i think it's going to depend on the person and how they view live or were treated by someone in the past. Lots of us are afraid to say those words our of fear of rejection or embarrassment. If he said it through text message, to me that means that's his comfort zone and to open up the door for you to say it to him face to face when you are ready to say it
One of the many things I've learned from my Virgo is that they do mirror the one they're with and like to lay low and wait for the other person to make the first move.
My fianc? is tall and skinny. He's 6'1" and about 150. He can put down a cheeseburger and fries easily at times. But then there are other times that he will eat something and it messes with his stomach. It's not that he's a picky eater, it's just that he can have digestove issues (I think I've read that is typical of virgos).
If he says that a card will do, then he means it. Don't pester it come across as desperate to give gim the gift he's been wanting. From what I've learned, the gifts that mean the most are the ones you get them by paying attention to the subtleties, then surprising them with the gift while proving to them that you observe them. This eliminates the need to bug them on what they want because you already know!
As a recently engaged gal to a virgo myself, I first say congrats.
Second, as a world traveler for my job in oil and industry, I have traveled to Egypt, France, and the Congo. I know for a fact that had I jumped two continents in less than 2 weeks time (and in an area such as Egypt that publishes caution and safety concerns for US travelers daily), my passport would have been flagged.
Thought I would share with those of you who might be interested: the Virgo that I've known for a few years and started dating exclusively back in October proposed memorial day weekend. We've been pretty much inseparable since November, we think very much alike, and we are very much in love. The proposal took me by complete surprise but it was a well-planned out and romantic.
From what I know about the Virgo man I've been seeing is they look for perfection, even if they aren't so perfect themselves. If you knew he was going to cook dinner for the two of you and you still went out and got drunk, maybe he took that as a sign of disrespect - I probably would feel disrespected if I made plans with someone and make an effort to do something nice for them and they show up late or don't express gratitude in what I did. Look to his actions and not necessarily his words (at least that's how the Virgo man in my life is) to figure out where you stand with him. If he was in communication with you a lot before this incident and now he's not, chances are he saw something in your behavior that night (or little things leading up to that incident) that he figured he didn't care for.
If he's stood you up 3 times in 3 months and his texts and calls to you are skim, I'd say he lost interest. Personally, I have a hard time understanding how people (especially in today's world) can do long distance relationships. Plus, I think that since you threw the ultimatum at him (not being an option) that he's backed off. And he deleted you off FB? Really? That's passive-agressive and childish. Is this behavior acceptable to you? Is this the kind of things you will be willing to overlook if you date him? I really hope you're stronger willed than that.
I don't understand doing that. I've had the same username since I found this site over 6 years ago. Granted, I don't post every single day on here....in fact, I was probably absent for a good 2-2.5 years before I decided to come back. I'm sure I'll get tired of the cat fights and other pissy behavior and leave again soon, but one never knows...
Hi there. I just wanted to pop in and tell you that I too have a Venus Pisces and the Virgo I'm dating has a Venus Cancer, BUT that's not all to this guy or you. I can't tell you exactly what this guy is thinking based the info you shared. But based on the little you shared, it seems to me that he might be perfectly content with the FWB status. What do you want this guy? Have you expressed any feelings to him? How did you two meet? How long have you known him? How old is he?
Nobody has addressed the military aspect of this. If you're going to be in a relationship with someone in the military, you need to realize that his commitments are not just to his family and friends, but his country. He has enough strict control he has to adhere to in the military that he doesn't need you or someone like you to control or nitpick over things that you may or may not like. He's a grown man, the country trusts him to protect our assets and even gives him authority to use a gun.
One of your quotes:???I've grown up in a yelling environment and he has to.. But he expressed to me that growing up when his mother would yell he would just ignore her so when my voice raises he ignores me. Sometimes that's just how I talk to express myself my tone changes but I'm excited about the topic and I want him to understand and he gets mad because to him all he can hear is loud words and he's not getting the msg. Unhealthy behavior I can explode on people and I have disrespected him with my words. I can dig deep and say hurtful things. I even might threaten you.??
He expressed to you that he shuts down when someone yells because of how his mom was. Take that as a sign that you are reminding him of his upbringing, a negative memory at that!
Another question for you: how often do you see him now? Is your relationship strictly over the phone, email, and text? I think it's time you move on - your relationship with him is toxic and unfortunately, it appears that you made it that way.