frustration...

ah, well, the Virgo in my life is not what I imagined a Virgo would be (call me dumb if you must). He's critical beyond belief and thinks that I am less than I am. In Virgo style , he's always trying to "fix" me. But the things he is trying to "fix" is who I am as a person. My beliefs, my open mindedness, are somehow construed as as negative. NO, my open mindedness is not only who I am, it is the way others should be. How can someone go on in life with blinders?

As Caps we have our ways, we see thing often times in black and white, and I'll admit I do, but I don't wear blinders!!!

Girl, why are you still dealing with him?

You know how we Cappies are if we tell someone what to do and they don't listen, and we all told you to leave him alone!

btw, him not accepting you is not surprising. I find that people consider us to be close-minded, but yet others don't accept how we are when I think Caps are very accepting. We are highly irritable, but very accepting.

@Inana, I'm not in a sexual/romantic relationship with him anymore. We do have investments together and operate a business together, so interacting with him is a must. And he is living in my house, but he sleeps in the spare bedroom. I see him mostly at the barn anymore.

I just don't get how they go on in life picking everything apart, the constant nagging is very unbecoming. And it's not just me, he does it to almost everyone and usually when criticizing others he's going on about he's so much better, it's very nerve wracking! The man is 50 years old, he needs to just grow up!!

I said he was a Narcissist when you first started posting about him but anyways dealing with an N or a man with N tendencies you'll have to let him be right, pretend you are changing into what he wants and go be yourself around everyone else, you'll never do anything right in his eyes, trying to release yourself from the business deals (if you decide you've had enough) will be torture unless you have a really excellent cunning lawyer that will have no problem ripping him a new one through loopholes in the law and put the fear of God in him from the start, if not he'll most likely fight you all the way b/c his ego will have to be right no matter what.

" It'd probably take months/years of carful planning to not go down with him together in the end lol"

So true...

I feel for her b/c it won't be an easy transition getting out of the relationship and business deals, he's in her home too, boy oh boy.

My lot in life is a Virgo. I have umpteeth relatives, some BFFs and even my two top bosses are all Virgos. Not to mention it is also my rising sign. LOL Anyway, my grandfather is a Virgo and my grandmother is a Cap. They are the epitome of the "War of the Roses" in that he talks to her at times like she's the one with her head in the sand about life. Hilarious right? From my experience, Virgos are hard-headed know-it-alls who are just as fixed as their astological sign claims them to be. Yes, they can be smart, wise, etc. in many things when it comes to business and such but I find that those I know tend to be made fools of just because their narcissim leads them astray especially when they do not listen to one who DOES know what they are talking about. In my family, I ALWAYS put my money on grandma. LOL

if your starsign is making you develop a fault its easy to reverse.

For example if you have critical energy seeking perfection (like your virgo friend) you can channel that into working on perfecting being critical of perfectionism..You can see the perfect state as a non judgemental and none fretting fussing space then strive for perfection and become endlessly critical of the judgemental fussy mind itself

aS CAPRICORN i STRIVE TO BE competitive about becoming loose with my wallet, unambitious, positive, unstubborn and untraditional, relaxed and imperfect.

If he is a narcissist then I would absolutely not allow him access to your computer or any of your private mail or documents around your home. They gather information and use it against you, because they are always aware that sooner or later, you're going to want to be rid of them. Being around him will make you crazy to the point you probably won't be able to function in the way you need to be able to function, in order to eradicate it from your life for good.

Tell him you have been diagnosed with something contagious and life threatening if you want him out the house of his own free will. They hate being around sick people and usually find somewhere else to be, real fast.

Actually something contagious and life threatening could be telling him "honey, guess what, I just realised I'm not a Capricorn, I'm a Cancerian."

:-)

"Tell him you have been diagnosed with something contagious and life threatening if you want him out the house of his own free will. They hate being around sick people and usually find somewhere else to be, real fast."

++1

LMFAO!! So true

That would clearly have him running for the hills... he's weirded out by any possible germ/contaminant; over the top weirded out!!

I have gotten myself into quite the conundrum. As for him moving out, financially it is best if he doesn't. My sanity, that's another thing! But, I've been spending most of my spare time elsewhere, so that eases things a little (on both of us). He has talked about moving out though. In any case, he will go back to FL in a few months and we operated very smoothly business wise when he was away this last winter, so I'm not ready to cut my losses just yet.

Good luck lildol...maybe the distance will do you both some good when he goes back to FL.

Thanks Tiki and everyone else that chimed in. If he hadn't moved in things probably would have been fine - less stressful anyway. We're still cordial and can separate business from anything that was personal (if it ever really was, or was it a game/manipulation on his part? That's rhetorical! I think I know the answer).

I do want to say thanks though, I always appreciate your input!