Dating A Cappy Man

I've been intrigued by a much older Cappy man. I've been reading all these threads on cappy men and I still can't believe the similarities. I am a straightshooter bull that enjoys being chased and pampered. Huh...not with this guy. He mostly shares his "work" experiences with me...and the weird thing is I totally admire him. I haven't a clue on his aim with dating me is because when we are together we have a great time. Yet, he doesn't attempt to call, but he'll text message me (and I'm really slow at texting and don't care for it). I will definately take it slow and easy and enjoy the experience. I've got to agree with the quote I read on here "capricorn men are on their time". So true. As for the cappy I've got my eye on...we'll see. Usually, I walk away at this point because a relationship without an aim seems pointless. I'll tell ya what though....its those times that we are together that leave me mind lingering. I laugh my heart out with this guys...good times.

ST, that is what should matter - enjoying your time with him. Let it flow and let it take its course. I'm a Taurus too and I have a Cappy man pursuing me in his strange way.

LOL...Another victim...welcome

HP-What is your cappy's strange way of persuing you?

It's strange to me, maybe not strange to others. He began pursuing me while I was dating the AquaGuy. He knows I really don't want to date anyone right now, but he'll call every now and then and also text. We'll talk for half hour or so, then I need to go or he needs to go. Then he'll text me with a "hi" and I'll text back. Then I don't hear from him for several days. I don't hold that against him because he knows I'm not looking to dive into anything and he's also been my sounding board with the AquaGuy. He wants to date me, but IMO he lacks being romantic; he's more matter of fact and I've told him that that isn't going to work with me and he just chuckles.

there are other things, but like i said, they may be strange to me, but not to others.

And then when you hit him back with "I have feelings for you", he'll deny all knowledge and let you know that he's "just your friend"..lmao!..Cowards..they are scared of intimacy me thinks..but wrong to generalise..as they aren't all like that..

HP- That whole text message thing is strange to me too. He does that...sends a hello how are you. I respond (like a dummy), and don't hear from him. So here is my question...why does he make an effort— If he has no interest...then let me be. I'll move on, but he sends something out of the blue. And I think...well I'm in no rush to jump into anything either. It is just mind boggling because I have never been through such rollercoaster of "what if's" with any male. I definately don't want a "coward"...maybe I should walk out. I'm really pondering that thought. Its my damn nature to be loyal and patient though. But am I fooling myself with this guy in his late 30's? I just can't understand that either...aren't men at this age suppose to be more diplomatic and experienced and confident? He is with work! Arg! I want to be able to be relaxed not frustrated, and his actions frustrate me.

Scorpios are very loyal and patient too..but then there is a limit to patience and tolerance..and how much your prepared to risk your mindset..It doesn't matter whether they are 25 or 45..they are still the same with their push/pull nature.

Not to discourage you..Just saying how it is with majority of women dealing with Cap men. Then there are some successful ones..Is it early days?

Yes...early days. Its frustrating because I know theres potential. I really don't get obsessive over men. I am not discouraged by your comment...if anything its confirmation that I will not invest emotional time. I will take his actions with the grain of salt and enjoy the ride.

I got a text msg from the Cap about 30 minutes ago asking how my day was. I texted back saying it was fine - asked him to call me instead of texting because I'm charged $ 0.20 for each text message I send and received.

He texts me again saying that would call me soon. I just got another text message from him (after I told him this costs me money!) asking me what I was doing tonight.

I replied back to him "this is not going to work out. if I am going to have a relationship with someone, it won't be with their cell phone!"

We'll see if i hear back. My Taury intuition tells me I'll get a phone call tonight from him asking me WTF was up with my msg...

With regards to text messages, it depends on the kind of text you sent. If its a question your asking, they usually come back because it requires an answer..if your just making a statement sometimes they don't feel the need to answer because well it doesn't require an answer, its just thought provoking. I sent two text messages to him last night, first one he responded to..second one cos it was just a thought he didn't. But he responded this morning..cos he's had time to think about it..You really shouldn't count the time between phone calls and text messages..thats one thing I am glad doesn't worry me.

OH MY HoustonPeach...are we dating the same guy—? I told my cappy the same thing...it went over his head. I said basically I'm not gonna answer his text messages and he needs to call me. Has it stopped? NO!!! lol...
TGW/Cap-I know his work is his life and its a big deal to him. He has invested everything hes got in his business and he works hard. I admire and respect that. I'm frustrated because I don't understand him, and understanding people is what helps to get to know them (for me). I want to get know him, but he barely lets me know anything. And its frustrating because he can communicate. You know I dated a cancer once and he was insecure and didn't communicate because he didn't know how. This cappy knows how...but he won't! So tell me what makes your relationship with your Capricorn work? Are Taurus and Capricorns compatible?

I will say that alot of times I prefer texting myself when I don't want to get pulled into a phone call, so I will rely on texts to convey short thoughts. I think that I would be a bit put off if someone insisted that I pick up the phone and call them, unless they nicely suggested "why don't you give me a call later to chat more on this then." At least your Cap. texts!! My cap. dude who can't communicate also doesn't text... ST... just because the Cap. man can communicate in business relationships or casual interactions doesn't mean he knows how to communicate in a relationship- a romantic, intimate connection relationship. I am slowly learning this... I think...

It sounds like you have a solid relationship w/ your partner. I love that you said you have that mutual respect, and sexual attraction. It so important to have both. I've met so many great guys, but very rarely am I attracted or vice versa I'm attracted and their jerks. So finally I meet one that I'm attracted to and have a sense that he's a "great guy" but I have to chase. I don't know how to chase, quite honestly I'm scared to make moves. I have thought enough about this cap though. I want to know whats going on in any relationship I am in and he likes to leave it ambigious. Thats what he is comfortable with, but not me. So I don't think it will work out. Because I feel that I'm only a "convenient friend" and I'm not going to compromise that. Is it wrong to be old school and want to be persued, asked on a date, asked to be a girlfriend,and then have a kiss or more? I must be living in some bubble. It seems like now a days its okay to backwards you know ...kiss or mess around, and then expect a relationship? I'm sorry but I think I got over the cappy, and now I'm over analyzing a bunch of thoughts. Thanks for all the geniune advice.