do capricorns get revenge when hurt?

there is so much that has happened i dont know if ive explained it very well, basically at one point a month ago he pissed me off so much with being withdrawn, acting cool and disappearing i did abad thing onenight out. i was very drunk and i bumped into him in a club...so unlike me but i basicallygrabbed some other guy and went off with him to the bar -making it look like i had totally dumped my guy for some other! I guess i wanted to say you dont want me someone else will - i was very hurt by his actions and i had put so much effort into us for seemingly no reason, he didnt get mad just walked off.

in the morning i realised i had made a very big mistake and i rung him, he texted back saying what did i want i said im sorry can we talk he said what about that other guy and that i had embarrassed him infront of his mates (very big mistake i now know!) he basically wouldnt talk to me no matter how much i aplogised and tried to explain, he said first that was it no going back now maybe we can be mates, then he said maybe we can work through it. Basically heignored me for a whole week before he rung me and said yes we could work it out but he never wanted to talk about it. And we havent, apart from him throwing it in my face once since. now im also worried hewill get revenge, think he can do what he wants? Im so paranoid now and i know it was a bad thing to do that night, he has moon in aries venus in scorpi and saturn in virgo, dunno if these make much of a difference where fidelity is concerned??

Wow, you probably totally crushed this guy's soul. Cappy men are well known for being cold and hot (public and private). My cap drives me up the wall and back because he doesn't give me enough affection sometimes, we have fought over it several times too...ok, bottom line, caps take FOREVER to warm up to the idea of even depending slightly on someone, and first they need to really, really trust the person they are with, sorry to say that your outbreak probably set your relationship back 1 year. What can you do now? talk to him about how his indifference makes you feel, ( just so you know he might not talk back but at least let him know that you care deeply for him etc). Capricorns aren't for the faint of heart, nothing happens quickly, and everything is on their schedule

Good luck

your fellow Taurus girl

Okay, well .... I'll be the first to admit that when I hurt, it feels like the worst pain. I cannot take feeling like that so I may resort to doing irrational things BUT, if I think before reacting, more then likely I don't do it.

Agree, agree, & agree. (with what WTML and BT said-- and Bt's last paragraph is definitely true, so damn true unfortunately.)

ALLWAYS

oh my god - one year!! i was worried as much...well things were ok for a bit but yeah hes poofed on me again - 3 days last week and then a brief call and then nothing since...what worries me is is it in a cappys nature to get revenge for something like that - i think i read one cap said they wouldnt go sll out to get it but if an opportunity presented itself they might take it? am alot stronger now and realised what i could have lost so would never make same mistake again - would do anything for him but could not forgive it if he cheated.

BT "all ur relation stuff is messed up big time in the cappys mind"

do u mean its messed up now, or was messed up to begin with?

What was your mistake if you don't mind me asking?...I know they don't like to be embarrassed in public but it depends on level of embarrassment and how much he likes you I guess..But an outright revenge..Maybe his poofing is his way of coming to either analysing what was said or coming to terms with it.

thanks CS - will def think before reacting from now on - WTML thanks for realistic advice...have taken note!! x

MM - mistake was i grabbed another bloke and headed off to bar with him - telling my cappy to get lost and i had had enough of his crap for good!! what a bitch huh...!! almost wanted to show him if he didnt want me others would - stupid and immature, was slightly drunk so that didnt help either i know. i think it hurt him alot although he wouldnt say it...he forgave me so guess that shows he cares? this was a month ago, i think hes poofed this week for mainly another reason, his mum has very recently become ill, i said did he wanna talk about it, he said he did but was frightened of me seeing him like this, didnt want to dump his stuff on me. couldnt face me i guess and this is his way of sorting his feelings out - prob may have opened up to me a bit if i hadnt lost his trust by embarrassing and hurting him, am absolutely kicking myself!

MM - forgot to add - when he said i had emvarrasse him, he said i had embarrassed him infront of his mates...thats even worse im guessing then if it were just him!?

"embarrassed" i meant!

"mistake was i grabbed another bloke and headed off to bar with him - telling my cappy to get lost and i had had enough of his crap for good!! what a bitch huh...!!

OUCH & OH DEAR...

