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Friends to Relationship
uhm...friends definitely. Because that way you really get to know them properly. I feel like there's so much more to friendship that each of you can learn from each other. The minute I kinda like a guy and I just jump into a relationship with you,without taking my time, im not planning on staying long.lol can't believe I just said that, but yeah, friendship is so much better*
Mmm okay because there is this cap girl I met about two weeks ago while we were both out at a club. She pursued me that night. Anyway we ended up staying until the club closed (she didnt want to leave me) and we ended up going back to my house, her, me and her 2 friends.
Nothing happened that night other than kissing and hugging (she was keen to take it further but I didnt want to be rude and lock ourselves in my room while her friends were outside) so nothing happened. We didnt exchange numbers either but that night we met one of my friends I was with took one of her friends' number.
The next day I was thinking about her and thought it would be good to see her again (we have a lot of mutual friends in common but her and I had never met). So I had to go through friends of friends of friends to eventually get her number. Took me 4 days but I got it and text her and we text all that week. She said she was "quite flattered" about how I went about getting her number and she was glad I made the effort.
So saturday rolls around again (1 week after we met), and she wanted to see me and do something but I was busy so I said I couldnt and so she decided to go out with her friends. Turns out around 11pm my friends and I decided to go out as well and funny enough we were heading to a club which was next door to the club she was going to. So I text her telling her I decided to go out and she asked if she would be seeing me etc and seemed pretty happy that she would be seeing me. Anyway so we text through the night and we met up outside the clubs we were at for a cigarette and to chat a bit.
We were sitting on a bench infront of the clubs and she sat really close to me the whole time, and was sort of holding my hand. Anyway I had met her friends that she was with the first night I met her and there were 2 new friends which she introduced me too. So turns out my friends and her friends all wanted to call it a night. One of their friends who got picked up by some guy wanted them to go back to their house (they lived down the road from the club) and continue drinking and partying. This cappy invited me and my friend to go to that guy's place with them. So I suggested to drop the guys and her and her friends come back to my place and we party there so they agreed and the capp was driving so we all drove back home together.
We get back to mine and her two friends went to sleep in my living room on my sofa bed.
Nothing happened that night other than kissing and hugging (she was keen to take it further but I didnt want to be rude and lock ourselves in my room while her friends were outside) so nothing happened. We didnt exchange numbers either but that night we met one of my friends I was with took one of her friends' number.
The next day I was thinking about her and thought it would be good to see her again (we have a lot of mutual friends in common but her and I had never met). So I had to go through friends of friends of friends to eventually get her number. Took me 4 days but I got it and text her and we text all that week. She said she was "quite flattered" about how I went about getting her number and she was glad I made the effort.
So saturday rolls around again (1 week after we met), and she wanted to see me and do something but I was busy so I said I couldnt and so she decided to go out with her friends. Turns out around 11pm my friends and I decided to go out as well and funny enough we were heading to a club which was next door to the club she was going to. So I text her telling her I decided to go out and she asked if she would be seeing me etc and seemed pretty happy that she would be seeing me. Anyway so we text through the night and we met up outside the clubs we were at for a cigarette and to chat a bit.
We were sitting on a bench infront of the clubs and she sat really close to me the whole time, and was sort of holding my hand. Anyway I had met her friends that she was with the first night I met her and there were 2 new friends which she introduced me too. So turns out my friends and her friends all wanted to call it a night. One of their friends who got picked up by some guy wanted them to go back to their house (they lived down the road from the club) and continue drinking and partying. This cappy invited me and my friend to go to that guy's place with them. So I suggested to drop the guys and her and her friends come back to my place and we party there so they agreed and the capp was driving so we all drove back home together.
We get back to mine and her two friends went to sleep in my living room on my sofa bed.
