounding quite dodgy to me. Ignore him, he'll come back for more at some point. When that point happens send a text with a shrug saying "I've been busy texting the right number - but it's not your's, it's a wonderful new man's.

2 words: The Cousin.

To Caps, blood is thicker than water. And if you hadn't gone for the cousin first, you two might just have been in heaven 🙂

Posted by BeoWulf

2 words: The Cousin.

To Caps, blood is thicker than water. And if you hadn't gone for the cousin first, you two might just have been in heaven 🙂

oddly enough though hes the one that set us up... :/ then when me and the cousin weren't working out he realized we were a bad match and said I should dump him (which I was going to, regardless of if he said that or not)

then after I broke up w/him thats when our lines between friendship started to blur into something more.

Posted by dreamingpiscesoddly enough though hes the one that set us up... :/

He was testing you. He knew from the start that you were interested in him. So he wanted to see if you would resist when he set u up with The Cousin. You didn't. You failed the test. Yes, he must seem like a marker for doing that but hey, men & women test each other all the time. You should have indicated from the VERY start that HE's the one you really wanted. That you chose the 'cuz must have disappointed him.

then after I broke up w/him thats when our lines between friendship started to blur into something more.

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Then there's the abusive Aries you were with AFTER The Cousin. ie, after you broke up with the 'cuz, you went after SOME OTHER guy instead of straight to the Cap. Also, your sexual relationship with the Capricorn was at a time when you were vulnerable & just coming out of the Aries's abusive r/s right? Maybe he didn't want to seem like the rebound guy or the guy who took advantage of you.

Look, I know Pisces females are seldom practical minded & more about "feelings" but how about being a bit more proactive if you really want this Mer-goat? Try doing something practical with him; like, if this man likes mountain climbing, canoeing, music , etc..ask him if he'd teach you or spend time with you doing those things. Or if you hear from the grapevine that he's going through a tough time (not surprising since these guys always have some obstacle being thrown at them...hence the famous Cap pessimism), just appear out of nowhere one day with a picnic basket or something and offer to cheer him up (corny I know but Cap men are surprisingly easy to please with simple acts of kindness or thoughtfulness) Make it seem like a platonic thing but drop VERY subtle hints that you're there for him & wouldn't mind taking things a step further.

You can listen to others & dump him if you like or you can grab the goat by his horns and ride him out until he sees you as his soulmate. Won't be easy (as many women going after Cap men will tell ya) but surely it will be worth it. Patience is the key.

And it doesn't help if you keep jumping from guy to guy while still hoping this Cap man will come after you....

He was with someone when I was with his cousin....

and when I was with the aries.

Then when we're finally both single we sleep together and he tells me hes been waiting for me, and that I'm everything hes ever wanted, then disappears off the face of the planet with no warning :/

Doesn't really make any sense to me.

But I'm done with someone that treats me like they don't care.

Thanks for the advice, I just think the past few years have been really complicated and I'm just hoping to move on at this point. I'm going to distance myself from him and like others have said, if he really cares then he'll be back 🙂

I think you can either play the game with these types of men. Or not. Sure, you can mirror what he is doing straight back at him, with long breaks in contact and getting on with your life, and he will suddenly reappear one day as though nothing has happened. He will be getting on with his own life during the times he isn't contacting you, believe me.

If you choose to enter the game, you have to be prepared for feeling hurt again, because it's probably unlikely he will wake up one day and realise you are the love of his life. He will just repeat the same pattern once he feels you are back in the game. And you will end up feeling hurt and confused all over again.


You can only win by not playing at all. It sucks but in the long run it's far less traumatic for you.

Become a High Queen and execute him.

Posted by amethyst2002

However, what benefited me was the fact that we have a ton of mutual friends, and I eventually found out that he's just a man whore that says what he can to get people into the sack. *shrugs* It made it easier to wrap my head around the "he did it to get laid," bit. Sounds like the case with yours, too. But I get why it's hard to just grasp because it's like they become an entirely different person.

yeah sad thing is I'm realizing this about him now. He will say anything to win someone over. Like once he told me he would love an actual real serious relationship, that hes tired of being used for sex and hates being a one night stand.... well shit, thats what hes doing right now! So then the naive little me thinks "oh thats so sweet..." and then assume that he wouldn't use me like he did.

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If you choose to enter the game, you have to be prepared for feeling hurt again, because it's probably unlikely he will wake up one day and realise you are the love of his life. He will just repeat the same pattern once he feels you are back in the game. And you will end up feeling hurt and confused all over again.


You can only win by not playing at all. It sucks but in the long run it's far less traumatic for you.

Become a High Queen and execute him.

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hahah yeah I think I will be the high queen in this scenario now... I don't trust him anymore. I'm pretty hurt. and it only took me forever to realize what kind of person he is. It sucks but the thing I've got to get in my head is that more times than not people never change their ways and if I do hangout with him again it will probably be the same shit over again.