One thing my cap friend and I agreed on in the very early days of our conversations..We NEVER embarrass each other in public..Scorpios HATE it and will get revenge..but I can't even begin to imagine how Caps would feel..

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I know I wouldn't like it done to me so I wouldn't dream of doing it to anyone. Regardless of what you may be going through at the time, its all about mutual respect in public. Privately you can argue as much as you like.

If you can get hold of that is..lol..

AH a cappy stalker. every move you make, every step you take, I'll be watching you! revenge is mine sayth the cap.

Taur04~ I did this exact same thing to my Cap. guy and ditched him at a bar to go off to see another guy at a different bar, leaving Cap. w/ my friend who knew what was going on and told him exactly where I went, and why. Drunk and stupid, and friend had partly egged me on and prompted me to run off to the other guy... Anyway, I apologized repeatedly and explained via note, vmail, email, over 3 weeks time... He finally called after 3 weeks of my messages. He never mentioned it or discussed any of it. I tried at one point during the call by saying to him, "Oh admit it, you were mad." And he hung up on me; had to call him back and of course he even then played it off that his signal went dead! LOL Anyway- he'll get over it, is over it probably since he's back talking to you. But yea, after that incident, things were never quite the same...He was more removed, didn't call voluntarily, and had to call him a couple times to get a return call... It wasn't the innocent fun and hot pursuit from him that it had been before this happened. One year setback... that's about right...

omg cap girl - did u stay together then? or because iot was never the same did it eventually become just too much to be patient with someone when things were no longer as good?

ok james tate...what would you have done then if u were my cap - would u have got revenge on me?

MM u are definately right- about mutual respect. i think he has lost alot of respect for me over this...he has started poofing and not responding to my calls of protest and pleas to get bk in touch, before he would communicate alot better...oh no, i can see things arent the same already, exactly how cap girl said it was with her...😢

sb...yeah i know lots of girls who have done it, i have never before but i have had it done to me-my ex actually slept with another woman the night we got back from hol cause he couldnt be bothered to finish it properly and knew i could never take him back! I swore i would never sink that low and hurt anyone like that - it completely broke my heart, but with my cappy i almost wanted him to think i had done something, even though i hadnt, to hurt him for hurting me!! I know that is sick, and i sincerely regret it now and am paying for it already, the alcohol didnt help, god all the things ive done cause of alcohol, was reading about that mel gibson thing today - can totally relate!

Taur04~ my story is all over this board... LOL 😉 It's been... coming up on 2 years since that incident, and we've never been "together" as even remotely dating exclusively~~ it was heading towards that before the incident. Basically, we've been in touch once a month on the average, seeing him like "once a quarter" (every 3 months). I don't know that it's necessarily bc. he wouldn't trust or give me a chance after that... but he was cautious and reserved and walled off; I took that as uninterested perhaps and was just generally annoyed w/ his lack of communication, so I kept being a bitch... and he kept being unavailable. Vicious circle caused my mutual insecurities I believe.

another thing, caps are attached to their families more than most people so his mother being ill is going to wreck havoc with his mental state. I know many cappy men and they love, love, love their mothers, in fact this may be why they have such a hard time with women (who knows--any ideas?) One of my friends parents are cap and Taurus, since divorced, the kicker was when his mom died, he just fell deep into himself and stop caring about everyone else except for his sorrow. You could get him to talk about othe things, or listen to music together, something to get his insanly stubborn and focused mind off his mother's illness.

My cap has never really disappeared on me, but he does get catch up in things and it either slips his mind or he doesnt know I want him to call me...so I told him, please call me and check in, and he does. I can not stress this enough Capricorn enjoys debate and face-to-face directness, really, he will respect you for asking for respectful things.

Well my cap friend must be an exception. Although he cares about her, he doesn't have a very good relationship with her. He's not close to her at all. He told me during a phone conversation. He said I probably know more about him than his mother. Some caps have open contempt for their families, and with these ones, I think they are looking for a wifey who would replace a mother.

No that is very true.

I never stalk I would just disapear

Yeah your good at those disappearance acts aren't you.

Hows Canterbury? hows the boozer?

Dam drink nazi, I'll have you know I am not a boozer I am a connoisserur of the finer singel malt liquor scotch whisky

Canterbury is still canterbury. same ol same ol.