female gem::male cap

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16 YearsGemini

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hi all, i've been reading your forum trying to gain some enlightenment on your capricorn personalities/characteristics since i am, i mean i was, seeing a cappie. i've been trying to find information on the gemini/cap compatability but have yet to find anything. it is neither here nor there. i'm finding that when they list which signs caps are both compatible with as well as incompatible with, gemini is hardly ever listed, and if it is then they dont specifically say anything either good or bad. any experiences with gems any of you may have had, positive or negative, i would be interested in hearing about, am interested in some personal opinions about gems from your personality standpoint. maybe it will help me understand some of the problems we had between us.. as many have said here before, at almost a year of seeing eachother he disappeared..desperate to him back is all : \
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16 YearsGemini

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it's no wonder we geminis get such a bad rap for being flirts and cheaters not to mention fickle.. but believe me we are not all alike. i can honestly say i am a 'good girl' with my caps best interests in mind and i've done just about everything under the sun to prove it to him.. but i completely understand the power of a stereotype. for the record tho i do think male geminis unfortunately are much worse about acting out the way yours did.. i think the thing that i am finding it hardest to understand about my cap lover is why, if he feels something for me(hypothetically assuming), then what about disappearing makes sense in any way? how can someone deprive themselves of something so real? doesn't anyone care about love anymore?
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16 YearsGemini

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my mistake ,but even still, he was cheating on someone and that is not an admirable characteristic..gems & caps are different but i think the differences are the best part..it's what you each contribute that makes you a whole : ) ..i'm a notoriously impatient person but my cap has taught me quite a bit already about patience..and i agree that generally when someone withdraws it's because they are no longer interested but my cap is confusing me..when we first met we were together every day. it was probably the happiest time of my life. somewhere along the way things became less frequent and he stopped needing me as much. he wasnt in the best circumstances when we met and still kind of isnt (not relationship wise, he was unattached),and being the non judgemental person i am i saw thru his situation and saw him for who he is..meaning i gave endlessly to him.sometimes it was to the point of personal sacrifice. i was always there when he was in need. and now that i really really think about it, i gave so much that it's making me angry that he could do this to me now.i've read that caps test people.. but wasnt that the test? being there when he needed it...giving it when i didnt have it to give. that's my idea of love. always unconditional.. i have NEVER in my life met anyone like him. he makes me want to be all the things i dont think i can be. nobody has ever captivated me this way.it is profound.. i was really thinking things over and i realize he started retreating immediately after i asked him if he was seeing anyone else. bad move i suppose.lol.but do remember i am a gemini, so if i need to know something i'm going to ask. he said no.but the next day he changed his phone number and has been changing it on a consistent basis ever since. at first he would notify me when he did & keep me current on his new number but then it came to the point i'd find out he changed it only after i attempted to call him.usually he'd call up a few days later from a new number. now communication is completely gone and he doesnt call me at all. no txts no email. nothing. like none of it mattered at all..and i am devestated.i know he felt our connection.that i do not doubt.it was too real for him not to have. besides, if it wasnt real for him i dont think he would have brought me into his circle. i know all of his friends. i know where they all live. i know where they all work. i've met his dad. and i've supported both his career and his daughter,tho i've never met her, which i
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completely understand..oh and i dont mention i know where all his friends live like i'm some crazy stalker girl. i just mean to say that thats a lot of info for someone you really arent interested in to have about you and all of the important people in your life..i know gems/caps can work..my bff is a cap, and it so happens her fiance is a gem..not only that but one of my cappy's really good friends is a gem too.coincidence? i think not..i would not have done any of the things i've done for him for anyone else. and i never asked for anything in return, except a little bit of honesty and consideration.. i love who he is, as he is.. could it be that maybe he is afraid of how he feels about me? and if so what could i further do to make him believe in me like i believed in him? any advice?
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he did indeed inspire me.and it very well could have been a situation i was not aware of, tho he was pretty open about his life with me, intimate things you wouldnt necessarily tell just anyone you've just met..the life lesson here i have learned. i will never love someone without making sure they know, consequences be damned.because i cant live with not knowing.even if it makes them run away from me..i spent so much time looking for someone to love ME..but i found someone that I loved, which is by far better. more painful too..thanx for your opinion..but despite being a gemini i will remain patient and continue hoping because he told me he didnt like people who give up..
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Posted by Archer
meaning i gave endlessly to him.sometimes it was to the point of personal sacrifice. i was always there when he was in need. and now that i really really think about it, i gave so much that it's making me angry that he could do this to me now.i've read that caps test people.. but wasnt that the test?
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it may very well be.. for you to demonstrate that YOU respect YOU more than him. and that is what he wanted to see.. or rather 'that' would have made him stay............. This 'admiration' and 'looking UP to you' is a big aphrodisiac for caps. They gotta be able to be ''in awe of you''... and this should be repeatedly confirmed..

hi archer.
the thing is that i actually did that, the very last time he called me in fact..i hadnt heard from him in a while and i got a call kind of late from a number i didnt recognize.. long story short is he asked me to do something for him and i told him no, and not because i didnt want to rush out of the house at 1am to go do whatever he needed me to do because i was almost desperate to see him, but because i was mad that he is aware of how i feel and completely disregards it time after time only to show back up when he needs something.what about what i need? my point tho was that i said no.he tried to get me to say yes, but i didnt. i wasnt mean about it.i just said no..and like i said, it was the last time he called me.

on the subject of emotional display.... hmmm.. I can tell you a couple of things picked from cap friend (male)

*- "Smothering expression without much input from me, makes me take it as 'fickle' and 'duping tactic' ..like a heavily madeup woman with layers of dramatic makeup, so to speak"

***i'm not sure i understand this one..how can cappies be so passionate and not understand how another has a need to express their own? if i dont then it becomes toxic and i cant function.

and

*- "one should always hold a part of him/herself from being given totally.. so that you CAN think.. OH I could really love him/her more a tiny notch up,, but you do not"

***the thing is that eventho i did tell him how i felt about him there was a lot i didnt tell him.i admit i was very distant about personal stuff.afraid to expose myself completely to him i suppose. he told me he loved me first, as i was walking out the door after a really long intense night, and i just looked at him and i
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Posted by Archer
if he ever tries to contact you.......... he will........... try to let your EVIL twin take control... and trust me.. he 'll be your slave...

kick his ass and dont give an inch
try it...

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..but i've been working extra hard to keep that bish hidden.lol.i think i will try it tho, i dont have anything left to lose really..obviously i taught him to treat me in a less than ideal manner and now i have to establish some boundaries should he ever come back..but i can't lie, i will enjoy it a little bit 0: )