Her and I rolled out my other one and we were laying on it. We didnt do anything sexual other than kiss and touch here and there although we both really wanted to and admitted it to each other we didnt do anything (again her friends were there). We spent the whole time from 4am when we got home until 11am when they left talking. She opened up a lot about her past etc and told me really personal deep things... I in turn didnt open up as much as her but told her some personal things etc. We spoke about how we are emotionally etc and we agreed we were both similar in that department as we both do not like showing our emotions etc and we are somewhat reserved when it comes to that. Anyway she said at one point (while hugging and looking at me in the eye) "i love it how you make me laugh so much". I thought that was cute. Anyway she told me about her most recent ex etc etc and promised and swore on her life that she was completely over her etc.
If you havent caught on yet, were both girls lol. She is lesbian and im new to the whole scene although im bi. Anyway she asked me how long I had been gay for (she assumed I was a les) I told her a year and she was really shocked and said she thought I had been gay for longer since I was so comfortable and good at well.. being gay I guess LOL. So she said "I have a lot to teach u" and "maybe you can teach me a few things". Anyway so we just spent the morning hugging, talking, kissing and just snuggling up together. Her mates woke up and she told them she couldnt believe she had told me such personal things and had been so open and that she should have kept her mouth shut. Anyway so they leave etc. SHe text me like 45mins after they had left my house and we continued texting the whole of sunday. She asked me during out texting on sunday when we were seeing each other again and I told her I didnt know but I wanted it to be this week, she said she wanted the same.
So Monday rolls around and she texts me asking how my day was etc, telling me what she got up to and then asking if I was free on Wednesday as she was going out with her friends and wanted me to come. So I told her id come and she was like "great cant wait its going to be a really good night" I asked her why she thought it would be so good and she replied with "it will be good because your coming".
If you havent caught on yet, were both girls lol. She is lesbian and im new to the whole scene although im bi. Anyway she asked me how long I had been gay for (she assumed I was a les) I told her a year and she was really shocked and said she thought I had been gay for longer since I was so comfortable and good at well.. being gay I guess LOL. So she said "I have a lot to teach u" and "maybe you can teach me a few things". Anyway so we just spent the morning hugging, talking, kissing and just snuggling up together. Her mates woke up and she told them she couldnt believe she had told me such personal things and had been so open and that she should have kept her mouth shut. Anyway so they leave etc. SHe text me like 45mins after they had left my house and we continued texting the whole of sunday. She asked me during out texting on sunday when we were seeing each other again and I told her I didnt know but I wanted it to be this week, she said she wanted the same.
So Monday rolls around and she texts me asking how my day was etc, telling me what she got up to and then asking if I was free on Wednesday as she was going out with her friends and wanted me to come. So I told her id come and she was like "great cant wait its going to be a really good night" I asked her why she thought it would be so good and she replied with "it will be good because your coming".
Then I asked her what if she got picked up by other girls and she said that that wouldnt happen because she knows most of the crowd at this place. Reason I asked was because I was trying to fish out if she wanted me there as her DATE or we were going as just FRIENDS and I was free to mingle etc and her also.
This is the second time she invites me out with her friends and seems eager for me to come.
Oh and also while we were at my house after the club I asked her "why are you here" and she replied with "because I.. I like you" lol. That was cute as well! The way she said it.
Anyway so I basically want to know.. I mean I know she likes me but is this just a situation where its like "oh i like you but i'll be your friend and nothing more" or is it usual behaviour for cappies to like someone and want to turn whoever they have feelings for into a relationship?
This is the second time she invites me out with her friends and seems eager for me to come.
Oh and also while we were at my house after the club I asked her "why are you here" and she replied with "because I.. I like you" lol. That was cute as well! The way she said it.
Anyway so I basically want to know.. I mean I know she likes me but is this just a situation where its like "oh i like you but i'll be your friend and nothing more" or is it usual behaviour for cappies to like someone and want to turn whoever they have feelings for into a relationship?
Posted by Chance11
nats-cappies don't usually do the casual relationship thing unless they're young like amey or drunk (like amey):p.. so it's probably real..sounds like she was pretty direct and we mean what we say
Aha.. I thought so but I was a little hmmmm because she was being so open and seemed interested so soon etc. Her actions and her words matched but thought it too fast for a cap.
I appreicate your reply. Thank u 🙂
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