chart and compatibility?

I was able to get the charts, but I have no clue what they mean as far as compatibility. Can someone tell me what this looks like for both of us. Looks confusing...he's the cap and I'm the cancer. We've quit seeing each other, so guess I'm waiting too late to do this, but of course I'm very curious. Mostly to know just how difficult he is, lol! Kidding.. I'm sure I'll show just as difficult. Thanks.

His:
Rising Sun - 23 deg Pisces
Sun - 00 deg Cap
Moon - 28 deg Sag
Mercury - 08 deg Sag
Venus - 10 deg Aquarius
Mars - 29 deg Cap
Jupiter - 25 deg Gemini
Saturn - 11 deg Pisces
Uranus - 19 deg Virgo
Neptune - 21 deg Scorpio
Pluto - 18 deg Virgo
N.Node - 04 deg Gemini

Me:
Rising sun - 23 deg Scorpio
Sun - 10 deg Cancer
Moon - 28 deg Pisces
Mercury - 15 deg Cancer
Venus - 22 deg Gemini
Mars - 10 deg Gemini
Jupiter - 18 deg Taurus
Saturn - 04 deg Pisces
Uranus - 10 deg Virgo
Neptune - 15 deg Scorpio
Pluto - 11 deg Virgo
N.Node - 02 deg Cancer

I am not adept at reading charts, though you can goodle something like Scorpio compatibility and get a bunch of sites where you can read about scorp-cap matches.

Hope things are going well for you, Protector. Have you heard from him? I know the days are hard early on, hopefully time will heal. Im just moving forward myself cus I really just dont have another choice..LOL

big hugs for you!

Hey BGP. He's a cap, Dec 22 and I'm a cancer, July 1st.

Anyway...he contacted me the next couple of days, but I have not heard from him now in 3 days. That's a record in over a 1 1/2 years. I asked for it, so I guess I got it. It's so sad; I don't know why I'm so heartbroken. Everything I've posted has been true, but really there was no real emotional back/forth on either of our parts. It's all bottled in I guess. I'm just still so sad; it's all I think about it right now. I guess part of it is I felt we had a 2nd chance (from the 10 years ago) and it started out so good and he seemed so into it for over a year. Now it's gone and I wish he would tell me why he changed, but he won't. Thanks for asking. I think about you too. We have similar situations; it sucks.

Your sad because your heart hurts. Because you let him in your heart, whether you knew it or not. And now your heart isnt being fed with him, thats why it hurts. Thats how I feel, anyhow. Heart starved. 😢

Cap's are very stoic, it seems to me, sometimes reserved in showing true feelings until and unless the are motivated. Sometimes pain is the greatest motivator, so.....you never know, he may hurt without you...and find that life without you just isnt right.

Hang in there!

Yes, and no one had been in my heart for a very long time; I forgot what it was like. I guess my heart was hungry and I didn't know it. It's so hard to imagine him not being around any longer, even if it was just daily texts and a Sat. night. Stoic he is, rare that there is any emotion shown. It's like we're talking about a business transaction. He did show some emotion at first, so I was hoping for that again. blah, blah, blah, I'm waiting for me to pick myself up; I'm just not there yet. But your sweetness really helps. Thanks (((BGP)))

I totlly relate to the initial display of emotion. My scorp sun BUT cap moon man did the identical. ITs as if they let it out at first to HOOK us, then pull back for self preservation. Stoic was a word I used with him once, but followed up by saying that underneath I knew the soft, emotional, emotive man resided. Its all fear based with these guys.

Believe me he does FEEL...he just does it alone. Try to not "futuerize"...meaning projecting into the future not being with him. Grieve a day at a time...live a moment at a time. Living in the future is too painful. It is now 2.5 months of silence....silence that came from left field, and just now Im starting to feel more detached. Its good, it lessens the pain, but the throbbing is present. Just a less intense pulsating feeling. Just remember....we have both had heartbreak in the past and lived thru them...this time with be no different. Time takes time.

"futuerize"...that's what I do and need to stop. It's so painful thinking of not seeing him again. I'm 47 and have not felt this kind of heartbreak. He's that one guy who was so different for me. I'll be comparing now, and that certainly won't work.

I'm so glad you are beginning to feel better. I know it's one day at a time. Every day contact for 1 1/2 years and now nothing. So hard. I'm the one who actively initiated it, so I need to live with my request. My son is a senior this year, so I need to just focus on him.

With all respect, dear protector, NO you do not need to focus only on your son. THats what *I* did, and it was a form of escape because I didnt want to focus on myself. What we need to do is focus on EVERYTHING that is good in taking care of ourselves. I practice what I call "Extreme self care";

physically
emotionally
financially
spiritually

and that includes dating. Maintaining my life. If I dont, then I am neglecting that very important area of my life. My heart break is painful too but I intend to grow *through* it, not avoid it. Maybe this happened to you so you could see just how important a REAL relationship is to you and not just a once a week guy.

Dont cheat yourself. Your son will be ok when his mommy is ok. I promise.

"maybe this happened to you so you could see just how important a REAL relationship is to you and not just a once a week guy".... I've thought of that. I can't believe I'm feeling like this. The thought of dating someone else right now is just too painful. I know that will pass. I just need to let my heart ache and then put on my bgp's and get over it by doing everything you said. I hope it will be soon. I hope I can "grow through it" too, and not get stuck in it. Thx again.

When you say "I cant believe I feel this way" it is clear tht you wear in denial about your feelings for him. If it wasnt love, your heart wouldnt hurt this bad.

I was in denial too the first time Scorp and I split. It was after days, then weeks and weeks of missing him it hit me...this MUST be love. Maybe Cap man will come to that same conclusion. Maybe my scorp too. 😢

I knew how I felt about him; I just hid it from him b/c I sensed he didn't want much more for now. If I didn't have such strong feelings for him, I could have stayed the way he wanted. What I didn't know was how much I was denying myself while raising my child. The first date we had, when we re-connected after 10 years, I immediately felt like something other than a mom. I was very taken back by this. This guy physically is so beautiful...rugged but classy, artist, sad eyes, quite, strong & controlled. He caught my attention at the gym years ago and I've never forgotten him.

He just got divorced when we got back together, so I believed he wanted to go slow for valid reasons. Like yours, the first several months he seemed into it, so I never felt insecure with where we were. He started fading and I hung on, but finally couldn't do it any longer. I guess I was the rebound girl from his divorce 😢

I'm glad we have each other to mope with. I won't mope long though. I know me; I have to do this in the beginning & then I get strong.

We'll have to keep posting to see what happens with each other.