First Cappy Experience: What Does His Behavior Mean??

So this is my first time being in love with a Capricorn. Confused about some things; will do my best to explain.

We started as friends a few months ago. Then one night after work he took me to the park, was our first time hanging out outside of work. He tried to get me to open up and talk to him by playing 21 questions lol. I was really shy and was terrible at talking and expressing myself. But we had a great time. We looked at the stars. First time we kissed. Stayed out past sunrise. He was like, "why do the girls I date never do stuff like this? Why do I have to do this with my best friend?"

Well we hung out a few times after that. Its important to note that my ex stilled lives with me; complicated situation I won't go into. My ex is still moving out as of next week. Anyway. So my Cappy and I seemed to be getting closer. We are getting more physical though still no sex; according to a mutual friend, my cappy was waiting bc he knows I have had some negative experiences in the past with sex and didnt want to make me feel that way again.

Then I make the mistake one night of asking does he like me. He says he doesnt think he likes me as much as I like him. He also says a lot of other confusing and contradictory things. But this is also when I finally learn what happened with his last gf. Things were going great with them for months or so he thought. Then she just stopped talking to him outta the blue. No warning, no explanation. That reeeeally impacted him. He doesnt come right out and say it, but I know he has low self esteem in the area of relationships and in belieiving someone could be sincere in liking him. He wants a relationship but I also think he is scared to consider one, not just with me.

Well. Fast forward a couple months. We would still talk, text, hang out when possible, though we cant really hang out a lot till my ex moves out. I have all these people saying they think he likes me but he insists he doesnt love me in the same way I love him. We did finally have an opportunity to have sex a couple of times. I am the first girl he has had sex with since his gf and that was at least 8 or 9 months ago. Our mutual friend said he confided in her that he regrets a lot of the past people he has slept with bc its supposed to be something special and the only time it really meant anything to him was with his gf and that went horribly wrong.

So I am just like why is he having sex with ME?? Am I also this regret or mistake to him?? Is it possible he could someday open up and get over his fears and develop real feelings for me?? I am curious if anything changes once my ex is finally out. Right now, me and my Cappy seem stuck in that cycle of we seem to get close and then he pulls back. I am getting used to it and freaking out less about it. But...I am just wondering anyone's opinions on the situation. He is a great guy that anyone would be lucky to have if they can get him to open up. But those walls are built thick arond his hear

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Stop the FWB. Don't even be his friend. Matter of fact, he isn't your friend -- don't give him that honor.

Harsh dude. How do you figure he isn't even a friend?? I didn't really share all of his personality, character, etc. Explain in more detail please what you mean.

^^ this is why I don't post often

Hey I am not judging you for having a harsh opinion. Was just curious as to your further thoughts.

Posted by Chasmira1060
Harsh dude. How do you figure he isn't even a friend?? I didn't really share all of his personality, character, etc. Explain in more detail please what you mean.

Because friends don't interfere with your other relationship.
Because friends don't have sex with their friends.
Because friends don't string you along.
Because friends respect us and don't confuse us.
Because friends don't screw up friendships with sex.
Because friends show us their whole personality.
Because friends don't jeopardize a work relationship.
Because friends show us their entire personality.
Because friends allow us to see their character traits.

I remember you previous posts, OP.

This level of confusion has been going on a long, long time.

"He says he doesnt think he likes me as much as I like him."

Listen to him.