Do you need to know what your mate is thinking?

I'm a cap. Believe it or not, we have insecurities that we will never admit. We worry. That's probably the gist of it. I am always wondering what my bf is thinking, (he's an Aqua and I would like more reassurances), but I don't ask.

Could also be we are sensitive to other's feelings and body language and he could have thought you had something on your mind that was bothering you and gave you an opening to talk about it if you needed or wanted to.

When he said you should only be thinking about him, he was probably teasing - in the dry way we have. We hope the other half only thinks about us! 🙂

When I was younger, I was much more insecure and would ask my bfs this question. Nowadays, IF I'm asking it, I'm just idly curious. I'm not sure if I've ever asked my bf what he was thinking.

I try to take people at face value more. I feel people should be trusted to be mature enough to say what's on their mind if it is necessary. If they aren't... well then it's guaranteed to be a problem they'll have to face out loud later. If not, then the problem must have solved itself and thats a good thing.

There's no pushing my bf. He's a very open and honest guy, I know he'll speak up when he's ready. He actually used to ask me what I was thinking a lot. I always thought it was cute. Now, we're at the point where we can count on the communication we've built to get things out and open. Not to mention that he and I know each other well enough where we don't have to ask or say what's going on in our heads. Half the time we already know.

Leo, how long did you see your cap? I forgot. Don't feel bad about opening up. Be who you are and don't get so guarded that the next guy won't be able to get in. You're a sweet, loving person and someone will appreciate you. You'll just have to find them! I know its not easy after being hurt. I've been hurt too. Badly - by my Gem ex-husband. And then what do I do, but get involved with an Aqua - now they don't share! And I have to keep my insecurities in check. But, I keep telling myself that not every guy is like that, don't blame the male race because of a few bad apples, etc. Just don't give up!!!! There are a lot of great men out there. Unfortunately, they have baggage just like we all do. Dating was much easier when we were younger - but then, the guys were all immature! lol 🙂

I laughed at "You should only be thinking of me" lol.


I've been known to wonder what's on a persons mind when they are quiet.

I don't ask.. the answer would probably be one or more of the following - Boobs, Beer, Is It Naptime Yet?, Snowmobiles, Boobs, Sex, Man I'm Hungry, Boobs, Sex, Boobs, Bacon!, What's On TV?, My Balls Itch, Boobs.

^^I read that to Libra. He nodded emphatically and admiringly.

I Am a Cap with a Virgo moon. I am sure i have alot of "TRAITS" the others have. But. Any sign. Moon or Sun and even Rising. Can just be a regular ol' douche nozzle 🙂 I would NEVER raise my voice at my woman,or any woman for that matter. That is NOT very gentleman like. Certainly isn't in my nature. On the other hand of your question. I do LIKE to know what my woman is thinking,even more so if she is quiet. Why? Because she is a chatter box. Always talking about something she saw,did,or heard. So if she is quiet. Than i think she must be mad at me or something/someone. Its my job to find out and either A) Fix it. OR B) Cheer her up till she feels better.

Thank you WoundedLeo. I agree. If my mama taught me anything, she taught me that. If the woman ain't happy. YOU ain't happy! So in my kingdom. The woman stays happy. 😉

Cute WoundedLeo. Ha! Seriously. I wouldn't trade my Cancer for anything in the world. All i ever wanted was a family,and a good girl to love me. I Got it. I am VERY happy with it too. 😉 And yea. My mom was the BEST. She was my BEST friend. She died of lung cancer 2 years ago,because she was misdiagnosed with bronchitis.

You don't know how bad i wanted to beat the doctor. They told her in 5 months she had bronchitis. If they looked the first time for it. They could of saved her life. She was my best friend. and now she is gone. My cancer took a photo of her. Her urn,and some collectibles my mom collected. And put them all on a shelf in her memory. That made my entire year.

My mom nagged me for YEARS to settle down and meet a nice girl. I never did. Now i have a great girl and a great family. And she is not alive to see it. That's what bothers me the most.