gemini not sure about cappy?..hmm

Alright I just read the post about another gemini girl who wrote about her cappy & the text messaging & my story is similar! lol.

So theres this cappy i've been 'speaking' to for about 4 years. Yes, FOUR years. lol. I met him through a friend of mine who is also a gemini and used to someone he knew. Anyway, so bla bla she was on the phone one day and he was there and they made us talk lol anyway he asked for my number etc etc we started talking over the phone.
We've been speaking over the phone and texting for yep, 4 years AND we've never seen each other in person. His seen photos of me etc and he knows my friend but him and I have never met. Anyway, this guy isnt someone im in love with or anything close to but his just a guy, an aquaintance I guess that I feel as though I've known for a long time. Anyway, i've never seen a photo of him.. no actually I have he sent me one but because his only EVER sent me one and he doesnt have anything like facebook or myspace etc no form of 'communication' other than mobile I've never known what he looked like. He's sent me photos of his body like not naked but you know of his chest, etc lol anyway im weary about believing if its REALLY him. So I used to nag him alot to meet up with me during the first year or two of taling and it just never happened and I guess I got over it but I never told him to F OFF out of my life. Just never felt the need to.

He seems mysterious, like I dont know I get the feeling his hiding sh*t but then sometimes when we talk he can be soooo sweet lol and boring too! So lately for the past couple of months we've been in contact again. He comes in and out of my life. Sometimes I wont hear from him in forever, and then he'll come back full force making contact everyday. So yea since i've been over with my pisces ex, his coming back into the picture and we speak pretty much everyday although not really on the phone (my choice) mainly over texts.
His like really sweet in the things he says and lately his been starting to say that he wants to see me soon and when I say yea lets plan something he actually wants to and is eager. He'll contact me during the day while im at work and at night when i get home all the time, constantly. His told me in the past 2 weeks that he 'likes' me. At first I said to him something along the lines of "so maybe I make you feel that way & so easily because you like me, because you've got feelings for me" and he replied something like

"yea u must be right i think i do".

And we flirt ALOT etc and call each other baby babe etc etc like nicknames. Anyway so tonight we were texting and I was trying to end it so I was like

me: big fat sloppy mwa 🙂
him: mwa on for ur tetas

and tetas in spanish means boobs (tetas was my nickname in high school lol)

me: Dickhead.
him: haha knew u werent going to like that
me: lol well i guess u kno me 2 well. u prob already figured i hate been seen as a 'sex object' I have a brain buddy!
and a really intelligent one if i must say 🙂
him: im not trying to take u for that. mwa i know u are i can tell u are intelligent and mature thats why im attracted
to u
me: well im glad u see me that way. i like the way u are too. if we met in person i kno we'd get along really well
him: we will baby mwa

I didnt reply. Then an hour later he starts texting me again. lol.

anyway so my question is whats up with this guy?? Is this capricorn behaviour?

I've never really gone out of my way for this guy in regards to anything I mean I saw it as pointless and i STILL do but im just curious because I have a cappy nephew and a guy I used to date and I've read that they are really closed off, dont talk about their feelings much, and they are shy and this guy has told me he hasnt come to see me because he is "shy" & im chasing a venus in cappy person and they are hard to get through to emotionally!!

Huh??@Anyway, i've never seen a photo of him....Please don't take this the wrong way but what is up with that? Seems a bit odd not to at least see a photo of the guy.

Nothings up with him, he could be big fat creepy bald hairy man, he could be married for all you know, seems he's doing what he always has done, come in and out of your life...if he's doing that then he most likely doesn't really want anything serious but then again how do you know he's truly a Capricorn (you haven't seen a picture so why believe anything he says), seems like the casual type that passes thru when he feel like it.

Were did you meet this guy on Craig's list or some sex dating site?

too weird

AGREED STRONGLY with both above!!!!

Honey dear child Gemini.......lol I would of lost interest within the first month. This guy is probably married or in a relationship and don't want you to know anything. He gains your attention when things go bad with what he is currently in for some reassurance. Youre not on his facebook bc he probably has pics of wife and children.

I really don't know how you do it. Thats some crazy crap. I would say let it go...but 4 yrs with a guy you haven't even seen. How weird and kind of creepy.

Posted by amethyst2002

Posted by justSophs
Youre not on his facebook bc he probably has pics of wife and children.

She said he doesn't have either a Myspace or Facebook.

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What I am saying Amesthyst is, he probably has one but doesn't want her to know about it bc he probably have a wife and kid and it reflects on his profile.

I am not attacking this girl but isn't a bit strange. But different strokes for different folks I guess.

Me neither...just too weird. :-)

Okay I appreciate everyones replies but I just need to clear somethings.

First of all, I KNOW his not a creepy old bald man with kids lol. Okay my friend used to date here and there one of his friends right and he used to be over his mate's place sometimes and my friend and her guy would be on the phone to each other and sometimes id be there as well so once they put mr cappy on the phone and my friend was like talk to him talk to him his really nice etc, so i was like okay and so we spoke then he asked my mate for my number afterward and then he started to ring me.

Secondly, yes I do trust my friend and she IS trustworthy and believe me when I say we've searched up and down for fotos on him and NOTHING. Her and the guy she was dating ended on bad terms not long after me and the cappy started to talk. So its not like we could ask the guy she was dating to send us fotos etc.

And thirdly, I highly doubt he is married or in a relationship.

Anyway like I said in my first post I think it was, im not in love with him, have any interest on having anything stable/or serious with him. Honestly his just another of the many guys in my life that come and go. Im not phased by him or anything at all, I dont even have feelings for him in the slightest. The way he comes in and out of my life when he wants to, its the same for me. I'll ring or text him whenever im bored etc want to talk to someone and no one is around of im sick of my friends and guys so i'll contact him. Im not complaining about the way are and act im just curious because his starting to say he likes me etc so im just like waiiiitttt.... i've spoken to you for 4 years and NOW you say this? I asked him once before why he does dissapearing acts and he said that its because HE always makes contact with me, I never look for him so he feels as though im not interested so he dissapears and waits for me to come and get him.. lol

Anyway so yea I dont feel as though im wasiting my time with him because we have NOTHING to waste time on. Its not like im going out of my way for him to see him or speak to him. Nope nothing like that.
But yes I have to agree with all of you that the whole no picture sending IS shady and its weird etc and makes me super suss on him and thats why I dont put energy into him because I just see it as pointless.

Anyway I appreciate all your thoughts and comments and believe me I agree with pretty much everything you all said but like I said im just curious

My friend has spoken to him before on a few occasions so thats how I know his not some creepy bastard lol.

Yea dont worry IF i do meet up with him then it will be somewhere around my area (we live about 30mins apart) and I will deff have some of my girls nearby just in case anything bad goes down.

But seriously, I dont get the feeling that his a creep and yes I know the whole situation is weird and creepy lol. If someone else had posted this and I was an outsider reading id be like GIRRRLLLLL GET RID OF HIM!!! lol its always different when it happens to YOU.

Anyway, yea. 🙂

Na shes never actually MET him nope.

Yea your right about the red flags but they never really phased me BECAUSE I was never interested in him in a romantic sense. To me, he was just 'another guy' you know that comes and goes.

Yea thats true and your both right. I guess im just really careless. See with me, If I dont have an interest in you then I dont take into consideration of the red flags etc because I just dont see them as important because I dont care about you but yea I understand what you girls are saying and I appreciate the comments!