CONFRONTATION ...Yay!!!

Saturday morning, I receive an email from him stating that he would pick me up at 1pm, he also requested that I wear my hair down for him. Usually, I make some excuse not to, but I decided to play into everything. When he arrived, my hair was in a bob (he likes it like that for reason), and I wear a lavendar, knee-length dress (it was warm and I didn't feel like wearing leggings).Yes, he was pleased ... score! I had him 😉 *** Countasy of Brahn0913. You advice worked✨**

After eating the food he bouught, I searched for my long-lost containers that he couldn't find. He didn't offer to take me home right away and wanted to watch TV, so I complied. At half time, this is when I decided to confront him with the way he's been acting for the past weeks ... BUT I confronted him by phrasing everything I had to say to him in the form of a question. I brought up the whole meal incident and the three week absent but using why, how, when ... I did this way because he is the type of person you CANNOT directly confront, like a typical crab he would retreat! Hehehe, but not this time ...

Basically I informed him that Ididn't know what he wanted from me and I think I should back-off since the feelings don't seem equal "I have been there for you when you've always needed me ... but lately I just don't feel that you are in my corner that same way I'm in yours. Do you want me to leave you be?" He replied, "What do you mean, I already know how close we are and that you are my friend ... you're not going anywhere ..." Hmmm, so I said how could he be so sure that I'm not going to back-off. He replied, " No, I want you ...you have no reason to leave, things are different now vs the way they were, things have changed. I know you better now so there is no more caution." I was confused, "Changed? Is that a good thing or a bad thing?" He looked at me strangely,"I know you better like I said, the way things were back then were under bad circumstances but not anymore, we can interact more." The conversation was longer than that, but I got my apolygizes, and I set boundaries along with letting telling him how I didn't like how he was treating ... MY POINT WAS MADE, and it felt GOOOD 😉

After the discussion, He told me how he wished that we could've met earlier ... he needed someone like me in his life -- yes, I know it was all just a bunch of silly talk but whatever, but it did make me feel good. We continued watching TV along with talking, we have the same sense of humor. Things seemed more content on my part but I did feel him trying to sense what I was thinking but I put a mental wall up -- he had no right trying to prop my mind! I mean, I'm not his woman so he doesn't have a right ... I'm just his buddy ... yeah baby 😉😉😉 He even got personal with me with certain subjects, his hopes and dreams ... which was rare!!! I listened more than I spoke and seemed to absorb my feedback. While taking me home, he confided in me about more personal issues, things that have effected mentally for a while. He instantly became really upset (I had no idea he had such a temper) I managed to calm him a little before leaving him.

Well, in short (believe it or not) that's it. It's really hard to believe the three women he's with doesn't motivate him ... he says that he's his biggiest motivator and he wants MY support too — I really wanted to say that he has more than enough women to get support from other than me (remember I know about them) but that we've ruined our rapport.

If felt like we were starting all over, and then we quickly bonded again ... strange, but I still won't invest any emotions ... NO SIR! If anything, he needs a friend that will guide him along with keep his head out of the clouds and more grounded. I told him that I am not pushing my "hand" to him anymore, but it's there. It's up to him now... he knows my number and he has no trouble getting to my home. THE END 😉 WOW He's a mess, lol!!!

Thank you sb

I'm not a cream-puff after all. lol, I'm proud of myself.

Cappysweetie....I think you chose the high road and I think you should be proud of yourself....but as Brahn said....don't let the experience jade you, your gentle heart is what makes you so special from so many bitter persons walking around like they just sucked on bad lemon.

Actually, I'm sure you wont become like that bc you've showed such good wisdom in the way you've dealt with this tough situation...good going.... 🙂

Thank you for the compliments stardance. Branho0913, I don't want to sound like an idoit but what's a cookiemonster — As far as letting the experience jade ... naaaahhhh! I have too many more experinces to ummmmm ... experience! LOL! As Brahn0913 put it, I've just went though my first "flake job" and think I handle it pretty considering the circumstances. I'm not ruling anything out with this guy because people change and nobody's perfect. BUT!!!! I WILL NOT WAIT FOR HIM, NO SIR! He has demons that he has to get rid of on his own and if I were to get involved with him ... his emotions could distroy me ... and we don't want that 😉 What I discovered Saturday was that "Players ... have feeling to" and that we are the products of the company we keep -- whether it's intensional or unintentional.

Ohhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! Okay Hahahaha, got ya. Thank you sb, I was so clueless to what that meant. Well ... no brahn I will not turn into a ... cookiemonster LOL over this, trust me. Honestly, I've gained more from this experience than I have lost. I just hope I can help him get his head together, that's all. Yes, I've had some moments but now I just feel silly, damn silly as a matter-of-fact! I just wish I felt this way two week ago because now I'm preparing/ cramming for an important exam. It should be a breeze as long as I understand what I'm doing.

WOW! Thank you brahn0913, never looked at it from that point-of-view, you just stopped (in my tracks) me from making another stupid mistake. You're right, I really don't want be a "slave" to my own imagination. But concerning the mental disorder ... yes he does have some actual mental problems (I just failed to realize this until I gotto know him, but it's true, it not an excuse I'm making) along with not liking commitment.

Hell you are right, if he has three different women he should get some support from them LOL!!!!

I will continue being me and I won't "force an atittude" because that would be phony. So if he asks for moral support and help I sould just tell him to ... BE A MAN— Or should I be there to "pick up the pieces"—? If you reply, I will read it after I get home from work 🙂 Thank you again brahn 🙂

**Capgirl* I just want to hug you. You are so precious. I love pastries! Just because I dont like to talk about politics and money doesnt mean I cant. My mother is a Virgo and she's completely self obsorbed....maybe thats where I get it from. I'm admit I'm into myself, but I just love who I am!

Also, I havent had sex since July 2002 so the slut thing is just a fantasy. I only use the cartwheels as entertainment.

I'm a registered independant. I think our president is very funny, I love to listen to him talk. Most of my views tend to lean on the conservative side, but I believe that everyone should have a piece of the pie.

I cant understand why money is an issue with our government when WE MAKE MONEY. They act like it grows on trees, or you can only harvest it once a year. Why is there a deficite (sp), why are people starving. Why cant we just make enough money for everyone to live a decent life.